PUA Forum :: I Want Her So Bad... Can I Do It?

Hey guys, my name is Justin Ngo, I'm a 22 year old Asian- American. I've only recently been discovering places like these and I'm wondering of some people like you guys can help me out!

I'm a recently graduated college student and I've been working at this clinic for sometime now. There's a girl there who's my age (I'm 22 she's 21) and we've known each other for about 3 months.

I saw her at the clinic but didn't talk, and then I saw her at a local club as well but didn't get the chance to speak to her.

The next day I told her I saw her, but she spoke in terse statements and didn't seem too willing to talk.

The day afterwards, I struck up another conversation, and while she seemed nervous, she did ask me if I had a girlfriend, which I told her no. She smiled at this, which I noted with pleasure.

I saw her again at the club and I bought her a drink, but she only stayed to chat 5 minutes afterwards and then left. I don't know if I'm overanalyzing, but I want to win her heart a lot!

I gave her my number and its been 3 days. What can I do to know what she is thinking, and what should I do to know what she wants and communicate what I want to do?

There was some stuff like this subliminalpersuasionbook. c o m /fractionation-seduction-steps/ that I've been reading to understand what she wants and to exert, I suppose, some control, but I don't know if I can really do this? Is that sort of small emotion reading stuff going to help?

Sorry if I missed anything important, this is my first time on the site. Thanks guys.

Yeah I guess you're right. But at least I want to be sensitive to her reactions and body language of course.

It's so heartless though to be some guy who acts like he has so many options. Shouldn't I at least show that I'm willing to make time for her and focus on her, not act like some pimp?

Quote:

Nawwwwwww bruh u got it all wrong. Take it from a guy like me who has been denied more than a aids patient trying to donate blood. Being thirsty ie what you're doing doesn't work. Me and you sound one in the same, we get caught up on a chick we barely know because they showed us a little attention. I know you mean well you sound like and probably are a nice guy but that movie shit doesn't work. ESP right off the bat because it not only freaks the chick out it turns her off completely (My guestimation like 95% of the time)
you're not a pimp if you let her know she's not the only chick in the world because news flash she isn't. If you get annoyed or heartbroken look at her and imagine 10 other chicks out there just as hot if not hotter that are willing to fuck you. You just have to play the right moves and be cool. Don't be so needy and just exude some confidence. You don't have to be some brutish dick.

Re read what playboi wrote and what Black Phantom wrote

1. Don't be needy at all please. It just screams desperate, lonely and unconfident which you ARE not.
2. Like Black phantom said Show her that you have other options besides her meaning you aren't some player but you aren't some loser either.
3. Show and give reasons of why a woman would want to be with you. Be confident. And display your skills. What are u good at? Ball? Golfing? Fucking math? The lamest shit could be cool as long as u know how to put it.
-Fun

And last this is a straight quote from Black phantom
"Be NORMAL. Have a normal conversation and don't try to kiss her ass by saying
how pretty she is and how you'd do anything to be with her." -Black Phantom

P.m and or post on more progress. Also with some people it doesn't work out. I just got out of a 6 yr relationship a few months ago so trust me on that one. Sometimes it's best to move on

It's been one month. I asked her to coffee with me twice, she came over as well to my place and had dinner.

How do I go about this? I never "dated" someone before because I felt it was a waste of time young in high school and all.

But asking something like "will you go out with me" seems infantile.

Right but don't people do something to make it official? Like say will you be my girlfriend or something?

And on that note, I, like I said, may not have too much experience and because it's my first I'm just a bothersome worrywart, but stuff like this frightened me. Although I love Attraction Institute and I read it all the time and it helps me soo much, this particular text actually worried me. Do you think it applies here? I'm a bit frightened.

