PUA Forum :: how to respond to insults?

all that really matters is you are not emotionally effected by her insults, no reaction, you can do a wide variety of things, all the way from getting into a pissing contest of who has the better insults, to doing absolutely nothing and ignoring her

your main goal, is not to have a reaction to her, if you get mad, sad, feel insecure and must defend yourself, or become agressive as a result of what she said getting to you emotionally, then you have actively failed the shit test

if you want to handle it, remain pro-active and don't conform to her frame

either that or dissmiss her frame all together and ignore the test

totally up to you and your personality how you handle it, just focus on emotional control, when in doubt just agree with her and blow the negative things she says out of context while you keep your cool

her:fuck you
you:ok

her:fuck you
you:if you insist

her:fuck you
you:no you

her:fuck you
you:what crawled up her bum?

her:fuck you
you:*eye contact with a look that says you're weird*

her:fuck you
you:buy me dinner first

her:fuck you
you:cool!, anyways, orange juice is fucking awesome, and I love it soo much, let me tell you about this mourning, drank something really amazing, can you guess what it was?... THAT'S RIGHT BITCHES, IT WAS FUCKING ORANGE JUICE

Author:	thatdude156 [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 2:09 am ]
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what do i say when a girl says that i am stupid, lame or says fuck you? today i approached a group of girls. i had my eye on this cute hb7. i talked to her friends but some of them were really crazy bitches. i made a joke about how i should be a nobel prize winner and such, some c&f. then they said fuck you. how can i respond to that?

Author:	TheGipsy [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 3:03 am ]
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I'm no expert, but I'm gonna give you my opinion. It depends on how they say it. If they are playing with you, even being disrespectful, I guess you can play back (try not swearing the HB's friends). This way you'll come on top, and stay on the group. Now, if they are serious, you can try telling them to take it easy, tell'em you're just playing. And a little banter saying they are too serious (maybe their BFs slept in jeans?). Honestly, I would just walk off. This is a turn off for me. Even if it happens with the HB's friends.

Author:	Shine83 [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 11:17 am ]
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mate you should throw a neg from Mystery--- LOOK AT HER FRIENDS AND SAY SHE DON'T GO OUT TOO MUCH. YOU ARE TOO CLASSY TO GET ANGRY or turn it to a playful way or leave with dignity ALWAYS LEAVE IT LIKE YOU ARE LEAVING LIKE A FRIEND DONT LEAVE WITH SADDEST FACE BECAUSE PEOPLE DO LOOK AT YOU ...

Author:	Crypto [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 12:19 pm ]
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I had a similar situation where the Alpha girl said "Fuck you" blah blah blah... I paused for a second to let the tension build, then I said "Ohhhhh, I love it when you talk dirty to me" and gave her a very over exaggerated wink! Kept total eye contact the whole time with a look that said "I am going to fucking wear that ass out later". That girl and I were married for 17 years...

Author:	Shine83 [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 12:24 pm ]
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i know this girl for 4 yrs now and i think its almost over... and i cant enjoy anything... any suggestions.

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Author:	Crypto [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 12:34 pm ]
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Tell her you're not happy and why! Not in a punk way or sounding like you're complaining. Girls want to communicate, but you need to always be a Man! Good Ex: "Hey, I am not happy because I want to get outside more and explore the world". (Says you want to live a happy life and implies that she can join you if she wants to) Bad Ex: "I don't feel like you want to spend time with me, what is wrong"? (This is real DLV, you basically say "I have no life without you")

Author:	pumpington [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 1:05 pm ]
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all that really matters is you are not emotionally effected by her insults, no reaction, you can do a wide variety of things, all the way from getting into a pissing contest of who has the better insults, to doing absolutely nothing and ignoring her your main goal, is not to have a reaction to her, if you get mad, sad, feel insecure and must defend yourself, or become agressive as a result of what she said getting to you emotionally, then you have actively failed the shit test if you want to handle it, remain pro-active and don't conform to her frame either that or dissmiss her frame all together and ignore the test totally up to you and your personality how you handle it, just focus on emotional control, when in doubt just agree with her and blow the negative things she says out of context while you keep your cool her:fuck you you:ok her:fuck you you:if you insist her:fuck you you:no you her:fuck you you:what crawled up her bum? her:fuck you you:eye contact with a look that says you're weird her:fuck you you:buy me dinner first her:fuck you you:cool!, anyways, orange juice is fucking awesome, and I love it soo much, let me tell you about this mourning, drank something really amazing, can you guess what it was?... THAT'S RIGHT BITCHES, IT WAS FUCKING ORANGE JUICE

Author:	Crypto [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 1:11 pm ]
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I have just added the OJ routine to my toolbox! Effing brilliant...!

