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| Author: | chakara [ Tue Jan 29, 2013 2:36 am ] |
| Post subject: | Everything You Wanted to Know About Sexual Fantasies |
The brain is the most erotic organ in the human body. After all, the brain plays a pivotal role in the expression of human sexuality. What people think about and imagine influences how they behave sexually. And, in turn, people's sexual behavior can influence the content of their sexual fantasies—erotic or sexually arousing mental images. In the realm of human sexuality, the mind-body connection is definitely a two way street. We experience sexual fantasies in the private theater of our own minds, but psychologists have discovered that sexual fantasies are a nearly universal human phenomenon. Using checklists and questionnaires, researchers have been able to answer various questions about people's sexual fantasies. When and How Often Do People Have Sexual Fantasies? Sexual fantasies tend to begin during the adolescent years, and almost all adult men and women (95 percent) report having had sexual daydreams. It is very common for both men and women occasionally to engage in sexual fantasies during intercourse. But compared to women, men report a higher incidence of sexual fantasies during masturbation and nonsexual activities. In short, men tend to think about sex more often than do women. What Do People Have Sexual Fantasies About? if you accept the notion that any fantasy, sexual or not, is based to some degree on life experiences, the three most common types of sexual fantasies that men and women have won't surprise you. They are: 1. reliving an exciting sexual experience. 2. imagining that they are having sex with their current partner. 3. imagining that they are having sex with a different partner. Do Male and Female Sexual Fantasies Differ? There are some well-substantiated differences: 1. First, men tend to fantasize themselves in active roles—that is, doing something sexual to their partner. In contrast, women tend to imagine themselves in sexually passive roles—that is, having something sexual done to them. 2. Second, men tend to have sexual fantasies with more explicit imagery, often involving specific sexual positions or anatomical details. Women are more likely to imagine romantic themes, including warm, loving feelings about their partner and details about the romantic ambiance of the scene. 3. Third, men are more likely to imagine having sex with multiple partners. "Fantasizing about having sex with multiple partners at the same time appears to be more consonant with the male stereotype of being a 'super stud' than with the female stereotype of wanting a close, loving, monogamous relationship." Are Sexual Fantasies Psychologically Unhealthy? Are They a Sign of Sexual Frustration or Dissatisfaction? In a word, "no." The people who engage in sexual fantasies most often tend to exhibit the least number of sexual problems and the lowest level of sexual dissatisfaction. Nonetheless, some people are troubled by their sexual fantasies. About 25 percent of people experience some degree of guilt over having sexual fantasies. This guilt is usually due to the belief that their sexual fantasies are immoral, are harmful to their relationships, or indicate that something is wrong with them. What About Sexual Fantasies of "Dominance" or "Submission"? Men are more likely to fantasize dominance themes (forcing someone to do something sexual), whereas women are more likely to report submission themes (being forced to do something sexual). However, it's important to stress that while a woman might find submission fantasies sexually arousing, this does not indicate a desire to actually be forced into sexual submission, much less assaulted or raped. Erotic rape fantasies are not realistic depictions of actual rape. No women or man finds forced sex appealing, the idea of actually being forced to do something sexual or actually forcing someone to do something sexual is a form of role play. Isn't This a Contradiction? Not really. First, any kind of fantasy, whether it's sexual or not, allows us to imagine possibilities that may have little probability of occurring. Fantasy provides you with your own internal, private, improvisational theater. As the lead character, director, and set designer, you control the plot, action, and dialogue without taking any real risks. Given that, let's go back to the issue of female submission fantasies. The typical female submission fantasy is not one of being brutally forced to do something against the woman's will. Instead, the typical female submission fantasy is one of an attractive, powerful, dominant male being overwhelmed by the woman's irresistible charms as she puts up minimal effort to resist his sexual advances. Does this fantasy sound the least bit familiar? It should. It's a standard scenario that is played out in many romantic novels and movies. Such fantasies have nothing in common with mental or actual scenes of non consensual sex, unwanted sexual advances, or brutal rape. http://33fab7zd2ffudpf6tab9dz4v6k.hop.clickbank.net/ |
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