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Author:  62016 [ Sun Aug 22, 2010 7:40 am ]
Post subject:  Facebook friend request ignored. BS Situation. Help needed.
Originally this thread was about a girl who just left my facebook friend request unanswered, it said "Awaiting Friend Confirmation" for a few days.

Today she finally decided to ignore my request, don't know why. Since she accepts other guys, and its not about looks since I have no picture of myself on facebook yet.

What the fuck. I sent other girls requests and they accepted, even her real close friends. (One of her friends liked me last year). I find it complete bullshit that all the other girls accepted, and the one I actually want to talk to ignores it.

I'm 16 and shes 15-16. I'm pretty new to all this so I wanted to practice online a little.

I need a good opener that will initiate a conversation at least.

So what should I message her?
Author:  62016 [ Sun Aug 22, 2010 9:57 pm ]
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haha cmon...
Author:  SRVisGod24 [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 4:36 am ]
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Do you know for sure that the girl has even been on since you've sent the request?
Author:  62016 [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 4:50 am ]
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Do you know for sure that the girl has even been on since you've sent the request?

Yeah man, for some reason when I send a friend request to someone, I can see their newsfeed even while the request is pending. I saw her add five guys but she just completely ignored mine.

I don't have a bad reputation or anything so its not like she heard something bad about me. But I did make a new facebook and I only added 13 people for now.
Author:  Mungo [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 6:02 am ]
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Maybe she added those 5 other guys because she actually knows them well? Maybe she ignored you because she does not know you by name and you didn't have a picture?

What kind of interactions have you had with her before? Do you expect her to know who you are?
Author:  62016 [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 6:09 am ]
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Maybe she added those 5 other guys because she actually knows them well? Maybe she ignored you because she does not know you by name and you didn't have a picture?

What kind of interactions have you had with her before? Do you expect her to know who you are?


She has about 560 facebook friends. On top of that, I went on my friends account, my friend doesn't know her and never talked to her, and sent a request and she accepted.

The bullshit part is I can tell by her comments and profile that I could get along with her real good. It's not fair she just flat out ignored my request, haha.
Author:  Mungo [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 6:25 am ]
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She has about 560 facebook friends.
I have 396 friends, all of which are actual friends, acquainted and business contacts. I never add anyone for the mere fact that they request that I do so, and I'm not even a hot girl.. They get loads of friend requests and hardly do anything else online than clicking ignore buttons.
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On top of that, I went on my friends account, my friend doesn't know her and never talked to her, and sent a request and she accepted.
Maybe your friend has a profile picture? Sometimes, that's a deal breaker. Why should she add an unknown guy with nothing but a generic name and a standard facebook-picture on his profile?
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The bullshit part is I can tell by her comments and profile that I could get along with her real good. It's not fair she just flat out ignored my request, haha.
She doesn't know that, and she may not even agree would she know some basic facts about you. You're really taking this too seriously. You guys are nothing but text strings on a screen to each other, by the way it seems from your posts. How can you take that so seriously?

My advice for you would be something like the one they give to people who experience IRL one-itis: Randomly add 50-100 other HBs on facebook, and you'll see how important all this seems to you after a while. ;)
Author:  62016 [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 6:34 am ]
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She has about 560 facebook friends.
I have 396 friends, all of which are actual friends, acquainted and business contacts. I never add anyone for the mere fact that they request that I do so, and I'm not even a hot girl.. They get loads of friend requests and hardly do anything else online than clicking ignore buttons.
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On top of that, I went on my friends account, my friend doesn't know her and never talked to her, and sent a request and she accepted.
Maybe your friend has a profile picture? Sometimes, that's a deal breaker. Why should she add an unknown guy with nothing but a generic name and a standard facebook-picture on his profile?
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The bullshit part is I can tell by her comments and profile that I could get along with her real good. It's not fair she just flat out ignored my request, haha.
She doesn't know that, and she may not even agree would she know some basic facts about you. You're really taking this too seriously. You guys are nothing but text strings on a screen to each other, by the way it seems from your posts. How can you take that so seriously?

My advice for you would be something like the one they give to people who experience IRL one-itis: Randomly add 50-100 other HBs on facebook, and you'll see how important all this seems to you after a while. ;)


Haha I knew you would mention that one-itis thing. Yeah I guess I am taking it a little too seriously but shes one of the few hot girls that I found on facebook around my age and around my area.

That's why I'm playing it safe and being more serious about it then usual. I don't want to give up on this unless she straight up messages me and tells me to fuck off. :lol:
Author:  Mungo [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 6:50 am ]
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I wouldn't say that being serious is a way of playing it safe (it ususlly hurts your game in any setting), but however. Go for it, just don't take it personally. Don't even take IRL rejections personally, they're not really rejecting YOU, they're rejecting your approach. In this case, she's not even rejecting your approach, she's only rejecting a generic name without a profile picture. So it should be impossible to take it personally.

Whatever you do, don't call her on ignoring the request, since you're not supposed to know that she has done so. Letting her know that you know makes her think of you as a creep. At the very tops, say something about her having a friend request pending in case she hasn't already ignored it. If you're gonna message her, do some witty stuff that makes you stand out without making you sound whiny for complaining that she hasn't added you. Actually, don't even mention it, and hopefully she won't even know that you're someone she has already rejected.

And get a profile pic. That's like a golden rule. Many people never add anyone without one. Also, if you get a pic before messageing her, that increases the chances of her not knowing that you're the guy she rejected.
Author:  62016 [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 6:55 am ]
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Thanks man I appreciate the help. I'll put a profile pic soon and message her in a few days when I think of something. I should playfully tease her right?
Author:  Mungo [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 7:37 am ]
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That's what I would do, but I'm really in no position to give any definitive advice on text or online game as I'm still a novice and haven't had a lot of success with that so far. :)
Author:  62016 [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 7:41 am ]
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That's what I would do, but I'm really in no position to give any definitive advice on text or online game as I'm still a novice and haven't had a lot of success with that so far. :)

Haha I wanna tell her she reminds me of Bambi the Deer with her big ass eyes.

Don't know though sounds kinda lame and mean, lol.
Author:  Mungo [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 7:48 am ]
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It's a backhanded compliment. Hey, after all, Bambi is cute. Big eyes are considered cute. I think it sounds good. Mainly a compliment, somewhat a neg.
Author:  62016 [ Mon Aug 23, 2010 7:55 am ]
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Edit: I can forget that line, she took off the pics where you can see her face clearly and made them for "Friends" only, just saw them on my friends account.

Haha, fuck.
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