PUA Forum :: How to not hesitate!?

to the OP:

Some guys are able to just say to themselves '3 second rule' and just jump in every time, right from their first day. Others, like myself many years ago, still couldn't push myself in. 3 second, is definitely king, but you have to be in the habit.

One thing I say to guys when they are starting and trying to get around AA, is to start really small, but consistently obey the 3s rule.

So, for example.. go to a shopping centre. Say to yourself, the second you walk inside the centre, you'll approach the first female you see and ask them the time, obeying 3s rule. THEN you'll walk to the food court, and once there, ask the first girl you see for the time obeying 3s rule. Repeat this like 8x over. You're not yet hitting on girls, but you ARE getting the 3s approach into your system. The next day, you up the ante, maybe same locations, but now instead of asking the time, asking if they know where is good to eat at the centre... that means a slightly longer conversation. Do that 8x or 10x over. THEN on the 3rd day you go out, do the same locations, but actually make it a proper pickup approach.

This type of 'ramping up' behavior works an absolute charm for guys who are struggling to just get some approaches in. You just have create a habit of approaching wtihout thinking, so lower the stakes and practice that way first, then ramp it up.

You dudes really have no fucking idea how many women absolutely hate complete strangers cornering them and desperately trying to chat them up. It pisses them off big time. They want to get on with their day and go about their business without some fucking jerk invading their space. Y'all sound like sexual predators always on the prowl for some prey. Day game is creepy you assholes.

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Spoken like a true AFC or woman posing as a guy cause she fell for PUA's before.

I went to the city centre today, and as soon as I came off the bus, I saw an ideal girl walking on the other side of the walkway. It was perfect for me to approach because she was on her own, there wasn't so many people around and she looked 'open' for an approach. But, I just chickened out!!! In my head, I was saying 'I must approach... I must do it' but approach anxiety must have stopped me! She was walking the same direction as me for about 20-30 seconds so I had the perfect time until she went into a store and I moved ahead. WHY DO I DO THIS?! How can I STOP hesitating and just say, "FUCK YOU, LETS DO IT"?

Author:	FaceAche [ Wed May 21, 2014 12:26 pm ]
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I went to the city centre today, and as soon as I came off the bus, I saw an ideal girl walking on the other side of the walkway. It was perfect for me to approach because she was on her own, there wasn't so many people around and she looked 'open' for an approach. But, I just chickened out!!! In my head, I was saying 'I must approach... I must do it' but approach anxiety must have stopped me! She was walking the same direction as me for about 20-30 seconds so I had the perfect time until she went into a store and I moved ahead. WHY DO I DO THIS?! How can I STOP hesitating and just say, "FUCK YOU, LETS DO IT"?

Author:	Merzk [ Wed May 21, 2014 3:59 pm ]
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Well that sounds like day gaming, I'd I don't day game as it seems I'm not that good at it or I still need to find my gaming self, but as for night gaming I never felt I had problems approaching since I go with the mentality of "its a game"..if you dont try you wont learn, yes ofcourse you worry about feeling embarrassed and all but this can only go away with actually doing the thing..approach her if she in worst case scenario gives you a cold shoulder so what??? go for the next one and so on. Its like swimming you wont learn it unless you get in the fucking water

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Wed May 21, 2014 6:24 pm ]
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Why do newbies take advice from other newbies? That's like Stevie Wonder giving Ray Charles driving directions. I use the 'three second rule'. It's a standard rule that basically states that once a man spots a woman who meets his standards and gives him eye contact or a smile, he has three seconds to walk up to her and say: "Hi, I'm FaceAche........" a man must show that he is approaching a woman because he genuinely has interest in her. The only way to do this is to approach her right away and without being distracted. Don't worry about rejection its part of the game; you need it to get better.

Author:	djdante [ Thu May 22, 2014 12:27 am ]
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to the OP: Some guys are able to just say to themselves '3 second rule' and just jump in every time, right from their first day. Others, like myself many years ago, still couldn't push myself in. 3 second, is definitely king, but you have to be in the habit. One thing I say to guys when they are starting and trying to get around AA, is to start really small, but consistently obey the 3s rule. So, for example.. go to a shopping centre. Say to yourself, the second you walk inside the centre, you'll approach the first female you see and ask them the time, obeying 3s rule. THEN you'll walk to the food court, and once there, ask the first girl you see for the time obeying 3s rule. Repeat this like 8x over. You're not yet hitting on girls, but you ARE getting the 3s approach into your system. The next day, you up the ante, maybe same locations, but now instead of asking the time, asking if they know where is good to eat at the centre... that means a slightly longer conversation. Do that 8x or 10x over. THEN on the 3rd day you go out, do the same locations, but actually make it a proper pickup approach. This type of 'ramping up' behavior works an absolute charm for guys who are struggling to just get some approaches in. You just have create a habit of approaching wtihout thinking, so lower the stakes and practice that way first, then ramp it up.

