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Intro to Pick up (Redsky's Method)
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Author:  redsky [ Fri Dec 14, 2012 12:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Intro to Pick up (Redsky's Method)
Intro to picking up girls (Redsky's Method)

I believe that thinking in terms of 'as simple as possible' is always key when it comes to being efficient and learning something as quickly as possible. Being successful with women can be seen as a complicated task but it's not.

I think what is important in order to avoid getting discouraged is to focus on an outline of terms and ideologies.

One of these is that pick up is a numbers game:

Yes, this is one of the most important focus points. When it comes down to it, pick up is just a numbers game. Any beta, nerdy, scrawny, isolated, non-socialized, average Joe can get action as long as he is able to go out, make those approaches, get enough phone numbers and set up dates with the females who are most interested. It's really not rocket science.

Becoming a pick up artist:

Now this is a controversial term that is always getting beaten down into the dirt. People have a very stigmatic view of what this is and see it as maybe trashy while other may view it as glamorous. My view is that there is nothing wrong with learning how to become better at attracting a mate. I think anyone that thinks that maybe this is creepy or odd has a lot of insecurities of their own that they are afraid to deal with.

The only thing that separates pick up artists from anyone else is the fact that they chose to embrace the numbers game and facilitate ways to increase their percentage of success through trial and error.

Good learning Approach(Day-Game):

Day-Game: Meeting and picking up women outside of bars and clubs(Specifically during day time)
When getting into the game you might want to start out with Day-Game. The reason I think this is a good idea is because 1) it helps you get used to going up to women you don't know and 2) you will see that It's much easier to meet women during the day.

Quick Day-Game Lowdown:

All you need to do is go up to a girl who is stationary or even walking toward you on the sidewalk of a busy street and say, "Excuse me, I think you're cute. Would you like to get coffee sometime?"
When she says yes, simply pull out your phone and ask, "Ok, what is your number?"

I suggest that you only set up a meeting with the girls who choose to text you back the most. Also make sure that you meet up as soon as possible.

The Abundance mentality:

One thing you will learn is that many women will flake. This is just part of the game. The average percentage of success starting out is around 5%.

This means that you will have a sexual interaction with 5% of the women whose numbers you manage to get. So if you get 50 numbers then you will most likely do something sexual with 2-3 of them.
As you get more experience then you will gradually notice the success rate start to elevate as well as your confidence.

So get used to this and make sure you never get too invested in one single girl.

Logistics:

In the beginning the best way to get some action with a date is to meet them as close to your place as possible. You never know when you will hit the jackpot and find a willing girl who is content with a steamy night of passion.

Setting up a meeting point that is an efficient distance from where you wish to get some action is known as setting up the logistics.

When starting out I suggest you keep the logistics relatively efficient. As you get better then you can play around meeting further away or even going to the girl's place.

However I prefer to bring it home simply because I feel more comfortable in my own bed and can enjoy a better night sleep after the interaction.

Looks:

looks are a very debatable issue. Many say that looks matter but I don't believe they are completely necessary. Through my experience I've realized that most women will find even the most simple characteristics, such as eyebrow shape a good enough reason to meet up with a man who is otherwise seen as unattractive and possibly sleep with him.

However it is still important to stay moderately groomed and hygienic.

Neediness:

Another thing that is important to avoid is coming off too needy. However there is a fine line between confident and arrogant(cocky). Cocky in moderation can be stimulating but in excess it will quickly cause a girl to lose interest.

In order to avoid being needy you need think before you act. Ask yourself, 'Will doing or saying this fit my role as a man?'

Through my experience I have learned that what tends to keep a woman attracted is your ability to be independent. Don't be afraid to ask a girl to get the next round, don't think that you need to keep talking to entertain her, don't feel that you are obligated to text her, don't stop dating other girls, even if you get along with her, don't be afraid to lose her, don't be sensitive about what she thinks, don't need her, don't need her, don't need her!. However still be a gentleman and respectful.

Conversation:

In time you will feel more confident in your speech. Yet to start out with you should pay attention to a few minor details to keep from reaching a dead-end.

-Demeanor

Try to speak from your throat as opposed to your mouth. This will evoke a more manly and mature sounding voice.

-Speed of speech

Try not to speak too quickly. A nice moderate speed that gives you enough time to think will be sufficient enough.

