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Author:  rusty928 [ Wed Jan 23, 2008 6:52 pm ]
Post subject:  the "3 second" rule and a fresh way to look at it.
I was contemplating this rule while driving into town today. We all have gone by this rule when deciding to approach. It's a good rule of thumb and is typically true. But, what about another way to look at? Considering that humans are the only creatures on earth that have the ability to reason, we are hampered in our interactions. Animals as a whole, make their decisions based on one thing....INSTINCT!!

Before going out or on your way to where ever you're going to do your sarging, think of a Cheetah. Here is an animal that relies on speed and maneuverability to catch it's prey. It doesn't wake up and think, "man, I'm hungry, I think I need to eat." It wakes up and its instincts kick in and say, "look dumbass, go catch food, or you're going to die." So, Chester gets up, and starts his prowl. He comes across a herd of gazelle, quick and nimble creatures in their own right, and Chester drops into his predatory crouch...He DOESN'T consider NOT doing this...He has no choice. Ever so slowly, he sneaks closer and closer. A few gazelles lift their heads, they are starting to sense the danger. Chester springs into full sprint, chasing his pick. Soon, they're at 50 miles per hour and our hero, Chester, puts on an extra burst of speed so he can make the grab. He ends up catching his prey and having a feast that will last til his next meal.

I tell that story, because it would serve us well to follow our instincts. If Chester had been able to reason about it, he would have had "approach anxiety." "What if I am not fast enough?" Or, "what if it gets away?" But, because animals are not able to reason, they don't have this approach anxiety. They simply pass or fail. If they fail, they try again.

Instinct, is our driving factor in wanting to be with someone of the opposite sex. It's not survival of the fittest or natural selection. It's our nature to see something we like and go for it. So, instead of thinking of your failure, think only of your desire to have it, and how you can improve the next time. Like with Nike's old slogan: "Just Do It!"

AA is a problem for most people on some level or other and can be disastrous for your mental state of mind. Throughout your life, the rejections build up, and before long, with barely a thought, you think how things will go wrong in your interactions. And, this will hold you back. For those of you who don't get the Stylelife Academy Newsletters, Ross Jeffries is working on something new involving AA. RJ summed it quite nicely with his quote: "How do you expect to escape from prison, when you're reinforcing the very walls that hold you in?" This is so true.

Sorry for the long post, but I hope you get something from it.

Rusty

"Only a fool knows everything. A wiseman knows only his ignorance."
Author:  JSmooth [ Wed Jan 23, 2008 7:30 pm ]
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You put a great perspective on this. I'm reminded of a statement Mystery made when doing the "Style Annihilation" video. He is talking about how if you live at home with parents not to let them compromise your survival and replication value. He says, "When are you going to hang from the balcony and say, Mom I'm going to kill myself unless you let me bring girls home because you are compromising my survivial and replication value."

Similar to your great example with the cheetah. We are biological and genetic machines that sole purpose is to survive and replicate. Ultimately that's all we are here for. Just like the cheetah, to survive and replicate.

Awesome Post!!! I hope it really hits home with some people here, and gets them out sarging.
Author:  P.I.M.P [ Thu Jan 24, 2008 8:08 pm ]
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very nice postttt great analogy did youmake that up? props.
Author:  rusty928 [ Thu Jan 24, 2008 8:44 pm ]
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Yes, that is an original analogy by ME...bow down...hahaha And Thanks for the compliment
Author:  theredbandit [ Fri Feb 01, 2008 2:38 am ]
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dude i totally dig, that helps me out alot.
Author:  Montrachet [ Mon Feb 18, 2008 8:16 pm ]
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Your entirely correct
Author:  Recko [ Mon Feb 18, 2008 10:37 pm ]
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I love coming on here and finding refreshingly original ideas. This is great.
Author:  kdgonk [ Sun Oct 26, 2008 9:59 pm ]
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thanks. that is cool.

I start this whole pua things couple months back and i can
only get to opener and after that i got nothing more to say
and running out of material and the more i think about it the
more step i took backward.

Guess i will just go and do it. :D
I'm clear that if i got a good DHV routine and try it out my
AA will be gone just like the first time when i try the opener.
Author:  slick ;^) [ Tue Oct 28, 2008 3:23 am ]
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The other night I walked into the club and after just one of the early chapters from the game I thought to myself "3 second rule" I got more and more nervous, I knew the girl I wanted to approach and I was having trouble.. when I got there it was too late, I lost while I was walking. Besides realizing it was a pitiful attempt I also began to think.. Do you have to follow the three second rule and despite all the literature I believe now as well... the answer is no.

Like the cheetah, you need to approach swiftly and without hesitation, but you do need to decide when is right to do so.. It may be at 5seconds. It also may be at the end of the night after you've ignored her all night and she's seen you livin slick and has had time to develop a need for what she can't have.

My 3 seconds are up.
Author:  fabie [ Wed Oct 29, 2008 8:21 pm ]
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Thanks for your post that is definitely a good way of looking at it.

I would like to add that ( atleast in my case ) we are so obsessed with success and winning that we are afraid to lose. When we see a really cute girl, we think what would she be like in bed. Hmmm, I'd like to meet her, wait, if you screw up you will never meet her, nah, better wait until the moment is right...

It is something like a downwards spiral, you want girls, but don't want to mess up, and that prevents you from properly interacting with girls in the first place, and I think in general it is difficult to meet strangers, atleast for me I always like to take a step back and look how a person is, which prevents me from meeting them, because I am afraid of meeting people I don't like. And the well known method of getting out is going cave man, but that might ruin your reputation... its fear that is holding us back!

That's why the 3 second rule is important, simply so that you don't think, don't fear, and don't care. Cold turkey.
Author:  V1V [ Wed Oct 29, 2008 10:38 pm ]
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very nice view.
V1V :twisted:
Author:  momentrising [ Thu Oct 30, 2008 4:39 am ]
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Cheetahs, like tigers, stalk their prey before making any move for the kill. They stalk the heard of prey, rationalizing with their eyes who is the most likely victim - slowest, olders, youngest, injured, etc.

So it's just like Mystery once said, you can only attract those who are attracted to you. It means you can only kill those who are killworthy in the cheetah sense of the way.

In the wild, the felines aren't as successful as we see them on tv. I heard that they miss alot of attempts before finally killing a prey. So it's also the same concept of us having to feel rejection until we get better.

So to me, lifestyle of the game isn't the real game. It's a necessity we need for the real game, the game of S&R. Which is pretty much what we learn when we watch discovery channel and cheetahs in action.
Author:  Entice [ Fri Oct 31, 2008 1:20 am ]
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Excellent post buddy, one of the best things ive read today and this will stick in my mind while approaching girls. All or nothing.. win or lose.. it doesnt matter as long as you tried. Nothing is worse than going home thinking what if I approached that hot girl at the bar. Even if she shot you down before you could even finish your word, you'd still be stood in the same pace as you are now. So you might aswell have opened her.
Author:  Nogg [ Fri Oct 31, 2008 7:12 pm ]
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This is a very good post. I'm a newbie PUA and I have AA but for no reason. I have nothing put against me really. I don't have nothing to lose all I have is the desire. Just like the cheetah. Will be thinking about this next time I go out sarging. Thanks!
Author:  hansolo86 [ Fri Oct 31, 2008 8:19 pm ]
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Even though AA doesn't make the decision approach/don't approach for me anymore, it still affects me in a way that I don't perform as well when I get AA.

Very good post. I will think of myself as a cheetah everytime I approach in the future! =)
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