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Author:  aff219 [ Mon Jul 14, 2014 12:10 am ]
Post subject:  TOUGH SITUATION - approaching deskclerk @ cancer center

Long story short:

after 10 months of being single, im picky and ive not been attracted to a single girl in terms of "i could see myself with her"

in these 10 months, mom was diagnosed with cancer. note: not "youre dead" cancer. SPAM has us going to the cancer center mon-fri for about 2 months, were over half way through the process now.

during this time ive noticed this receptionist, and i can honestly say i find her beautiful and can see myself dating a girl like her (again, looks wise), which as soon as I realized it I decided I've -got- to try and accomplish something with her...but this is a tricky situation.

details of the situation:

1. the cancer center is -huge-, like a mile of buildings all spiderwebbed together with "skybridges" etc, every building 6-20 stories tall etc. the chances of running into her on her break or randomly passing by are pretty much zero.

2. the way this process works, they have you run all over different wings of different buildings every day. spend between 4-10 hours there mon-fri, we travel to her area once a week and the session takes about 10 minutes of waiting and 10-20 minutes of mom w/ the doctor, which i can either go with mom or wait in the waiting room.

3. theres always 2-3 people at the front desk including the girl

4. ive associated with her once, during our first week of SPAM, it was 5am and my mind wasnt exactly in game mentality, simply asked when the doctor would be in etc.

5. this is a cancer center. where everyone is dying of and worried about cancer. with my mom. who im there for because she has cancer. this girl is at work...at a cancer center, dealing with all these people. not exactly an SPAM suitable for trying to pickup a girl.

I need some advice on how to approach this...I cant see "hey so ive been here a few times and think youre cute wanna go have coffee? ohh i dont have cancer btw, thats my mom. but nevermind that."

*edit* also, my day game is pretty week. I'm pretty good at night/club game, and if i can get a girl to associate with me ("become friends") they always tend to like me on some level, but I'm horrid when it comes to cold approach day game.

Author:  aff219 [ Tue Jul 15, 2014 7:04 am ]
Post subject:  Re: TOUGH SITUATION - approaching deskclerk @ cancer center

I have about a week before I'll be in her area of the building again, so i'd like to get some suggestions on how to handle the situation

note: I know this isnt exactly how most of us would approach things, targeting a specific girl and not having made a move instantly, letting weeks pass etc, but this is a unique situation for me. game wasnt on my mind when going through all this.

This only recently struck my mind and I've decided I shouldn't ignore the opportunity seeing as I'm so picky with girls and managed to find one that peaks an actual interest.

with that said, i'm also not "locked on" to her where i'm yearning to win her over or oneitis before even talking to her by any means, if things dont go well then too bad, but I'd like to plot a successful path instead of jump in guns blazing with no ammo, know what i mean?

Author:  aff219 [ Fri Jul 18, 2014 11:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: TOUGH SITUATION - approaching deskclerk @ cancer center

Really? Not a single reply?

Author:  aff219 [ Sat Jul 26, 2014 12:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: TOUGH SITUATION - approaching deskclerk @ cancer center

I could really use some advice here...we'll only be going to the clinic for another week or two, which means ill have only 1-2 more opportunities

Author:  BittyBanger [ Sat Jul 26, 2014 9:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: TOUGH SITUATION - approaching deskclerk @ cancer center

I don't know dude.... Talk to her?

Author:  snapshot99 [ Sat Jul 26, 2014 10:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: TOUGH SITUATION - approaching deskclerk @ cancer center

Go over to her and ask her if she can recommend any nice good food places in the area.

Amplify her replies with humor and your personality.

Example:

You: Hey, I'm in the mood for some good food. Any nice place around here that you can recommend?

Her: Place X has nice Italian food.

You: Italian? No, I'm scared. What if they make me an offer I can't refuse?

Her: (she either gets the reference or not)

If she does. You: Oh, a Soprano/Godfather/mafia fan I see,nice. I best not upset you or I'll be sleeping with the fishes, right?

If she doesn't get it. You: What type of slave hours does this place have here? Sounds like the last time you went out and had fun, was when George Bush was president..senior Bush..We need to get you out into the fresh air. That's it, its decided. You will take me to this food place. I'm doing this for your own good, when does your shift finish?

If she gives you a good vibe, flow with it. If not, then at least you know and will not be 'what if-ing'.

Author:  oceanx [ Sun Jul 27, 2014 3:03 am ]
Post subject:  Re: TOUGH SITUATION - approaching deskclerk @ cancer center

I agree the food opener is a good one. This could work very well if you were there in the morning alone. Can go really simple with it; ask where she recommends to go. Say "do YOU like it?; it's good?" Maybe bust on her a little, TEASINGLY "well if it's not good you're gonna hear about it." Then "hey i got an idea, you seem fun, come over there w/ me on your lunch break today."

Author:  DrewDating [ Wed Jul 30, 2014 2:17 am ]
Post subject:  Re: TOUGH SITUATION - approaching deskclerk @ cancer center

dont talk about her work- talk to her about something else real quick and get her number real quick because the sole fact that she is working

or straight up go direct-
"you know you seem really nice- what do you like to do around here?" and then say "great we should go do that together"

Author:  SamEdi [ Wed Jul 30, 2014 3:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: TOUGH SITUATION - approaching deskclerk @ cancer center

I like snapshot's advice. But if you're not super confident in the situation (which is a bit tricky!) then why not open the other people at the desk first? You know, the forty and fifty year old ones that don't make you nervous? Once you've got them chatting, use snapshot's advice? Anyway, good luck man.

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