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| Author: | lynxeffect [ Sat Jul 30, 2011 10:58 am ] |
| Post subject: | Few requests from girls to add on FB, what now??? |
Last night I went out in central London and what started out quite slow and quiet, ended up with me meeting quite a few girls who gave me their names to add on FB. I played it as, "So I think we should totally be friends, do you have Facebook?" To which they all replied, "Yeah, get your phone out and put my name in." So I'm thinking, what do I do now? Just add them on Facebook and wait til they're in the chat? Send them a message and see if they add me? Or add them and send them a message too? On a side note, this interesting convo happened. HB8 at the bar on her own, so I open with the "If you're seeing someone and you kiss someone else, is that cheating" and then "what if the girl goes out kissing her girl mates and other girls". Anyway the HB8 was properly all over me, when this guy turned up and she introduced me to him. I made a joke like "So what's this, a first date?" They said it was a 2nd so I spoke to the guy for a while. I went to another area of the bar and started chatting to some other girls. When I made my way round to the bar again she was on her own so I went up to her and again she was all over me. I told her that I felt bad chatting to her when she was on a date, but she said it was good. I went to leave and she grabbed me and said, "No stay, you can't leave me alone at the bar!" So I said, "We should totally be friends, are you on FB?" To which she replied, "Yeah, absolutely, but you're gonna have to add me cos my fone is shit." "Do you like this guy?" I asked, and she said, "Yeah kind of" So I told her that I thought she probably liked me more! "Well that's very confident!" she said. So I got her name and again went to leave, and she was adamant that I stayed, but I left and she was like "OMG! You can't just leave me!" Haha... So what should I do with this girl? |
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| Author: | HeyWhatsUp [ Sat Jul 30, 2011 11:39 am ] |
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First off, why go for facebook and not a number? Anyway I think you did pretty good and you should totally add her and message her, but add her in like 2-4 days so you don't seem needy and that you have other things to worry about, other than facebook. Message her in a friendly, but flirty kinda way or friendly but escalte to a flirty kinda thing quickly. That's what I think 
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| Author: | GAPP [ Sat Jul 30, 2011 2:19 pm ] |
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Why add her, when you can just message her - and get her to add you? Anyways, I'd probably go for some reverse roleplay, since there's a big chance she spoke with alot of guys that night, and you'll stick out better, when you remember her of the situation of her wanting you to stay, thus leaving. You could do this by saying, "Hey [name or nickname], where are your manners - leaving me all alone at [barname]?  Hope your night was just as fun as mine."
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| Author: | HeyWhatsUp [ Sat Jul 30, 2011 8:49 pm ] |
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Yeh getting her to add him is also an option, I just take it as stalling, but that is probably better.
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| Author: | AttractionKings [ Mon Aug 01, 2011 12:46 am ] |
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Agree about the facebook close instead of number haha. If it was me I would've tried to isolate this girl and try to f*ck close her that night. There was plenty of IOIs and she was practically handing herself to you. For online game just send her a message, grab her number. Set up a time to hang and f*ck close her already. Sounds like she's agressive to be agressive. Good luck. |
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| Author: | lynxeffect [ Mon Aug 01, 2011 6:57 pm ] |
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Thanks for the advice, guys. I went for the role reversal idea. Got this reply today - Her: Hey, haha! How did you find me on facebook? What was I saying to you at the bar? :oS So I'm thinking to definitely not answer her questions and just straight out get her number. She hasn't added me yet! How about? Me: Think we should continue where we left off on Friday night. Send me your number and I'll text you sometime... What do you reckon??? |
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| Author: | noorosha [ Mon Aug 01, 2011 7:20 pm ] |
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I would personally roll with it and say something like "you were telling me how into me you were of course! Not that I don't appreciate the compliments, but I need to know more about a girl before I know they're genuine and not just into me for my looks " that should subtly call her out on that lame "I don't remember" line she's trying to sell you in an attempt to get you to chase her and will necessitate a response along the lines of "what more do you need to know?" then you can take it from there! |
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| Author: | GAPP [ Tue Aug 02, 2011 2:19 am ] |
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I would definately not use any cheasy lines with this one here. The whole "don't take me for my looks" part is kinda oldschool, and most girls have heard it plenty. Be different. Stand out! I like your direct way, and you're right - don't EVER answer her question. It's not really a question she needs to have answered anyways. I would probably stick to something similar to yours, like, "I'm going out with some friends this Friday. Shoot me your number, then I'll think about meeting up with you. "
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| Author: | lynxeffect [ Tue Aug 02, 2011 5:17 pm ] |
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So this is how the conversation has gone so far - Me: Hey X, where are your manners - leaving me alone at X? Hope you're night was just as fun as mine! Her: Hey! Haha! How did you find me on Facebook? What was I saying to you at the bar? Me: You were telling me how into me you were, of course! Now I appreciate the compliments, but I need to know more about a girl before I know she's genuine and not just into me for my looks! Her: Haha. I so did not say that Her: (30 mins later) I was there with someone so totally didn't say that! Me: Well I'm going out with some friends on Friday, send me your number and I'll think about meeting up with you Her: Dude, I'm really confused. Think we're having two different conversations, mate! So I'm thinking to leave it for a few days. Any other thoughts??? |
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| Author: | GAPP [ Wed Aug 03, 2011 12:21 am ] |
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Ouch, so what made you give in and answer her question anyways? Thought you were going to keep of it. Don't even answer a question like that, or explain yourself to any woman. Period. One thing that's extremely important to always remember, is that you can never EVER let a girl feel guilt towards her friends/bf/date/whatever. That'll ruin everything for you, because if she feels she's a bad date, and you mention it for her, she'll get all defensive. I guess this one kinda took it really lightly and felt guilty. Anyways, I think you can still salvage this - you have to remember you still had her dancing to your notes at the bar. Problem is, you have to get her into another emotional state, and that won't happen right this instant. |
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| Author: | lynxeffect [ Wed Aug 03, 2011 3:36 pm ] |
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I went with noorosha's line, but then when it went pear-shaped tried to bring it back with your line, GAPP. This is what happened earlier on: Me: What? You totally forgot what happened? Wow, you just lost total cool points! (Taken from another post on here - can't remember who, but cheers) Her: It's a blur. So are you going to tell me honestly? :oS Me: I'd love to carry on this conversation, but alas facebook messaging is not really my thing. I'm more about real world interaction, so... here's my number XXXXX XXXXXX, send me a text and maybe we can arrange to chat in person I will let you know what happens. |
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| Author: | lynxeffect [ Wed Aug 03, 2011 4:03 pm ] |
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Just got this response: Her: Ha ha well why dont u tell me in brief what happened! I thought we spoke at the bar and then I involved the person I was with in the convo! I don't recall giving you my facebook name! So I replied with: What's in it for me? Haha, your facebook name??? Do you have a 'twitter name' as well? Her: Come on dude!!  Hmmm... so it continues... |
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| Author: | GAPP [ Wed Aug 03, 2011 5:56 pm ] |
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Aight, so either this girl is retarded or very retarded. Maybe she was drunk out of her mind, or maybe she's just really really really retarded! I would definately leave her alone, and stop answering her stupid questions. You gave her your digits, just let it be - if needs to be. She'll feel guilt, if you tell her how the night went down - considering she just told you that she thought "Mr.Date" was involved in the convo's aswell. |
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