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| Author: | hey_lover [ Thu Feb 16, 2012 6:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | An Odd Problem |
I'm confident enough to say that I am a good looking guy, and I receive a lot of attention from the females when I am out during the day. The problem I have is that the girls who give me attention and hold strong eye contact, tend to scare me off. All of the girls I've ever approached were those that had not yet seen me, or had seemingly ignored me. In fact, I try to avoid being seen by a target until I am within distance of stopping her, and have even deviated my course if a girl had seen me before touching distance. I don't know what it is, but I get daunted when a girl has seen me, and has shown interest, possibly because I am scared that I have everything to lose in such a situation. Whilst, a girl who has not yet shown interest is a target where I have everything to gain. Maybe it's that, but I really have a problem approaching girls who are aware of my presence, as it only seems to place added pressure on delivering the goods. Whilst, the same level of pressure just doesn't exist when I'm pursuing a target who hasn't yet become aware of me. |
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| Author: | Trajan21 [ Thu Feb 16, 2012 6:10 pm ] |
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fuck all of that Go about your typical daily activities today... gym, work, going to a pub etc Everytime you see someone/anyone you want to talk to go and do it. Don't not approach that person one time. Create some social momentum, maybe the first one goes bad... maybe it goes great, but i guarantee they get better as you continue to approach. If this sounds hard to you... think of it this way. Imagine in 6 months... you haven't yet made the decision to dive in and talk to women. How do you feel? Imagine a year of this... 5 years... how do you feel now? 20 years? NOW stop. and Imagine that right now you decide that approaching isn't that big a deal (it isn't) and you start approaching the women you want. How do you see yourself differently in 6 months... a year.. 5 years.. how do you feel now having successfully approach for 10 years time... How much more fruitful has your life become in your vision of how much you've accomplished in 20 years!!!! goodluck! |
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| Author: | Hakuna [ Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:03 pm ] |
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It's a common problem, I've just never seen it in pick-up. You're intimidated by the standard already set upon you when a girl shows you interest and so you back off, proactively avoiding the larger sense of rejection in case you fail and don't meet up to expectations. People do it all the time, usually in school or in one of their other goals, to blame their shortcomings on a lack of effort rather than a lack of ability. It's not an "odd" problem, it's just approach anxiety (everyone has their unique triggers). You get over it like any other person, by approaching. There's no easy way around it, you must DO IT in order to change your thought patterns. Action precedes thought; before you can become confident, you need to act like it. And btw, listen to yourself. Girls who share eye contact with you scare you off? Man fucks Wo-man, don't pervert your own masculinity. |
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| Author: | AdamThomas [ Thu Feb 16, 2012 7:47 pm ] |
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I agree with Hakuna. I'm the complete opposite, I only approach girls who show signs of interest. The reason is that you have much more of a chance with those girls than you do with the others because they're already interested. All you have to do with them is be normal, be honest/direct about your intentions, have a normal conversation, escalate and not fuck it up (forget gamey techniques). Just try to think of it in that way. |
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