PUA Forum
https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/

Theory: Hot Guys need to act less confident
https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=51&t=149560		 Page 1 of 1
Author:  NaturalFlirt [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 5:04 am ]
Post subject:  Theory: Hot Guys need to act less confident
I recently got interested in learning about PUAs and I started to apply some of what I was reading and realized it was working out worse for me. I know that often acting overconfident is something suggested to do, such as sending a text saying "This is a VIP number, save it." I found for me that acting cocky made girls uninterested in seeing me again and I am sure that the reason is my appearance.

I am very good looking and have an excellent, muscular body. I think that you're game has to be somewhat different and less confident when you are more attractive. My appearance already insinuates that I am an Alpha male and confident. When I start to act too confident, girls respond negatively because they think I am arrogant and full of myself.

Anyone attractive find this to be true for them as well? Anyone think this theory is potentially accurate?

Thanks.

Natural
Author:  JeevesElliot [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 6:54 am ]
Post subject: 
I can agree with you in the sense that if your a great looking guy with amazing confidence and great talking skills that the girls would more easily recognize you as a umm "player" or such so they will put their guard up more
Author:  pumpington [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 7:13 am ]
Post subject: 
what is ''acting confident''?

confidence is a state of being sure, the whole reason why confidence is so important is because you actually ''KNOW'' what you are doing,

not knowing and pretending like you know, what does that even mean or do for you?

confidence gets you laid because you are leading to something, you have a point, you are directing to that point, you are either confident or you are not confident

you either ''know'' what you are doing, or you don't ''know''

how can you act like you ''know'' what you are doing when you don't ''know''

this is almost the same as, if I pretend like Im good at building space shuttles, will that make me better at building space shuttles?

there is no ''acting confident'', you either are sure, or you are unsure, and the only way to become sure of what you are doing, is attempt doing it over and over until you get it right enough that you can just do it, and you are ''sure'' of how to do it

courage =/= confidence

being arrogant/cocky =/= confidence

being certain = confidence

so for example, if you are going to ride a bike, and you ''know'' how to ride a bike, you will have confidence riding that bike

in the same way, if you know you're going to have a conversation, know what you are looking for in a girl, know how to find out if that girl is what you are looking for, and know how to get her home, know how to deal with issues without overreacting, know how to make out with her, know how feel her up, and know how bang her

then you are by default, confident

a girl won't be leading and escalating on you because you are confident, you will be leading and escalating on her because you are confident

if the question is simply do you have to be humble instead of arrogant, then field test what works for you,

something you could test out is to not ''try'' to be anything (don't put on an act, just be normal), and be absolutely honest and normal, don't try to impress, don't ''TRY'' to do anything, just be normal, have a real interest in finding out what she is like as a person, and escalate, gain her trust, get her alone, and have a purpose behind what you are trying to accomplish, be willing to say goodbye if she doesn't suit that purpose

don't put her down, don't kiss her ass, don't try to be funny, just let everything come out naturally, if you are funny, awesome, don't try though, if you end up teasing her and it goes over well, awesome, don't try to do it though, if you end up saying something genuinely nice to her that makes her feel good, awesome, don't be trying to get her to like you with praise though, focus more on the mood and pay attention to the girl, instead of ''trying'' to be this, or ''trying'' to do that, just focus on how you feel, how she feels, where you want to lead (what you want to get out of the situation and how you want to feel), and pay attention to her
Author:  worldrunner [ Wed Oct 31, 2012 10:12 am ]
Post subject: 
Pumpington what you are talking about is competence, which is also very different to confidence...

Competence get you laid, competence is what brings you success.

You are right you can't act with competence if you do not know what you are doing.

I've seen a lot of incompetent people who are pretty confident in what they do and they screw it up completely...
Competence can bring you some confidence but still, I've seen a lot of anxious people who are very competent and perform amazing...

Confidence does not help much in the result... but it can help you to enjoy your journey, and make it easier for you.

Yes you can act confident, breath slowly, have a confident body posture, move at the same speed you move when you do activities that you do confident, talk at the same speed, and with the same tone of voice you speak to your best friends. If you do that moments later you'll feel confident.

To NaturalFlirt: If the girl already likes you you do not have to proof yourself worthy of her anymore... Just make her feel comfortable around you and be confident enough to aks her out, hold her hand, look at her in the eyes, tell her how much you like her, kiss her, etc...

As guys we need to kill a dragon before getting to the princess, this can be done with our looks, cocky funny lines, social status, doing something impressive, etc. Once the dragon is killed if we continue acting like that we are going to kill also the princess. For you NaturalFlirt it seems that your looks are enough to kill the dragon... so stop gaming.
Page 1 of 1 All times are UTC
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group
http://www.phpbb.com/