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Author:  flybeta [ Mon Dec 21, 2009 4:21 am ]
Post subject:  how could a girl do this to me??
Well I finally got a hold of her the other day after a month not talking.. And we talked for a good hour and a half. Then she wanted to hang out the next day. So we spoke in afternoon she was hanging with her friend then later i tried calling few times and called later and she was at dinner with her parents. and she answered finally and said she would get ready so i said i d call back later she didnt answer my phone i called from different one and she said shed be on her way.

WTF is this!!
Author:  J-Dub [ Wed Dec 23, 2009 9:44 pm ]
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Dude, you are being needy and insecure. She sees this and its UNATTRACTIVE to her...so stop calling her...Let her call you. You are getting to the point where you are in the 'Stalker Zone' with her, which will get you nowhere.

Start looking for other woman if you haven't done so already.

Best,

J-Dub
Author:  flybeta [ Thu Dec 24, 2009 12:11 am ]
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Ah your right man! She is always so happy to normally talk to me. It just seems to weird that her phones goes straight to busy signal. My phone has no signal in my house so I have to normally call. "standing in street lol" Otherwise I wouldn't know what was going on.

I guess my friends rubbed off on me a little bit, but I have been worried about her. She got into a wreck the first time we were supposed to meet. broke both legs and some ribs :roll:

Don't believe I've ever been on a receiving call or text from her actually. Hopefully shes real time will tell I guess.
Author:  skypirate1965 [ Thu Dec 24, 2009 9:22 am ]
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Hi flybeta,

This is said with your best interests at heart

wake up and smell the coffee - she's not that interested! Consider how much effort you put in and what are *actually* getting in return. Don't project to the future and what may happen. Look at reality and what IS happening. She talks to you a bit - big deal - girls talk about shit to anybody. Seriously if you haven't fucked her or she hasn't gone down on you and vice versa - MOVE ON she is trouble. There ARE other girls who can reciprocate your feelings.

"Don't believe I've ever been on a receiving call or text from her actually. Hopefully shes real time will tell I guess." Read what you typed a 100 times. It will sink into you - SHE IS NOT WORTH IT.

I've been stuck in that sort of pattern or loop . It's hell. Face reality and move on. Find other girls and very soon she will be a faint memory at worst and at best she'll be forgotten.
Author:  JSmooth [ Thu Dec 24, 2009 2:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how could a girl do this to me??
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Well I finally got a hold of her the other day after a month not talking.. And we talked for a good hour and a half. Then she wanted to hang out the next day. So we spoke in afternoon she was hanging with her friend then later i tried calling few times and called later and she was at dinner with her parents. and she answered finally and said she would get ready so i said i d call back later she didnt answer my phone i called from different one and she said shed be on her way.

WTF is this!!
Um, maybe you are calling too much it shows some neediness. She tells you that she will go out with you the next day. COOL! Then of course she was hanging with her friend. Just should have said well call me when you want to hang out later, and left it alone.

Still, after that call you said you tried calling a few more times. I'm guessing at least 2 more, then when she was with her parents, then you called back later too. So you're telling us you called the girl at least 5 times that afternoon/evening if not more. That comes across as a little needy. Next time you call and she's busy play it cool like you don't care if you hang out with her and tell her to call you.

I know you're eager to see her but when you act like you don't care you get the best results. :)
Author:  flybeta [ Thu Dec 24, 2009 10:22 pm ]
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well its not a girl I would just want to hook up with shes relationship material, maybe that is y I am somewhat clingy. Phones like literally sitting in my pocket burning a hole in my leg lol. I just want to call and see why she didn't show up.. sooo irritating.

most girls can sit in my phone for weeks without wanting to call them.
Author:  skypirate1965 [ Fri Dec 25, 2009 10:35 am ]
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well its not a girl I would just want to hook up with shes relationship material, maybe that is y I am somewhat clingy. Phones like literally sitting in my pocket burning a hole in my leg lol. I just want to call and see why she didn't show up.. sooo irritating.

most girls can sit in my phone for weeks without wanting to call them.
Hi flybeta

I've been in this mindset a few times and know how hard it can be to snap out of it. You say she's relationship material - but that's in your mind, your feelings, your opinion. How have your actions been rewarded? She's not reciprocating so sadly it's not mutual and it's time to move on.

When I was in this sort of loop or trap one of my mid distance female friends spoke to me and said if she was there with me she'd slap me around the head until I got out of that loop. When other friends I had spoken to said the same thing I realised I'd either have to let go or crash and burn the 'relationship' I was stuck in a weird friendship which I thought could easily lead to more. When I pushed one time to get the relationship I wanted with her she rejected me. I felt crap at the time but a few days later kind of glad I was released from all the shit I was feeling. A bad, mixed up relationship is far worse than none because it erodes the most important reltionship you have ...and that's with yourself.
Author:  flybeta [ Sat Dec 26, 2009 6:09 am ]
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Deleted her number and wrote my first poem lol. Weird that made me feel alot better if she starts calling me instead maybe ill think about it but for now its done.
Author:  skypirate1965 [ Sat Dec 26, 2009 7:29 am ]
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Hey flybeta,

take it one day at a time but be on your guard. When I was half way through my 'weird relationship' thing I'd had enough and thought fuck it she's not interested so I consciously deleted numbers and emails. 4 days later I had an overwhelming strange urge to contact the girl. Looking back on it this bit is so sad and pathetic, I was searching everywhere for her phone number and like some junkie craving drugs I was feverishly throwing stuff out of drawers and that. I actually found a scrap of paper with her number and like an idiot contacted her and the weird relationship re-started.

So the moral of this story...be careful do NOT re-start it like I did, and be aware that you may get a powerful urge to contact her in some way...resist it and it should pass
Anyway good luck
Author:  flybeta [ Sat Dec 26, 2009 8:41 pm ]
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the numbers totally memorized :(
Author:  flybeta [ Tue Dec 29, 2009 6:56 pm ]
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ah i called the other day doh! but i renamed her in my phone to don't call, stupid girl~ seems to be workin. Ya i am kinda stuck on speed bump but still been talking to other girls. After all tis almost the new year!
Author:  skypirate1965 [ Tue Dec 29, 2009 8:10 pm ]
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the numbers totally memorized :(
Luckily I'm terrible at memorising phone numbers so I didn't have that problem. I still can remember my girl's email though. Just keep yourself occupied with anything and it will pass.
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