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| Author: | lot2004 [ Fri Aug 19, 2011 10:02 am ] |
| Post subject: | 3 Girls, 3 Dilemmas - What else is new?? |
Fellow PUAs, could use your opinion on my current situation. I'll try to keep it as brief and as direct as possible, and spare you the boring reading Here goes, There's 3 girls in the picture SPAM, 1. HB9 (asian) - Took her clubbing, ended up making out with her all night, didn't try to f-close as I drove both her and her friend home. Later that week I met up with her under the pretext that I need help with shopping for a gift. The 'date' turned out to be one of the best i've ever had, we laughed and flirted, all so naturally. (i'll perhaps write a short LR on it as i think it's a great idea for anyone to use as a first/one of the first dates - easy to escalate). Anyway, after i dropped her at her friends place, and went for a kiss when she leaned over to hug me, we ended up making out again. It wasn't as great of a session as at the club, but given the different circumstances, it's understandable. That night I went clubbing with my friends, and she went with hers, though I told her i MIGHT I'd text her later and maybe meet up. Never did. The problem. She's in town for a work contract and leaving back home, for good, in 2 weeks. Though we planned to go for drinks while on our last date, when I mentioned it to her via text she said she is busy with moving this week, so if not this then next week. My guess, from reading her and her actions while together, she's into me but since she's leaving, she's avoiding getting attached/hurt. She's well educated and preppy and seems to have very high morals. As I have nothing to lose, I'm thinking about pushing and trying to get her come over and watch a movie together at my place this weekend. If that fails, I've got alternate clubbing plans I can invite her to. Suggestions?? 2: HB8 ( blonde bombshell look- Extremely witty, playfull) Chatted her up facebook and text only. We have common friends, attend the same clubs & parties but never met up in person yet. Best convo I've ever had with a girl, all via text - just 100% mental fun games, PUA quality material back and forth, extremely easy to talk. Been chatting her for a few weeks, never dropped my game, and while she seemed ALWAYS on top of hers, she started to soften up and open up to me. This weekend we will be attending the same party (she asked if i was going - i just played with her mind and didn't answer the question - i was already planning to attend the party :p) My dilemma: The bar has been set so HIIIGH through our text conversations that it will be extremely hard to keep that same level of interaction in person. In other words, I have no fucking clue how I should act around her. 1. Act cool, and don't try to close in ANY way, just make a good impression, leave her hanging? OR 2. Try to escalate 3. HB7 ( I'll leave this for later, my message is already fluffy ) Much appreciated boys, LOT |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Fri Aug 19, 2011 12:45 pm ] |
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Girl 1 has presented you with few chance to lay her;but you didnt. You are right,she could be trying to avoid attachment knowing she has to leave. But she could be saying also,"he blew his chances". Girls 2...well I liked the way you framed it by not answering her directly about going to the party thing. But I've never met a guy before who had anxiety about how to carry on when you do meet. Usually the girl's the one left to worry about what to say when yall do meet. So I really can advise you with girl 2. |
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| Author: | lot2004 [ Fri Aug 19, 2011 4:23 pm ] |
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Thanks for the reply K-Loc. In terms of the first girl, I could have pushed harder the first night, but I didn't want to overdo it right from the start. It was late, she was with her friend. Decided to play it a little slower, lure her in. I'll push for it in the next two weeks, not like i have anything to lose anyway as she's leaving. Girl2: It's not anxiety I'm talking about but confusion rather. I know she feels like there's something between us because of the text messages we've been exchanging. So my question is, would it be more effective to make a move on her and try to close in any way OR interact with her, charm her, but not push for anything more ... keep her wondering what's going on .. "why isn't he all over me like all the other douches?" ... end it all on a good, light note, while leaving her hanging. And then call her 2 days after and set up a "date". Ideas? |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Fri Aug 19, 2011 5:18 pm ] |
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Best to always try full close. No playing it safe with girl 2 as you did with girl 1. If there's no chance of laying her(bad logistics),then you may ease up. |
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| Author: | Don Draper [ Fri Aug 19, 2011 5:53 pm ] |
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Quote: Girl2: It's not anxiety I'm talking about but confusion rather. I know she feels like there's something between us because of the text messages we've been exchanging.
Well, hate to say it but Girl 1 is probably done for. She just doesn't want to do it anymore hence the whole "busy with packing" excuse.So my question is, would it be more effective to make a move on her and try to close in any way OR interact with her, charm her, but not push for anything more ... keep her wondering what's going on .. "why isn't he all over me like all the other douches?" ... end it all on a good, light note, while leaving her hanging. And then call her 2 days after and set up a "date". Ideas? Now, Girl 2 is a much more interest prospect, seems to me that you guys have got a good rapport and comfort level established firmly in place. Firstly, stop assuming things the whole "she feels like there's something between us because of the text messages we've been exchanging. " will make you nervous. You'll have a lot on your mind regarding what she expects, what she wants from you blah blah blah. Just be yourself, you're the guy she's been having a good time with. Not Brad Pitt. Just be your own person and have a good time with her. Don't think about escalation and being cool, just be Natural. |
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| Author: | lot2004 [ Fri Aug 19, 2011 9:09 pm ] |
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Thanks for the feedback guys. I'll update the thread once I make any progress. For now, I'll push with Girl1 (call her today and see if she wants to come over to watch a movie at my place tomorrow) and play it by ear, Natural, with Girl2 ... try and get a close if possible. |
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