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| Author: | BigDobes [ Fri Mar 04, 2011 9:53 am ] |
| Post subject: | Mixed Signals? |
Started talking to a girl from a dating site. She initiated communication based on our similar interests, (mainly MMA, I train, shes been fighting pro for yrs, etc.) Got the number exchange within a day. Then told me to find her on FB. Now her profile says she is only looking for friends/not looking for a commitment, etc. Through conversation (text) she has also mentioned that she is thinking about getting off of the site or just trying to make sure that she gets the "just wants friends" point across, due to people hitting on her, being douches, etc. BUT in some of our conversation (also still text) she has also asked what my "type" of girl is, which I answered pretty generically, and she has suggested wanting to meet-up/hang out sometime. She was gonna suggest going to some fights this sat, but unfortunately I already have plans, which she then suggested Fri night, I agreed, but no plans were really made. I definitely at this point dont expect it to be a quick lay or anything like that, but maybe it could turn into something way down the line. To be honest, either way I wouldnt mind. So far she seems pretty cool, and well obviously we have similar interests. Anyway, does it seem like she may have some interest? Or am I getting set-up for the LJBF line? |
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| Author: | vibe112 [ Sat Mar 05, 2011 1:04 am ] |
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Always remember this as a general rule for dating sites. WOMEN LIKE TO LIE. They know that they are signing up for a DATING SITE. She says she's only looking for friends because she wants to make it clear that she will not engage in a fling. Friendship +attraction = relationship. Asking what type of girls you are into is an IOI. A big one too. If you want more proof be flirty and see how she responds back. If she flirts back she's a big fat liar. |
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| Author: | luthor [ Sat Mar 05, 2011 2:12 am ] |
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You've got to remember a lot of the messages women get online are immediately sexual. Not getting to know you talk, just nice tits, wanna shag etc. Or dudes looking for notches on bedposts and one night stands. I've got a similar one now, she said she's not looking for anything serious and just looking for fun in her profile but hanging out with her the other day she says, 'i can't find a boyfriend and blah blah' she did say it sarcastically, I can't remember what we was talking about but it shows she was looking for one. And the first time we hung out she said, so do you wanna see each other again, I said yes and she said good, because she's never been interested in anything that's come her way before me, since she split with her ex 6 months ago. So what women say and what they mean are totally different things. Just go for it with an open mind and see how things pan out. If you're worrying about one thing or another it's a sure way to mess up a night. |
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| Author: | BigDobes [ Sat Mar 05, 2011 12:39 pm ] |
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Yea I basically told myself the exact same thing...why in the hell would she go to a dating site just to find friends? And I definitely took the "type of girls" things as an IOI, and I kept it as open as possible. I've definitely debated gettin a little flirty, but I'm really not sure how well she would respond to that. I definitely think I'm just gonna try to chill with her sometime, and feel things out much better in person. Thanks for the help though, at least I got a little reassurance. |
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| Author: | First-Rate [ Sat Mar 05, 2011 2:13 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Mixed Signals? |
BigDobes, just because a girl asks you to hang out or is curious about your life (such as the type of girl you like), does not mean that she is interested in you....not at all. BUT, just because she has people bother her on facebook all day, doesnt mean she wants to stay single for the rest of her life either. She may have the "just friends" part because she is tired of strange men sending her messages and requests and to her, maybe facebook isnt a dating tool but just a way to stay connected to friends. She may be the person who doesnt like to flirt on facebook but rather flirt in person. So keep that in mind. But I would say youve got to 'make a move' if you want to test these waters and see if she is interested or not. While those two singlas sound mixed.....they also (to me) sound unrelated. I would say, rather than 'plans' to hang out one night.....you actually ask her out on a date. See where that takes you. If you ask her to 'dinner and a movie' -- thats not really something friends would do...and see how she handles it. best of luck! Cheers. |
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| Author: | BigDobes [ Sun Mar 06, 2011 12:14 am ] |
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Thanks, and it wasnt facebook, it is a legit "dating site" so I mean I would think she know she is putting herself out there a little bit. We actually exchanged numbers before bringing the FB aspect into it. Anyway, she did want to try and go out tonight, but I already had plans that were definitely unavoidable. I don't feel this has hurt me, and surprisingly enough it seems like she might be being a little flirty(i got the playful "well dont miss me too much" line today.) Thanks again for the help everyone, I'm definitely gonna try to get something together for next weekend. |
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