I use to have this same problem. What I did was sit down and write out ANYTHING that would DHV me in the smallest amount and think about how I could tell a good story to someone about those things. Heres an example:
My DHV list:
1) Goes to gym/works out
2) Loves motocross/riding my YZ
3) Has lots of close friends.
4) blah
5) blah...... and so forth.
Now with those first 3 things I can start off by saying.
Me: GET THIS! I was at the gym the other day with some friends and I saw a girl that looked EXACTLY like you.
HB: Oh Really? Well I don't/do go there. Blah Blah Blah. (May ask if she was pretty here to. If your good at C/F you can say NO, SHE WAS DISGUSTING! here).
Me: Yeah, I looked over at her and was like HEY! Whats up? She looked at me like "Who the fuck are you, and why are you talking to me?". (Laughs)
HB: OMG, blah blah
Me: It was pretty funny. I was kinda embarrased at first but I explained to her and we actually struck up a nice conversation. The guys were busting my balls over that haha. (I'm not a big fan of saying "My friends.." over and over so alternate or use their names.)
HB: Cool. blah
Me: I'm still sore as hell from that visit. Ive been working on my upper body strength for the races this season. I think I may have over done my work out a bit and may have to skip riding this week.
HB: O, what do you ride?
Me: I have a dirtbike I take to the track on weekends. I have some close friends who run the show down there and they get me in without having to pay entrance fees. Yada Yada Yada Yada
This is something I would use on someone I know a little but if used in a cold approach you could just say you struck up an interesting convo with her and replace the "Hey! Whats up." part with "Yeah, her hair was longer/shorter/styled differently and it looked really great. It was like this...(Touch her shoulder or back to show how long or short it was. Good opportunity for kino.)"
Tonality and Body Language will make or break your stories regardless of how interesting you may think they are so work on that and if you don't have much to DHV yourself with, then get out and start doing something you can use. Until then pick something you may have done way back when and say "A little while back, I was at the gym..." even tho you haven't been to the gym in 10 years. Hope this helps ya out.
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