| PUA Forum https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/ |
|
| How to approach: facebook https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=50&t=75994 |
Page 1 of 1 |
| Author: | Ad Payne [ Thu Sep 30, 2010 8:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | How to approach: facebook |
Here is the thing. It is that girl I used to work with few years ago. We barely know each other but I know that she just broke with her boyfriend and yesterday she posted like - can anyone hook me up for blind date. She is pretty cool and a bit crazy. Problem is that I am divorced with my missus and I do have loads of pictures of my kid as I love him so much. Problem is that she might still think I am with my ex and just trying to have a sneaky date. If I tell her that I am divorced and lets sort of go for a drink, she might get that wrong as well - take women side or so. How should I approach her? I can see that she is gagging for a date but I don't wanna look like a perv who she would push away without a doubt. |
|
| Author: | Genuine [ Thu Sep 30, 2010 8:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | dont get into details.. |
just be like.. hey lets meet up for drinks on blankday.. and see what she says.. u can open that up with.. I know this kick ass hotspot over in.. blah city.. you should come have a few drinks with me on blankday... having pics with the kids is a good thing.. as for the divorce.. id just have your status as single.. if she asks while u guys are out.. u can mention that you are divorced.. but dont get into detail on why.. if anything just say that you and your wife were heading in different directions.. |
|
| Author: | Ad Payne [ Thu Sep 30, 2010 9:39 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Thanks Genuine, I thought I should do that, but I was worried I will sound a bit pushy. I did push away few girls like that. I tried to sound sort of careless - like I can't help you, got no mates who are single. I could only offer to catch up in the place I know and you would have to tall me all the rumours about Company We Used To Work. Let me know. Now I guess I just have to wait. Probably the worst will be to have no replay whatsoever. |
|
| Author: | Mig [ Thu Sep 30, 2010 4:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | |
I have to disagree with Genuine here. I think that's the wrong way to approach this. If you have kids and she's looking for a blind date...chances are she's looking to start something real casual. A divorcée w/ kids isn't casual sounding to anyone. I think you need to come in under the radar and not as a potential match here. Normally I would agree w/ Genuine, but in this case, I think you have to go with, "Hey, let's go grab a drink at *good spot as Genuine said* and I'll let you be my wingman. If we have time, we'll meet some guys for you too." Then...when you get to the drinking place, you have a great thing to play with, "Oh, how about her...what type of personality do you think she has?" Honestly.. unlimited material and things you two can talk about. (I kind of wish I'd used this on a date I had last night...maybe I'll use it for my date later today) And...over the night..she'll realize as you two are talking about all these other women...and how you may be a bit picky/too good for them...that you haven't even considered her. Before you know it you're on a date, and she is thinking with her attraction for you (and other women's attraction for you) rather than her head *He has kids and has been married*. That would be my approach. Best of luck mate. |
|
| Author: | Genuine [ Thu Sep 30, 2010 6:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | hey not bad |
Mig.. I agree... that is a good approach for this situation... |
|
| Author: | Ad Payne [ Tue Oct 05, 2010 8:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Hi Mig, Thanks for advice. Wish I read it before sending her message. I don't think it gone well. I wrote to her somthing like that: Sorry, I don't have any single friends, but I do know nice restourant where they serve kick ass curry laksa. Do you wanna try some day. She wrote back: Sorry, I do not go for dinner with married men. I wrote her back: Thanks, you maid my day - it's like "I don't take sweets from strangers" (I thought negging her will help.) She wrote me back: I do take sweets from strangers. End at the end she put this smile ;]]]] What does that suppose to mean? Shell I let her go or what. Last thing I want is to push her too hard and then she will write something stupid on my wall so all my friends will see that and I will look like a fool. |
|
| Page 1 of 1 | All times are UTC |
| Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group http://www.phpbb.com/ |
|