Author:	thatdude156 [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 8:44 pm ]
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Quote: all that really matters is you are not emotionally effected by her insults, no reaction, you can do a wide variety of things, all the way from getting into a pissing contest of who has the better insults, to doing absolutely nothing and ignoring her your main goal, is not to have a reaction to her, if you get mad, sad, feel insecure and must defend yourself, or become agressive as a result of what she said getting to you emotionally, then you have actively failed the shit test if you want to handle it, remain pro-active and don't conform to her frame either that or dissmiss her frame all together and ignore the test totally up to you and your personality how you handle it, just focus on emotional control, when in doubt just agree with her and blow the negative things she says out of context while you keep your cool her:fuck you you:ok her:fuck you you:if you insist her:fuck you you:no you her:fuck you you:what crawled up her bum? her:fuck you you:eye contact with a look that says you're weird her:fuck you you:buy me dinner first her:fuck you you:cool!, anyways, orange juice is fucking awesome, and I love it soo much, let me tell you about this mourning, drank something really amazing, can you guess what it was?... THAT'S RIGHT BITCHES, IT WAS FUCKING ORANGE JUICE LOL "what crawled up your ass?" thanks, im gonna use that one. after she said fuck you, i just left because she wasn't that hot anyways.

Author:	Every_Woman's_Dream [ Wed Apr 25, 2012 9:09 pm ]
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Never let disrespect go unchecked. If you can't think of anything witty say in return simply tell that person you did not like that and that was wrong. Most people will back off because the directness is unexpected. If that does not work, take control of the conversation. Don't allow the person the opportunity to insult you any more. If that does not work you may have to get into an argument...but never let disrepsect go unchecked. Its better to respond gently but firmly at first. Maybe just brag about yourself to restore your honor before you diss the other person to restore your honor. Once again more gently at first...but if they really meant to diss you, we all watch sports get off into your M. Ali trash talk. There should always be consequences for disrespect unless its really minor. Thats the key. However, absolutely never break any laws.

Author:	poeticlyskuac [ Thu Apr 26, 2012 4:58 am ]
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Go unchanged and agree. Her: You are an idiot. You: It's true but keep it on the DL. Her: You Suck. You: No I eat, you suck. You'll get it right. Her: Fuck You. You: Maybe later. Optional: I'm not sure I'll lower my standards this much right now. Her: You probably have a small dick. You: Oh it's a pencil eraser tiny, but I got a huge tongue. Her: You are fat. You: Yeah it's my life savings, I take it everywhere I go. Her: You are Ugly. You: That true but I read on a bumper sticker beauty is on the inside. Literally just agree for the most part, some sort of witty who gives a fuck your opinion doesn't matter response. Agreeing is by far the most unusual response and thus it is the best and most memorable, you make her smile. Delivery is also key good body language and confidence including a smile is key.

Author:	Deduct [ Thu Apr 26, 2012 2:23 pm ]
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Deangelo would say ' and why do you like assholes so much?' mystery says to not let it affect you, throw a neg back to her [not an insult] and before she can respond ignore her and continue with your story or whatever. In any case do NOT let it affect you because if you are of higher value what do you care about what some silly girl thinks? essentialy she is just trying to dlv you, dont buy into it.

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Apr 26, 2012 3:04 pm ]
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Quote: I paused for a second to let the tension build, then I said "Ohhhhh, I love it when you talk dirty to me" and gave her a very over exaggerated wink! Kept total eye contact the whole time with a look that said "I am going to fucking wear that ass out later". That girl and I were married for 17 years... Exactly the right thing to do!

Author:	loveorlust [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 6:58 am ]
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Haha, sorry to hear.. sounds like it was painful for you. When they do that, just hang in there. Bit@ches can be tamed,once you do, they'll give you great, mind blowing sex.

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Author:	Every_Woman's_Dream [ Sun Apr 29, 2012 9:23 am ]
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Strength in numbers. Cowards gain confidence when they are with their friends. These girls would not have said that if they were alone. All I can say is your methodology should have been different. You should have won the friends over, got them liking you if you want to approach the group.