You're probably not approaching anyone. there's plenty of material on this forum
for routines, openers, DHVs, negs, false disqualifiers, and so much more crap you
can use on a daily basis to try to get girls's attention... and all of these things
are really all aiming towards your becoming more comfortable in social situations.
to be honest man my best gaming is done on warm approaches... like if i'm in a party
with people i know and a group of my friends i'm going to be talking to some girls and
hooking up. but if it's just me in a random bar with no one i know trying to cold
approach, i'm not that hot. We all have to start somewhere.
Something i like to work on a lot is myself. I don't want to bore you with a long story
of my life or anything, haha. but basically when i first got into game i made a list of
goals i want to accomplish and a profile sheet of who i want to be... today i'm working
out 3x a week, i'm in good physical condition, and i challenge myself to talk to
strangers every day to get comfortable in odd situations (although that may be
counter intuitive to the "stranger danger" thing my parents taught me). Just stop
beating yourself up for not being the "player" your friends want you to be and rather
ask yourself "how can i become that guy?" and then do something that'll push you
into that direction.
Oh and some of the greatest things i ever did for my energy were breathing exercises (exercise in general
)quit smoking, eating healthy and um... oh yeah, stopped drinking . You're
talking about walking home wasted and wondering why i didn't get the girl?
Drinking inhibits your social abilities and competency to social calibrate... so
if you want your chances to increase, decrease your alcohol intake. Just some friendly
advice, but hey no need to listen to the stranger on the forum though, right?
Cheers man, Clowd