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Author:  ABlock [ Sat Jun 08, 2013 2:26 pm ]
Post subject:  Setting Up Long Distance Approach

Hi guys,

So here's the situation: I moved from Ottawa, Ontario, Canada just little over one year ago. When I left I was seeing this girl as a friend but wanted to be more than that, so I told her that I was moving and that I loved her via text; rookie mistake, I know. Nothing turned out, obviously, and I moved as planned.

Now we're still friends on facebook but I haven't talked to her at all for months; almost the entire year since I moved. Now I still have feelings for her; since we've been friends for about 3 years, and I want to set up a long distance approach so that when I visit we can essentially start over.

So far I sent her a message via facebook saying this:

Me: Hi [Her], I sent you something in the mail, did you get it yet?
Her: Not that I've seen... Hmm
Me: Do you still live on [street name]?
That's odd, maybe I screwed up the address.
It was so adorable too.
Her: [street name]
Aw...what was it?
Me: It was a kitten in a box, but now it's lost. It will probably live at Canada Post, living life box to box, looking for [street name]. Poor kitten.
Her: Lol!

Note I didn't actually send her anything... yet.

That's all I've opened with so far. I left it at that and haven't said anything otherwise.

I'm seriously considering sending her like a stuffed kitten in the mail, just to help with my approach when I visit. I'm even thinking about making it fun by putting the kitten within multiple boxes with quirky notes after each box. Ex: She gets a microwave box, the note says: "This is not a microwave". Then maybe she laughs and she thinks about how awesome I am.

My question is: Should I do this idea? If not, how should I approach further?

Thanks,

ABlock

Author:  kiwilad26 [ Sun Jun 09, 2013 11:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Setting Up Long Distance Approach

Don't do that man at all, ive been guilty of this in the past bowing down to her by buying her stuff the gesture is nice but a lot of girls see you as being very whimpy and holding on too much.
I understand you have known her for 3 years as mates, but don't start doing that until you are actually in a relationship with her down the track.
The same goes with you said you had told her you love her, don't say that until you are actually in a solid relationship with her even if you do have feelings for her otherwise she will just run a mile.

Simply chat on as you have been friends for ages normally then say after a week of catching up with her online, ask her if she wants to come and see you for a week or weekend or you go see her vice versa.
When you are together sit her down and just have a good adult like talk about how you currently feel and whether she would see you as being more than or not, there's no point in mucking around if she doesn't feel that way then you both can be finding someone else as a partner.

I look back on some ridiculous things ive done but its made me stronger for realising it too, once when I was 17 years old innocent had no idea on what like/love meant.
I was chatting to this girl via the internet and phone, guess what I did when I first met up with her got her a teddy I mean that's just crazy on my part what a pussy.

Author:  ABlock [ Sun Jun 09, 2013 11:44 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Setting Up Long Distance Approach

Quote:
Don't do that man at all, ive been guilty of this in the past bowing down to her by buying her stuff the gesture is nice but a lot of girls see you as being very whimpy and holding on too much.
I understand you have known her for 3 years as mates, but don't start doing that until you are actually in a relationship with her down the track.
The same goes with you said you had told her you love her, don't say that until you are actually in a solid relationship with her even if you do have feelings for her otherwise she will just run a mile.

Simply chat on as you have been friends for ages normally then say after a week of catching up with her online, ask her if she wants to come and see you for a week or weekend or you go see her vice versa.
When you are together sit her down and just have a good adult like talk about how you currently feel and whether she would see you as being more than or not, there's no point in mucking around if she doesn't feel that way then you both can be finding someone else as a partner.
Thanks for the advice. I'll keep it in mind.

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