Author:	FaceAche [ Fri May 23, 2014 6:38 am ]
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That's probably one of the best answers I have so far gotten. Thanks for that. I am on the verge of getting out more and jumping in to it, but I just need to take it to another level and approach as you advised. This may work, thanks. Also, do you think I should ask for the time wherever I am located? Like on the street or something? Quote: to the OP: Some guys are able to just say to themselves '3 second rule' and just jump in every time, right from their first day. Others, like myself many years ago, still couldn't push myself in. 3 second, is definitely king, but you have to be in the habit. One thing I say to guys when they are starting and trying to get around AA, is to start really small, but consistently obey the 3s rule. So, for example.. go to a shopping centre. Say to yourself, the second you walk inside the centre, you'll approach the first female you see and ask them the time, obeying 3s rule. THEN you'll walk to the food court, and once there, ask the first girl you see for the time obeying 3s rule. Repeat this like 8x over. You're not yet hitting on girls, but you ARE getting the 3s approach into your system. The next day, you up the ante, maybe same locations, but now instead of asking the time, asking if they know where is good to eat at the centre... that means a slightly longer conversation. Do that 8x or 10x over. THEN on the 3rd day you go out, do the same locations, but actually make it a proper pickup approach. This type of 'ramping up' behavior works an absolute charm for guys who are struggling to just get some approaches in. You just have create a habit of approaching wtihout thinking, so lower the stakes and practice that way first, then ramp it up.

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Author:	Digital_Spy [ Fri May 23, 2014 10:44 pm ]
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You dudes really have no fucking idea how many women absolutely hate complete strangers cornering them and desperately trying to chat them up. It pisses them off big time. They want to get on with their day and go about their business without some fucking jerk invading their space. Y'all sound like sexual predators always on the prowl for some prey. Day game is creepy you assholes.

Author:	djdante [ Fri May 23, 2014 11:07 pm ]
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Most definitely man! If you can get in the habit of talking to cute girls instantly.. even if you don't actually manage to hit on them, that's a terrific first step, and habit to get into. You can increase from there.

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Fri May 23, 2014 11:42 pm ]
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Quote: You dudes really have no fucking idea how many women absolutely hate complete strangers cornering them and desperately trying to chat them up. It pisses them off big time. They want to get on with their day and go about their business without some fucking jerk invading their space. Y'all sound like sexual predators always on the prowl for some prey. Day game is creepy you assholes. Are you menstrating already?

Author:	AlwaysTrying [ Sat May 24, 2014 12:47 am ]
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Quote: You dudes really have no fucking idea how many women absolutely hate complete strangers cornering them and desperately trying to chat them up. It pisses them off big time. They want to get on with their day and go about their business without some fucking jerk invading their space. Y'all sound like sexual predators always on the prowl for some prey. Day game is creepy you assholes. Spoken like a true AFC or woman posing as a guy cause she fell for PUA's before.

Author:	mark317 [ Sat May 24, 2014 7:08 am ]
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Try to watch a few Justin Wayne videos approaching girls on youtube, it will give you some ideas on how to approach women you like without hesitation. Remember: Don't hesitate. It's the key to victory. Goodluck!

Author:	FaceAche [ Sat May 24, 2014 6:33 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: You dudes really have no fucking idea how many women absolutely hate complete strangers cornering them and desperately trying to chat them up. It pisses them off big time. They want to get on with their day and go about their business without some fucking jerk invading their space. Y'all sound like sexual predators always on the prowl for some prey. Day game is creepy you assholes. Spoken like a true AFC or woman posing as a guy cause she fell for PUA's before. I just think he is probably a dude who can't admit his insecurities or handle pressure.

Author:	djdante [ Sat May 24, 2014 11:28 pm ]
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Quote: You dudes really have no fucking idea how many women absolutely hate complete strangers cornering them and desperately trying to chat them up. It pisses them off big time. They want to get on with their day and go about their business without some fucking jerk invading their space. Y'all sound like sexual predators always on the prowl for some prey. Day game is creepy you assholes. I'm really not sure if this person is a guy or a girl, but I've seen many a girl have her entire day made because a guy made her feel really good about herself during a daytime approach. Yes it's possible for a guy to make the whole experience really creepy, but a guy can make any experience creepy day or night if he's really uncalibrated. Also worth noting is that if you actually ask women whether they'd rather meet a guy randomly in a club, or randomly while standing in line, or getting coffee, or shopping, they overwhelminging would rather meet a guy during their everyday lives. So maybe you are a woman who is an unusual dislike for being approached during the day, or you are a guy who doesn't have much experience. End of the day though, daygame works for a LOT of guys, and it works very well so.... why should they stop?

Author:	BrandonMarshall [ Mon May 26, 2014 2:47 am ]
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Quote: I went to the city centre today, and as soon as I came off the bus, I saw an ideal girl walking on the other side of the walkway. It was perfect for me to approach because she was on her own, there wasn't so many people around and she looked 'open' for an approach. But, I just chickened out!!! In my head, I was saying 'I must approach... I must do it' but approach anxiety must have stopped me! She was walking the same direction as me for about 20-30 seconds so I had the perfect time until she went into a store and I moved ahead. WHY DO I DO THIS?! How can I STOP hesitating and just say, "FUCK YOU, LETS DO IT"? 1. Stop believing that you have Approach Anxiety. If you can go approach somebody without passing out you're completely normal. 2. JUST GO. Don't think of openers... don't think of what to say...don't think of the consequence... don't worry about expectations. You'll figure out what to do when you open your mouth. Believe in yourself

Author:	alxbkr [ Thu Jun 05, 2014 7:27 pm ]
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3 second rule. count to 3 then do it if you don't do anything, then forget about it

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Author:	schiz [ Thu Jun 12, 2014 3:16 pm ]
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Start small. Little, funny comments, little jokes. Even physical movements that could be interpreted as IOIs. Don't think you need to jump into the pool headfirst. You'll see a lot of beautiful girls you've passed up throughout your lifetime. Just start small so that you know where the boundaries are and you know what to do next time.