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Author:  Blueshell [ Wed Jun 23, 2010 5:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Is it Over?
So recently, I met this girl a week ago and we talked for a bit, I grabbed her email and left.

I later added her on facebook and she started by talking to me first. We continued(and she even told me to add her on msn), but it seemed that she seemed to stop replying as quickly. I msged her a bit, and she replies, but she eventually stops replying.

She's left for Calgary, and won't be back till later on in the month, and I'm trying to keep interest until she gets back.

I'm not sure where I screwed up here, could anyone give me some ideas as to where to head from here?

Thanks
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Wed Jun 23, 2010 6:18 pm ]
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Well,Im not sure if Im looking too deeply into this one.

But,at some point,I think you'd subcommunicted something weak to her,or something that turns her off(an IOD).

Perhaps something you said to her on MSN.

Or perhaps she's not looking for what you are.

There's a lot you've left out so I can only guess.

But let's assume yall have had deep chats.

Lets assume she's a chick-on-the go,meaning she wants freedom,no restrictions(relationships,etc.).

Now,let's assume you want more than a fling and you want committment eventually.

Lets assume you told her that straight up,indirectly,subcommu' it,whatever.

Eventhough you might not have wanted something serious but a fling,but perhaps you communicted to her that you're the relationship type.

She as a woman would never tell a guy directly that she's just into ONS(1 night stands)& flings,but maybe thats what she's into,and she ses you as a clingy type.

Sh wont tell you that,"Hey,I want to fuck,while you want to get to know me more",so she chosed another outlet-run(lol)!!!

She's trying to let you down easy since she realizes that yall re not on same page.

She wnts flings,you want more.

Or perhaps,she wants more,and you only want fling.

Plus,she knew she was leaving(to Calgary),so why get bogged down with you now when she has to leave for a month.

It's too much pressure in getting to know a new guy when she has to leave.

She would not have minded a fling in that case-lay her before she leaves.

But some how,you conveyed to her that you arent the fling type.
Author:  Blueshell [ Wed Jun 23, 2010 8:27 pm ]
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Sorry, I should've put more, but your ideas make a lot of sense.

For this girl, I'm more of heading towards a relationship, but a fling wouldn't be horrible either. So either way I'm find with it. But it could be I mis-communicated something to her subconsciously.

I can't tell if she's a fling type or a relationship type at the moment, but if I suppose she is a fling type, then I think I may have subconsciously just told her I was looking for a relationship, which seems to be the biggest possibility at the moment.

As for deep talks, nothing beyond scratching the surface really. Just random chats here and there.

If she is trying to run, should I just let her approach me, and just let this go for now(I'll run into her again, since we work on the same committee)?

or is there something else I can be doing online till I do see her again?
Author:  Chelios [ Wed Jun 23, 2010 9:34 pm ]
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What K says is good, but my opinion is, maybe now she's left, that has been the thing on her mind, so my opinion/advice would be, keep busy, keep gaming, speak to her when the opportunity arises, keep it short and sweet, and let her approach you a bit more.

Women are weird things, when they go weird or get distant, it always isn't your problem or fault.
Author:  Blueshell [ Wed Jun 23, 2010 9:53 pm ]
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That sounds pretty good, I'm just worried that if I keep talking to her when she stops replying, is that I come off as desperate.

I'm just wondering if I should just wait for her to make the next conversation before I continue to game?

Also, since I can currently only run an online game, I've been kicking around the idea of using the married/divorce routine(as posted on the forums, with a few changes of my own), only I'm not sure if that's such a good idea at this point.
Author:  Chelios [ Wed Jun 23, 2010 10:17 pm ]
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That sounds pretty good, I'm just worried that if I keep talking to her when she stops replying, is that I come off as desperate.

I'm just wondering if I should just wait for her to make the next conversation before I continue to game?

Also, since I can currently only run an online game, I've been kicking around the idea of using the married/divorce routine(as posted on the forums, with a few changes of my own), only I'm not sure if that's such a good idea at this point.
Sometimes you should cut the conversation, if it isn't so interesting, don't text back until later or tomorrow.

So let her wonder, why haven't you text back, the same way most AFC's think about when a girl never texts back quickly. (Not saying your AFC, just making my point)
Author:  Blueshell [ Wed Jun 23, 2010 10:20 pm ]
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Sometimes you should cut the conversation, if it isn't so interesting, don't text back until later or tomorrow.

So let her wonder, why haven't you text back, the same way most AFC's think about when a girl never texts back quickly. (Not saying your AFC, just making my point)
Yea that sounds like a solid idea :)

And it's okay aha I'm just starting out after all. But thanks for your help, I'm going to try it out !
Author:  Chelios [ Wed Jun 23, 2010 10:24 pm ]
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Sometimes you should cut the conversation, if it isn't so interesting, don't text back until later or tomorrow.

So let her wonder, why haven't you text back, the same way most AFC's think about when a girl never texts back quickly. (Not saying your AFC, just making my point)
Yea that sounds like a solid idea :)

And it's okay aha I'm just starting out after all. But thanks for your help, I'm going to try it out !
Be positive, be the man, you cut things when needed! Good luck.
Author:  PUA Kenny [ Wed Jun 23, 2010 10:54 pm ]
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Hey Blushell,keep doing what you doing to game this girl.

Just lay off the relationship stuff if thats what you'd subcommunicated.

Find out cunningly(not by just asking her becuse she wont tell you the truth),find out what she's into,what type of girl is she.

I believe she's the fun type/fling type/chic-on-the go.

Even if she's the relationship type,DONT tell her that's your intention.

Come off as the fling type/fun guy.

If you do lay her,then the relationship talk can come up.

Right now,have a fling-mind set.

Hey Chel,whats up? Long time no hear since I hadnt been on the forum for a while.

You'd given me some great advise on the library chicc months ago.

I didnt get the lay but learned some great stuff.
Author:  Chelios [ Wed Jun 23, 2010 11:04 pm ]
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Hey Blushell,keep doing what you doing to game this girl.

Just lay off the relationship stuff if thats what you'd subcommunicated.

Find out cunningly(not by just asking her becuse she wont tell you the truth),find out what she's into,what type of girl is she.

I believe she's the fun type/fling type/chic-on-the go.

Even if she's the relationship type,DONT tell her that's your intention.

Come off as the fling type/fun guy.

If you do lay her,then the relationship talk can come up.

Right now,have a fling-mind set.

Hey Chel,whats up? Long time no hear since I hadnt been on the forum for a while.

You'd given me some great advise on the library chicc months ago.

I didnt get the lay but learned some great stuff.
Hey K, been ages man, I replied to your post in the relationship section, keep your head up, always learning!
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