- Ask questions

Ask her what kind of guys she likes, ask her if she has seen a movie that you liked, ask her what her goals in life are. Those are some good conversation starters.

- Stay positive

Avoid negative topics; stay away from traumatizing events, things you didn't like, people you don't like, gossip. Need I say more?

- Make statements

Tell her what she reminds you of, tell her that you like how the sky looks tonight, tell her that just saw an old friend from highschool that you haven't seen in years. These are all good examples of usable statements.

- Take breaks

Don't be afraid to go to the restroom, don't be afraid to check yourself out in the mirror, real quick, don't be afraid to turn and observe the room or bar where you're at.

- Games

I have found that playing darts or pool can be a great way to bond with a woman. It's a good way to playfully tease them when they miss a shot and gradually get them to come out of their shell through laughter and joking. You don't even have to be good.
Women will be just as impressed with your ability to have fun as they would if you were an excellent pool player.

Signs of interest:

Things that you need to look out for are whether a girl is genuinely into you. The way it works from the start, 'she is either into or she isn't'. There is no convincing a girl to like you if she didn't from the beginning.

It's pretty cut and dry on how to know this. When you realize she doesn't then you cut her loose and proceed to the next. If you don't then she will just waste your time and at the end of the date you will get nothing and be disappointed.

Some signs of interest are:

- Her touching you

If a girl's interested then she will look for excuses to touch you, whether it be grabbing your shirt or playfully hitting your shoulder.

- Big eyes

Another thing is something I like to call anime eyes. Her eyes will be big and shining and looking straight back into yours.

- Laughing at your jokes

This is obvious, a lot of times if a girl likes you then she'll laugh at your jokes, even if they aren't funny.

- Easy to hold her hand

This is key, an easy way to find out is putting your hand out and seeing if she's receptive to holding it.

- Easy to hug

Most girls, if genuinely interested won't mind you putting you arms around them and embracing them. Try not to do it too often though, if she is. It may come off needy.

Also if she is ok with this then you might as well go in for a kiss.

- Her asking you personal questions

If a girl wants to know more about you then she is curious about you, meaning interested.

- Qualifying herself

This is when you tell her something about yourself and she says something about how she enjoys that too or that she always wanted to do something like that.

She is basically letting you know that you are good enough for her.

- her complimenting you on your looks

This is an obvious one. If she is telling you this then you might as well kiss her because she's game.

- Easy to kiss

Although, this doesn't mean that she'll sleep with you. It almost always means she is at least attracted to you. If you are able to do this then you should push for making out which will turn her on.

Escalating to a sexual interaction:

Although lots of girls will generally allow you a sexual interaction if they agree to come back to your place some may not. Don't try too hard to convince them if they don't want too.

I think the best thing you can do is run some basic tests and if this doesn't work then just tell them you need to go somewhere and send them on their way. If she texts you another time then she will most likely be up for going further next time. Make sure to meet her at the same spot and just walk back to your place directly.

Tests for escalating to sexual interaction:

1) While making out with her, rub her boobs and move downtown after rubbing boobs for around 30 seconds. Put her hand on your crotch and see if she grabs it and whether she starts stroking for you. once you've gotten her to do that then proceed to take of her pants.

2) If she won't let you take her pants off then at least try to get her to finish you off with her hand while making out with her. If she does then she will most likely text you another time and proceed further.

3) If she won't finish you off with her hand then ask her if she can give you a massage. If she says yes then take off your shirt and have her massage you. If you work out then this might get her turned on. After 30 seconds turn around and repeat "number 1". It's possible that after the massage she may be turned on enough to proceed further, even though she didn't before.

*If she is resistant to all these then just forget about her. I don't bother with a girl if I am not getting all the way on the first interaction. I used too before but now I don't think it's necessary. You can get action from another girl just as beautiful or even more beautiful. No reason to bother with the one playing hard to get.

-Don't be afraid to lose the girl. A well-known Pick up artist who goes by the alias Mystery said a great thing that you should never forget;

"You must be willing to lose the girl before you can get the girl."

If a girl really likes you enough then there shouldn't be any resistance. That's what it all comes down too. Only give to those who want to give back.*

So that covers the introduction. Feel free to send me any questions or thoughts. All the best.
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