Note: Whenever I give advice on here, I always try to give it from a woman’s perspective, not just my perspective as a woman. With that being said, I think it’s only right that I let you know this list contains first and foremost my own personal “annoyances” when it comes to online interactions with men; I realize and should stress that many women may not care about some of the points I’m about to make- it all comes down to her age, maturity, and intellectual level (if it helps to know, I’m 19). However, many women will easily get turned off by some of the following mistakes you guys make when gaming us online, and so I thought it would be beneficial to some if I made this list.
Just a Heads Up
I honestly am not an advocate of “long term” online game. Your goal should be to get her off her computer and in person with you ASAP. The more time you spend with her in cyberspace, the more you’re likely to disappoint; admit it, you’re a lot wittier online than you are in person, and that’s understandable- you have more time to plan out your responses (and to ask the guys on here for some
). You’re definitely more comfortable in front of the computer than face to face with a girl, and I’m willing to bet you don’t really look as hot IRL as you do in those pictures you posted. If played right, your online game can get her intrigued and create a great alpha male persona in her mind, but if you don’t come off as all of that and then some in person, she’ll defiantly be disappointed.Now here are some things I would advise you to avoid or at least be aware of when gaming women online. I personally would not meet up with any guy that has committed any of the following “mistakes”, and I am not the only one; don’t think that just because you’re online, you can’t turn her off- you most defiantly can.
#1: U Talk Lyke Dis
Spell check is your best pal when it comes to online gaming. I know it may sound ridiculous, but I will not even respond to a guy with bad spelling- I don’t care how witty your opener was. Correct spelling and sentence structure will make you seem more mature and intelligent, and those are both qualities she likes in a man, especially if she’s 18+ years old. Know the difference between “you’re” and “your”, “there” and “they’re”…know when “its” and when “it’s”; believe me, some women really do take notice of these things. Also, use punctuation! If you’re asking her a question, use a “?” … I can’t tell you how many questions I’ve been asked without a question mark, and it drives me insane! Common guys!
#2: You “lol” too much, and everything is “jks!!!”
Again, it makes you appear more immature. I’m not saying you are, you may very well not be and still “lol” between every other word, but that’s the way it comes off. And use the “jks” sparingly… she’ll get the point, you don’t need to label your jokes. I know it’s harder to neg online- it may come off too harsh, but in that case you can always use “:P” or “;)”… anything but the “jks!!” And don’t go overboard with the emotions either.
#3: You Write Novels
A good rule to follow is that your responses should always be relatively shorter than hers. I mean, if you’re writing her big chunky paragraphs and she’s giving you one word responses, something’s wrong. The more you write to her, the more interested and invested you appear. The less you write, the more busy and unconcerned you will seem, which is what you should be going for! Write just enough to keep the conversation going.
#4: Your Response Is Always Instantaneous and Your Conversations are Too Long
If you’re chatting with someone, it’s important to keep the conversation going, I agree. But every once in a while, I would wait a good couple of minutes before responding to a comment or question- anything to cause a little anticipation. Also, don’t drag these conversations on for hours- you want to keep her wanting more, and the way to do it is to end the conversation while it’s going good, not when you have nothing left to say. Tell her you have to go, and leave it at that.
#5: You take mirror pictures. In the bathroom. With no shirt on.
It doesn’t matter if you have a 6 pack- we make fun of these pictures, and, chances are, if she’s over the age of 14, she WILL NOT find this hot. In fact, guys that do this are ridiculous and should be kicked off Facebook. If you want to impress her with pictures, put up photos of you and other girls, you and your guy friends, etc. You can even do a bad cropping job, and cut some chick out of your photo, and leave just a normal photo of you- just make sure you can tell there was a girl there.
#6: You Resend Chain Letters and Ask Stupid Survey Questions On Facebook
“What is my best quality!?!?! 1. I’m cute 2. I’m dreamy…” Oh please! No self respecting alpha male will ever post these in their Facebook status, because no self respecting alpha male cares what other girls think of him- they should be the ones concerned with what he thinks. That said, don’t resend or start any sort of chain mail. Please. Once again, it makes you seem immature, bored, desperate for attention, and the list goes on and on.
Anyway, this is what I have so far. If I come up with another one, I’ll add it to the list, but I believe these to be at the very top when it comes to general turnoffs. I hope I didn’t offend anyone here, again this is just advice to help you improve your game.
-Roz
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