OK so I put this thread up because I havent seen a single mention of this site yet on other threads.
To put it in perspective, how it works:
RSVP is an Australian paid site where you pay for a book of 'stamps'. Each giving you the ability to email/chat with her for 1 month. You are also able to 'kiss' for free which is pre-scripted 'hey whats up' type message which she will then either accept or decline.
My story and what works for me
After mixed online dating success I now have a 90% positive response rate to emails, baring in mind that I rarely cold email-that is email a woman who hasnt accepted a kiss before hand. Internet dating guide books say you should man up and forget the free shit, if you like a girl then message her straight up. But this is a costly and low % play, I find it better to follow the particular convention of the site your at because it feels more natural and logical to her. In this case use a free kiss to start with and if your profile is up to the test-which mine now is-she will invite your email more often than not.
My profile
Im a little shy dropping a link in here so Im gonna paste my main section instead:
Hey whats up? Ok the fun part... Im social and ambitious, with a playful and mischievous side. Direct and confident in myself. Im definitely drawn to people with a sense of adventure as they would reflect my lust for life and curiosity. Always looking for cool new ideas for a holiday. Got some travel stories? Id love to hear them. Constantly looking for new challenges and am dedicated to becoming a better person everyday. Enjoying the process so far! So my ideal partner would be respectful of her own mind and body, serious in her life, intelligent, strong, appreciative and affectionate. Someone I can learn from and be challenged by. As comfortable in a sleeping bag as in a 5-star hotel. I would certainly travel for the right person. UK born and Perth raised, in Cairns at present, moving to Sydney later in the year. In the last three years Ive been to Machu Picchu and the Amazon, stood next to 400kg of pure gold as part of my job and appeared on the David Letterman show.
Curious? contact me.
p.s. If your not sure or happy with where you are in life right now then please dont contact as Im not looking for a casual or just in case type of arrangement
Things to note here-
THE main body is casual and not too full on, its also a single paragraph thats easy to read. Too many guys get bogged down in heavy emotional stuff and it becomes too much for her. She doesnt want to step into your emotional turmoil, she wants to become part of the life of a fun and content guy. Yeah, Im single and looking-thats why Im here-but I make sure not to dwell on it like its a low part of my life. Rather, its a small issue Id like to fix and Ill be happy no matter what happens. I also show I have varied interests and am adventurous-again without going into too much detail. My main pic is easily the best one I haven too, Im sitting on the beach in greece wearing black sunnies with a singlet, and have the rest of the pics hidden, putting enough out there but still maintaining some mystery. My headline comment says nothing about being single, a nice guy, blah blah blah. Boring as shit. Currently it says 'Elephant Sex' which sure stands out amongst all the profiles out there, its kinda fun and makes her curious.
Emails
Before going into this I must pay homage to the direct approach master-I forget who that is. Direct approach works men. I am sceptical of so many of the BS lines i read on this forum from guys who swear they work-yet I just cannot see a woman in her right mind being driven to respond to 99% of these (eg the Mirror Opener-does anyone get that shit? To me it makes no logical sense whatsoever). My initial email is a cut and paste I use every time, and largely copied from the Direct Approach thread. Here it is...
hey ____, you seem like you'd be a nice person to talk to. From your page I get the impression you have a big heart, are adventurous and definitely cute
. We should chat some time. Coming to Syd for a wedding in Oct and moving there later. Have a feeling youd be a great person to meet, Id like to get to know you better. ____if that fails to get a response then follow up with this (which I wrote):
I wont bite ____ (unless you ask). Seriously tho, if email makes you more comfortable then feel free. To me, IM captures the essence of somebody better and thats why we're here right? I have no interest in a pen pal ultimately. Ill be on today around lunch time so if you spot me, make contact. If Im not dealing with auditors we should chat, our travel/adventure stories-theres an hour there. Did you know the 25th Anniv for Topgun was a few weeks back - I dusted off the dvd, just as good as the first time. *sniff sniff* You stink...
(she referenced liking Topgun in her profile)
Rarely by this time have I not gotten good quality contact from her, sometimes even an email address or phone number after the first message alone. From there on I talk about whatever I want and ditch the script.
The reasons why the direct approach works best should be pretty self evident. Also, Im not in business if lying to her in my emails/profile-whatever I say is real. Of course theres direct and theres direct-use your brains gentlemen and consider her reaction.
Lastly-my profile contains odd sentences from other successful guys on this site which I have added and mixed to make something that is truthful and represents me. I invite you to do the same if you want just dont go overboard!
Other thoughts and tips on RSVP are invited.