Damn I sound like I'm a ten year old. Dammit attraction institute, you're a blessing and a curse to me.
http://attractioninstitute.com/just-cau ... likes-you/

Author:	JustinNgo [ Thu Jul 17, 2014 11:08 am ]
Post subject:	I Want Her So Bad... Can I Do It?
Hey guys, my name is Justin Ngo, I'm a 22 year old Asian- American. I've only recently been discovering places like these and I'm wondering of some people like you guys can help me out! I'm a recently graduated college student and I've been working at this clinic for sometime now. There's a girl there who's my age (I'm 22 she's 21) and we've known each other for about 3 months. I saw her at the clinic but didn't talk, and then I saw her at a local club as well but didn't get the chance to speak to her. The next day I told her I saw her, but she spoke in terse statements and didn't seem too willing to talk. The day afterwards, I struck up another conversation, and while she seemed nervous, she did ask me if I had a girlfriend, which I told her no. She smiled at this, which I noted with pleasure. I saw her again at the club and I bought her a drink, but she only stayed to chat 5 minutes afterwards and then left. I don't know if I'm overanalyzing, but I want to win her heart a lot! I gave her my number and its been 3 days. What can I do to know what she is thinking, and what should I do to know what she wants and communicate what I want to do? There was some stuff like this subliminalpersuasionbook. c o m /fractionation-seduction-steps/ that I've been reading to understand what she wants and to exert, I suppose, some control, but I don't know if I can really do this? Is that sort of small emotion reading stuff going to help? Sorry if I missed anything important, this is my first time on the site. Thanks guys.

Author:	Playboi_ [ Thu Jul 17, 2014 12:38 pm ]
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Quote: Hey guys, my name is Justin Ngo, I'm a 22 year old Asian- American. I've only recently been discovering places like these and I'm wondering of some people like you guys can help me out! I'm a recently graduated college student and I've been working at this clinic for sometime now. There's a girl there who's my age (I'm 22 she's 21) and we've known each other for about 3 months. I saw her at the clinic but didn't talk, and then I saw her at a local club as well but didn't get the chance to speak to her. The next day I told her I saw her, but she spoke in terse statements and didn't seem too willing to talk. The day afterwards, I struck up another conversation, and while she seemed nervous, she did ask me if I had a girlfriend, which I told her no. She smiled at this, which I noted with pleasure. I saw her again at the club and I bought her a drink, but she only stayed to chat 5 minutes afterwards and then left. I don't know if I'm overanalyzing, but I want to win her heart a lot! I gave her my number and its been 3 days. What can I do to know what she is thinking, and what should I do to know what she wants and communicate what I want to do? There was some stuff like this subliminalpersuasionbook. c o m /fractionation-seduction-steps/ that I've been reading to understand what she wants and to exert, I suppose, some control, but I don't know if I can really do this? Is that sort of small emotion reading stuff going to help? Sorry if I missed anything important, this is my first time on the site. Thanks guys. Stop reading those. You are not at those points. You need to up tie confidence. You do not know her all that well but want to win her heart? How about just showing her that you are a fun, dominant guy who values and takes charge of his own life who would like to get to know her a little bit more?

Author:	Black Phantom [ Fri Jul 18, 2014 7:16 am ]
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Yes, as the guy above said - stop reading those books. You are not at that point yet. You will over analyze the entire situation and make it even worse for yourself. You didn't mention all the details in your post, like how you came to giving her your number? Based on what you've wrote, I think you are being way too focused on this one girl, which makes you seem needy to her - and ironically, she doesn't want you as much. The more you chaise a woman, the more she'll run. With your behavior, you're not showing any confidence or worth. What you are showing however is that you like her a lot, that you have little or no other options, that no many other women would want to be with you, and that you would do almost anything to be with her. And to a girl, that is NOT attractive. If you want to ATTRACT her, you need to make her understand that although you do like her, you are still a confident man who is in control. That you DO have other options and that other women consider you as desirable and attractive. THEN you go to her and you say, "Hey, what's up?" And you have a normal conversation with her, without buying her drinks or saying to her how pretty she is. Just a normal conversation where you two are talking, and you talk about your life and about what you do. And then you ask her out, get her number and ask her out. As long as you chase after her like a guy who has no other options and has found the ONE that he wants...she'll continue to run away from you. So... > Stop chasing her > Show that you have other options besides her. > Show that other women like you and want to be with you. > Be NORMAL. Have a normal conversation and don't try to kiss her ass by saying how pretty she is and how you'd do anything to be with her.

Author:	JustinNgo [ Fri Jul 18, 2014 10:01 am ]
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Yeah I guess you're right. But at least I want to be sensitive to her reactions and body language of course. It's so heartless though to be some guy who acts like he has so many options. Shouldn't I at least show that I'm willing to make time for her and focus on her, not act like some pimp?

