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Author:  Pinkfloyd123 [ Sat Mar 15, 2014 4:33 am ]
Post subject:  What to do if she's cold?
When I approach girls I and up beating around the bush and not actually demonstrate attraction. I know MM says not to show interest too early, so I end up talking about opinions or whatever. I notice the girls become cold and show no signs if attraction - what's going on? Am I suppose to disqualify myself or neg? I often find myself talking to a girl and she is just on auto pilot being polite, not interested and showing cold body language.
Author:  johngoldman [ Sat Mar 15, 2014 1:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What to do if she's cold?
I would suggest trying something different than MM. Maybe you don't need it and it appears you're trying to hard? Why don't you just go up to women and be completely direct. Tell them exactly what you're thinking... Pickup isn't one size fits all. Try different approaches and maybe you'll find one that fits you. Plus, the first 1000 approaches don't count. ;)
Author:  anthonypham [ Sat Mar 15, 2014 1:28 pm ]
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When I approach girls I and up beating around the bush and not actually demonstrate attraction. I know MM says not to show interest too early, so I end up talking about opinions or whatever. I notice the girls become cold and show no signs if attraction - what's going on? Am I suppose to disqualify myself or neg? I often find myself talking to a girl and she is just on auto pilot being polite, not interested and showing cold body language.

You have to attract fast, but not show interest too early. Which means you have to be on a higher energy level than her and keep the level high. She must enjoy talking to you, so you have to have a strong frame (funny, interesting stories, show some DHV). Then start teasing/negging, to bring the conversation to another level :)
Author:  Pinkfloyd123 [ Sat Mar 15, 2014 1:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What to do if she's cold?
I should mention that I usually go to girls that work places that have to be nice to you. Maybe I should try regular people on the street, mall or clubs. I realized what I was doing wrong after a lot of examination - it's hard to be self-correcting.

Why do the first 1k approaches not count and can you go into more detail on how to attract?

Ps do I need to disqualify
Author:  johngoldman [ Sat Mar 15, 2014 1:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What to do if she's cold?
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Why do the first 1k approaches not count and can you go into more detail on how to attract?
To say that the first 1k approaches don't count, is basically a mindset. It's saying that I need a LOT of practice before I can expect to get good at this. Some guys will approach 20-30 girls and can not figure out why they're not a super casanova. Social skill stakes time to acquire and a ton of effort.

In my experience, the most powerful way to attract is by being confident, assuming attraction and acting somewhat within social norms.
Author:  Melodical [ Sat Mar 15, 2014 1:52 pm ]
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In my experience, the most powerful way to attract is by being confident, assuming attraction and acting somewhat within social norms.

Words of wisdom.
Author:  Pinkfloyd123 [ Sat Mar 15, 2014 7:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What to do if she's cold?
The fact that it takes time to get better makes me feel a lot better lol. I can be confident and all that, it's the techniques, I'm missing I have no idea how to make a girl want me - I'm too easy and don't know how to make her interested in me.
Author:  johngoldman [ Sat Mar 15, 2014 7:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What to do if she's cold?
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I can be confident and all that, it's the techniques, I'm missing I have no idea how to make a girl want me
These statements are contradictory. A confident man assumes he is attractive and doesn't need to "make a girl want him".
Author:  Pinkfloyd123 [ Sun Mar 16, 2014 9:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: What to do if she's cold?
I guess my issues are deeper then that. I'm working on confidence and it's improving. I'm confident on the inside an am learning to bring it out. That's improving.

What's not is the fact that I meet a girl and found her giving me no proximity, hands and legs are crossed and she's uninterested. I want to know how to change that and attract her. I just don't know how to act or what to say - honestly, that's what I want to know. I'm not creative in conversation.
Author:  Lalal727272 [ Tue Mar 18, 2014 10:34 pm ]
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I guess my issues are deeper then that. I'm working on confidence and it's improving. I'm confident on the inside an am learning to bring it out. That's improving.

What's not is the fact that I meet a girl and found her giving me no proximity, hands and legs are crossed and she's uninterested. I want to know how to change that and attract her. I just don't know how to act or what to say - honestly, that's what I want to know. I'm not creative in conversation.
Try being more cocky funny/teasing her more.

Also, if she still seems cold despite your best efforts, just move on to the next one. I refuse to believe that if you open let's say, 15 sets a day, none of those 15 will show my interest in you whatsoever. There is bound to be one at least a little bit intrigues by you.
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