A Sudden Urge
I know i have eff'd this one up before i discovered PUA & The game. Having read neil strauss's book the game and discovered the PUA community, i have suddenly felt the urge to revisit the past and hopefully get her to be more than just friends, as she is a lovely girl. I know all my flaws on the way i approached the situation and it still annoys me to this day.
Background To The Problem
About three years ago i started talking to this girl on the internet (for hours at a time) and by text message. As time went by, i finally plucked up the courage to ask her if she wanted to meet up for a few drinks, to which she obliged. During this time, i developed the unfortunate condition called one-itis
Looking back on when i met her, it has become aparant to me now that i was acting like a total AFC (to which i still am, but i am slowly learning the ropes
). I was nervous when i met her and didnt feel like i had much to say etc etc. Despite this, i felt she was still texting me (initiating texts, not just replying) and nothing was affected. All Downhill From Here
One night, after indulging in too much satans brew, i was on instant message and i was yet again talking to her - This time though, i did the shameful deed. I told her straight that i liked her, she couldnt believe it and was like 'well i like you too blah blah', but i knew she meant as a friend. So i then said 'i like you.... more than friends', to which she replied to me with the old dissapointed face (:|). Me being me, not knowing when to stop, I said whats wrong, i hope this hasnt deterred you from meeting up again and then she said it did as she now feels uncomfortable. (which looking back, if i were a girl i probably would
). She still see's me as a friend though, which may be a problem. Never the same again
After my confession she stopped initiating texts/instant messages and took longer to reply to my texts/instant messages. I have seen her a few times in our town, where she has walked up to me and said hello. The convo's soon got stale and ended - a particular instance not that long ago.
(oh... and stupidly i confronted her about the issue, exactly like an AFC would).
The Present Day
She resides on my facebook, i give her status comments now and again (when she has something interesting to post) to which she nearly always replies. I think we would mutually agree that i totally eff'd up, but i suppose it happens to the best of us... right?
I am still a virgin, the one-itis has gone and i feel i am able to have another go, but i was just wondering what you guys think from a PUA point of view. I know it will be a shame to drop her but if i try again, i know it will require some doing.
p.s. i apologise for the lengthy post.
Thankyou
Technophobe