Author:	renegadepeddler [ Sat Jul 19, 2014 6:06 am ]
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Whats so special about this girl? She's attractive? There are billions of those. From what you've written you don't know much about her.

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Author:	Zirk13 [ Sat Jul 19, 2014 7:48 am ]
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boyfriends make time for their girlfriends, guys they arent sure about yet dont

Author:	-Fun24- [ Sun Jul 20, 2014 9:28 pm ]
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Quote: Yeah I guess you're right. But at least I want to be sensitive to her reactions and body language of course. It's so heartless though to be some guy who acts like he has so many options. Shouldn't I at least show that I'm willing to make time for her and focus on her, not act like some pimp? Quote: Yeah I guess you're right. But at least I want to be sensitive to her reactions and body language of course. It's so heartless though to be some guy who acts like he has so many options. Shouldn't I at least show that I'm willing to make time for her and focus on her, not act like some pimp? Nawwwwwww bruh u got it all wrong. Take it from a guy like me who has been denied more than a aids patient trying to donate blood. Being thirsty ie what you're doing doesn't work. Me and you sound one in the same, we get caught up on a chick we barely know because they showed us a little attention. I know you mean well you sound like and probably are a nice guy but that movie shit doesn't work. ESP right off the bat because it not only freaks the chick out it turns her off completely (My guestimation like 95% of the time) you're not a pimp if you let her know she's not the only chick in the world because news flash she isn't. If you get annoyed or heartbroken look at her and imagine 10 other chicks out there just as hot if not hotter that are willing to fuck you. You just have to play the right moves and be cool. Don't be so needy and just exude some confidence. You don't have to be some brutish dick. Re read what playboi wrote and what Black Phantom wrote 1. Don't be needy at all please. It just screams desperate, lonely and unconfident which you ARE not. 2. Like Black phantom said Show her that you have other options besides her meaning you aren't some player but you aren't some loser either. 3. Show and give reasons of why a woman would want to be with you. Be confident. And display your skills. What are u good at? Ball? Golfing? Fucking math? The lamest shit could be cool as long as u know how to put it. -Fun And last this is a straight quote from Black phantom "Be NORMAL. Have a normal conversation and don't try to kiss her ass by saying how pretty she is and how you'd do anything to be with her." -Black Phantom P.m and or post on more progress. Also with some people it doesn't work out. I just got out of a 6 yr relationship a few months ago so trust me on that one. Sometimes it's best to move on

Author:	oceanx [ Mon Jul 21, 2014 6:54 pm ]
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The post by Fun_24 is right on. You need to be talking to more girls. When there is a lot on the line in a convo with a particular girl, SHE CAN TELL. And more often than not it does not reflect positively on the guy. Compare that to an easy/breezy convo where there is very little investment, just a nice normal convo and a close like 'hey i gotta run to X but lets continue this sometime. we'll grab a coffee.' What available girl is going to say no to a simple coffee with a normal intriguing dude.

Author:	JustinNgo [ Thu Jul 31, 2014 9:18 am ]
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Quote: Quote: Yeah I guess you're right. But at least I want to be sensitive to her reactions and body language of course. It's so heartless though to be some guy who acts like he has so many options. Shouldn't I at least show that I'm willing to make time for her and focus on her, not act like some pimp? Quote: Yeah I guess you're right. But at least I want to be sensitive to her reactions and body language of course. It's so heartless though to be some guy who acts like he has so many options. Shouldn't I at least show that I'm willing to make time for her and focus on her, not act like some pimp? Nawwwwwww bruh u got it all wrong. Take it from a guy like me who has been denied more than a aids patient trying to donate blood. Being thirsty ie what you're doing doesn't work. Me and you sound one in the same, we get caught up on a chick we barely know because they showed us a little attention. I know you mean well you sound like and probably are a nice guy but that movie shit doesn't work. ESP right off the bat because it not only freaks the chick out it turns her off completely (My guestimation like 95% of the time) you're not a pimp if you let her know she's not the only chick in the world because news flash she isn't. If you get annoyed or heartbroken look at her and imagine 10 other chicks out there just as hot if not hotter that are willing to fuck you. You just have to play the right moves and be cool. Don't be so needy and just exude some confidence. You don't have to be some brutish dick. Re read what playboi wrote and what Black Phantom wrote 1. Don't be needy at all please. It just screams desperate, lonely and unconfident which you ARE not. 2. Like Black phantom said Show her that you have other options besides her meaning you aren't some player but you aren't some loser either. 3. Show and give reasons of why a woman would want to be with you. Be confident. And display your skills. What are u good at? Ball? Golfing? Fucking math? The lamest shit could be cool as long as u know how to put it. -Fun And last this is a straight quote from Black phantom "Be NORMAL. Have a normal conversation and don't try to kiss her ass by saying how pretty she is and how you'd do anything to be with her." -Black Phantom P.m and or post on more progress. Also with some people it doesn't work out. I just got out of a 6 yr relationship a few months ago so trust me on that one. Sometimes it's best to move on I got you, that makes sense. I'm going to see her again today, I'll let you know what happens. Thanks lads.

