First and foremost, have a goal for going out! Your goal might be: to make 4 approaches, approaching a mixed set, to get a kiss, to get a #, to get a Day 2 setup, get laid that night, or whatever. Make sure you have a specific goal in mind for what you want to accomplish that night whether you are new or are experienced. Settings goals and achieving them will make you better, and make you focus on your sticking points!
One of the next considerations you need to think about when going out is if you are in a social mood or not. For me, I can get in a pretty social mood by calling up certain friends and talking to them for a while. Sometimes I need to do this by doing some warm up approaches. A lot of us in the community usually need something to go from our typical person to being a really talkative social person. Figure out what it is you need to do and make sure you do it on your way to or before you arrive at the venue.
When you get in the venue absolutely DO NOT make laps! I see a lot of community guys doing this and when you are walking around and not approaching you are just telegraphing the fact you aren't being social to more people. Also, it very much looks like you are on the prowl. You are better off to find a single place to hang out for a bit, that way less people see you doing this.
Also, don't hover around women. Either approach or don't. The hovering thing is not only creepy to women it obviously shows you want to approach but don't have the balls to. This definitely kills any attraction she might have had towards you.
When you get in the venue approach right away! Doesn't matter if it's a set of guys, girls, or grandmothers just approach the first set you come across. This reinforces the habit of approaching and prevents you from freezing up later on.
DO NOT just approach all girl sets. Be sure to approach mixed sets and sets of guys too. When you walk in and head for the hottest set in the bar regardless of what opener you use; it's very clear what your intentions are. Be sure to approach other sets too. Doesn't mean you have to stay in those sets for a long time but it helps you to be social, and makes it harder to be labeled a player or PUA.
Don't be checking your phone every 5 minutes! I'm pretty guilty of this one too but there is NO REASON to be checking your phone that often. You aren't that popular and you aren't getting that many texts or emails. It's pretty obvious you are socially uncomfortable and you are checking your phone so you don't feel so out of place. STOP IT!
Don't sit around and talk about game. Not only should you really be approaching this is bad because others can hear your conversation. That and when you two guys are hanging back looking at the rest of the venue talking about game believe it or not it's pretty easy for an on looker to know what you are thinking about.
That being said generally speaking stay away from where two or more PUAs gather. I've said this before and most will agree because it's usually a "grudge" session going over the approach that didn't work or why some girl is a bitch. If it's not that then it's a few PUAs making excuses on why they aren't approaching or over analyzing the situation. You have to protect your emotional state throughout the night and being around this doesn't help. Stay away and approach someone else.
Going back to that you have to watch you "state" during the night. You need to keep tabs on how you are feeling overall socially and if you have a positive mental attitude in which you are unaffected by women. Meaning you are happy and having a good time...but you are not affected by sets if it doesn't go well. You are having a good time regardless.
Stop caring so much about the sets and what you are going to say. Most girls believe it or not are nice and they will put up with a lot of different types of openers. There is a percentage of women you'll approach that no matter what you say or do just aren't going to like you (5%-10%). Don't worry about it.
Keep in mind not to stay in set too long. If in about 20-25 minutes if you aren't vibing with the set and it's not going anywhere; especially in night game; then it's time to leave. Maybe when you are first starting out you'll "plow" through to push your comfort levels or see how much further you can get. Generally speaking, you want to move on to another set.
I get pretty guilty of this because there are sets I'm not vibing with or I don't have a chance with but we are having a good conversation and I don't want to leave. Meanwhile the clock is ticking away and I'm not getting any closer to my goals.
Don't be afraid to re-open a set later. You'd be suprised as how this really really helps later on. A lot of times you were one of the more fun guys they've talked to. Now after being hit on by some lame guys they are more receptive to you. Re-opening sets is a big mpua secret cause not a lot of younger PUAs do this.
Hope these tips help!
JSmooth
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