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| Author: | defenestration [ Mon Jun 14, 2010 5:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Weird structure to this interaction... need advice! |
Here is a paraphrased blow-by-blow: (okcupid) 1. I send an opener message. 2. She replies very enthusiastically. 3. I follow-up with fluff/mild dhv/mild appreciation of some aspect of her personality. 4. She doesn't really respond to fluff, and simply asks if I will text her (she does not supply her phone number). 5. I reply that she'll have to give me her number first. I also tell her approximately where I live in the city and ask where she lives. 6. She responds briefly and tartly to a fairly minor (in my opinion) aspect of my previous message and does not supply her number. She does tell me where she lives though. 7. I simply laugh in response, and decide to just give her my number. When I give her my number I also tell her a couple days over the next week that I'll be available. I also say that I will probably be available on a Saturday night, but will be too exhausted to do anything that night. 8. She takes her time to reply but gives me her number. She says it's too bad I will be unavailable Saturday night, as she would invite me to her sister's birthday party. 9. Brief okcupid fluff message, just to let her know I have her number. End okcupid transmission. 10. I text her on the night of her sister's birthday party in order to confirm the phone number, and also tell her I'll probably be near her neighborhood for a blues festival, so if she has some time to meet the next day that would work well. She replies briefly but doesn't acknowledge my request to meet. 11. The next day (yesterday as of this post) it is crappy and raining and so I don't go to the blues festival. I text her in order to tease her a little bit about new OKC profile pictures she had uploaded from her sister's party. I also toss in some SOIs as it seems she needs some attention (maybe if I had been willing to go to that bday party I wouldn't be in the predicament I am now... who knows. Didn't want to meet her for the first time in a situation like that though, ugh.) 12. She texts back and asks what I'm up to. 13. I fluff and tell her how I'm staying in 'cause of crappy weather. 14. Longest text from her yet. Just fluff. I choose not to reply. So that's where I am now. LOL This is the longest pre-meet interaction I've had with a girl this hot on OKC. At worst she is a SOLID 8 and it's possible she is a 9 or 9.5 but it's always so hard to tell from pics. She is a couple years older than me (I'm 25 she's 27), and she also has kids. Also, fwiw my 'relationship status' on okcupid is on 'available'. Not really sure how I want to proceed in this situation. I simply want to meet her in person as soon as possible so I can decide if she is worth the trouble (also in-person game is relatively easy). She apparently is kind of shy, so maybe I just need to push more. I don't really feel like texting anymore so I am considering just calling her, seems to be the most sensible thing to do at this point. I am almost guaranteed to end up leaving a voicemail though (I'm guessing even if she is still interested she will be too shy to pick up on my first phone call), so I'll need to be prepared. Just throwing this out there, feel free to advise, criticize, give me a prize. Will keep this updated with any new developments. |
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| Author: | Dr. Beat [ Mon Jun 14, 2010 11:40 pm ] |
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I would call her, and if she continues to flake I'd tell her that I was bored with this whole thing and not talk to her. |
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| Author: | defenestration [ Tue Jun 15, 2010 3:52 am ] |
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thanks drbeat, I'll definitely do that was going to call her tonight and wrap this shit up but didn't get time until much too late (i am too tired to play even half-a-shit phone game) will do it tomorrow - I was thinking of texting her re: a meetup but I feel that would be kind of a bitch move at this point, need to do the call. But I dunno about this actually, her profile lists her obsession with text messaging so maybe it doesn't matter to her? Oh well whatever, *I* prefer a call ultimately hah are there just a lot of shy girls using online dating (well duh)? last girl I dealt with extensively was very shy and introverted but it was much easier to get a meeting. it's quite possible my current methods are producing some extra selection bias though |
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