Author:	JustinNgo [ Mon Sep 01, 2014 9:27 pm ]
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It's been one month. I asked her to coffee with me twice, she came over as well to my place and had dinner. How do I go about this? I never "dated" someone before because I felt it was a waste of time young in high school and all. But asking something like "will you go out with me" seems infantile.

Author:	NaughtyNapoleon [ Tue Sep 02, 2014 5:17 am ]
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Quote: It's been one month. I asked her to coffee with me twice, she came over as well to my place and had dinner. How do I go about this? I never "dated" someone before because I felt it was a waste of time young in high school and all. But asking something like "will you go out with me" seems infantile. Hi justin, it's obviously that girl likes you too and if you want her to be your girlfriend then you should give her progress, make her feels like relationship btw you and her is growing. And most importantly, go to bed with her (I mean have sex with her if you really don't get me). It's how a relationship start nowadays.. I just finish my post on get a girlfriend, will upload it very soon. So keep an eye on my blog;)

Author:	JustinNgo [ Tue Sep 02, 2014 8:57 pm ]
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Right but don't people do something to make it official? Like say will you be my girlfriend or something? And on that note, I, like I said, may not have too much experience and because it's my first I'm just a bothersome worrywart, but stuff like this frightened me. Although I love Attraction Institute and I read it all the time and it helps me soo much, this particular text actually worried me. Do you think it applies here? I'm a bit frightened. Damn I sound like I'm a ten year old. Dammit attraction institute, you're a blessing and a curse to me. http://attractioninstitute.com/just-cau ... likes-you/

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Wed Sep 03, 2014 4:49 pm ]
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Quote: Right but don't people do something to make it official? Like say will you be my girlfriend or something? And on that note, I, like I said, may not have too much experience and because it's my first I'm just a bothersome worrywart, but stuff like this frightened me. Although I love Attraction Institute and I read it all the time and it helps me soo much, this particular text actually worried me. Do you think it applies here? I'm a bit frightened. Damn I sound like I'm a ten year old. Dammit attraction institute, you're a blessing and a curse to me. http://attractioninstitute.com/just-cau ... likes-you/ Hi Justin, Don't do anything to make it official. Just have fun. When she wants it official, she'll tell you - I guarantee it.

Author:	Magic90210 [ Thu Sep 04, 2014 3:00 am ]
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Its okay to take your time and not rush things. Another point that I tell everyone in the scene and I know from experience after giving hundreds of girls my number over the years is this: "Always get her number". The reason for this is most girls will never text or call you if you give them your number. Don't be surprised, I almost guarantee that she will likely not call you. Don't take it personal its just common when it comes to people in general. You will have more opportunities with this chick but don't come off as "creepy" or lacking confidence; which is what it seems like is happening. This can be corrected; just remain calm and be a fun and out-going guy that knows what they want in life and go out there and make your dreams a reality. Also its just one amazing girl and there are many out there--some to a greater degree and some to a lesser extent. I wish you the best! I will chat with you more when I can.

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Author:	JustinNgo [ Thu Sep 04, 2014 6:16 am ]
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When she wants it, she'll ask. OK I got it thanks. Don't worry I got the number long time ago But she asked to exchange, that's why I was wondering. Could you give that one bothersome text a read and tell me if this young worried man is in a problem?