LONG BUT BENEFICIAL
hey all
there is alot of conjection about online gaming, if it works, if it is beneficial, does it detract from the main goal (getting out of the house and talking face to face to people and increasing your social interactions etc)
i think online gaming can be VERY fruitful and is better than just sitting at home on a rainy friday night after a long weeks work. myspace is something that is very active for a certain age group, but it is also worth trying dating sites within your area.
Many people believe that there is a certain demographic of wome who use these sites. That these people are strange/ scary/ socially inept people. WRONG. many of these are people who are sick of going to clubs and trying the conventional way of meeting people in a drink enfused environment, or who are career people with little time for mingling befoe dating, or even people just like many of us - who have some kind of fear of the opposite sex.
Below is a transcript of the conversation of a hb9 i gamed online. it is a process that took over two weeks to eventually get her msn number, then a further 10 days to get number then a further week for a date. The time process eludes to several things. 1. that i am not desperate and i have many other things on in my life 2. that i do not spend all my timew online trawling for women 3. i am not sitting her at the net waiting for her reply.
so to start - all i did was search for women in my area and did a friend request. many people will accept becuase it is harmless even tho they will respond (if someone has tried and used a better hook please let me know) i have tried things like - 'your not one of those myspace girls who just collect friends to make themselves seem more popular' or 'you know why you suck?' (mystery) and the simple friends request has had the most replies for some reason...
after they accpet - several days later i will start my opener which is a canned opener is this case and a very old one in relation to the community.... but it worked...
its important to take your time and be patient with online gaming. as you can see - the opener has been broken down into several messages - in a way each segment is a set up to what the final question is...
as you can see hb9 just rant with it in many ways... i tried to control my negs and generate as much humour as possible...
i fuck up on a few things but overall the communication was pretty free flowing - lucky for me tho - she put up little resistance or bitch shields or shit tests
One thing to remeber about your myspace page - is too have some interesting things on there that would appeal to women. Not to just your army mates. My myspace has photos of my travels (every aussie girls either has, or wants to travel) has music by 'damien rice' and not 1000 friends to show that im not just a myspace whore...
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From: (ming)
Date: 15 May 2007, 01:41 AM
hey (hb9) - im tryingto write this with you giving mea 'death stare' with your photo!!! i feel like im back in school and in trouble again!!!
(i wrote death stare cause she was facing the camera and not smiling..)
anywho, you seem interesting (but ive been fooled before)- and i need an unbiased opinion. we dont know each other- so it gives you the freedom to say whatever you want!
if a girl who has a boyfriend goes out and gets drunk and kisses another guy, but only cause she is drunk- is she still cheating??
go nuts!! im in a rut- and my mates are just hopeless with this kinda thing.
(ming)
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From: (hb9)
Date: 20 May 2007, 09:35 AM
Hey there (ming)!
Sorry I have been slack in my reply… so the death stare… yes do you homework young man!!!!!! Or it will be detention for you!!
The cyber world is very interesting in meeting new people and actually trying to sort out the truth and honesty out there… I think I’m pretty safe to say at least 70%people tell it how it is… but then hey, I could be totally wrong and live in a fantasy land and hope that people only have good intentions!!!!!
But as far as your question goes…. My answer is YES she is cheating… I’m sorry I don’t care how drunk you are, you still remember you have a boyfriend and you know what you are doing… when I think back to the times when I have been drunk even really really drunk as much as you don’t know what you doing you still know the rules and you know when your in a situation that you shouldn’t be in… no matter how much or how little alcohol is involved…and I think the same goes for guys… tooo many people don’t take other peoples feeling into account and think it will be ok… they want to have their cake and eat it too!!
So there is my mind blowing expression on what I think… but hey I could be different to a view point of another… it really depends on a persons morals and how much they respect someone they care about!!!
(hb9)
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From: (ming)
Date: 22 May 2007, 12:00 AM
Young man!! well, its rare i get called that buy someone who is my age!!!!
I think you could have made a good teacher- you seem to have the lingo down if nothing else!!
i was just wondering about your 70% prognosis of people who tell the truth in cyber space.... interesting...... and, where did you get these numbers from???
i can tell you this question set some kind of thought process or information transit of knowledge or experience. So i think i am goign to take your answer, put it in a box and hand it onto my friend. But before i do....
The question has a second sub-topic.
You see that one was kinda loaded. Do you think if a girl goes out and gets drunk- while having a good time, she pashes other girls??
You see my friends gf goes out and kisses her friends. Now she says its just fun and doesnt mean anything- but he still feels it is cheating. What are your thoughts on this one??
and you never did make it clear... were you of the 70% or the 30%??
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From: (hb9)
Date: 22 May 2007, 05:14 PM
Young man don’t answer back when im talking to you!!! Heheheheh
Hmmm well the 70% prognosis… well im the teacher remember and I know everything!! No seriously I just plucked that number from outer space in cyber space…
Hmmm I think I may have to start charging for my answers here!!!... However b4 I go on I must point out that my answers are purely based on my thoughts only and may not reflect the way others think… and that’s ok because every body is different and has different view points however you may gel more closely with some points and not others… ok so now i have pointed out the obvious….
The second sub topic:
Hmmm girls that pash girls… well I think its them trying to seek attention… I don’t rate it at all… and unless your friend is into girls on girls well then I don’t think he should put up with the antics… I know it’s a known fact that a lot of guys love girls on girls and have you seen the attention they get when they play these games?? Hmmm maybe you give some attention yourself when you see girls on girls but I don’t have time for these games.. I mean really… at the end of the day if you are with somebody, you are with somebody because you want to be with them…. If you want to be with everybody else boy or girl do you really want to be with your partner? Too many people just want their cake and eat it too… and too many people just don’t think twice about what or how the other person feels or thinks…. Hey maybe she thinks these actions are turning on her boy friend??? Or maybe he should say to her… how would you feel if I was kissing guys?? Coz really it’s the same… no doubt she wouldn’t like it!!!!!
However my point here is, if he is questioning it, I think he should know that he is not happy with the situation and he should just walk away! Maybe she is young and immature and just needs to learn a lesson? I don’t really know.. I cant really judge as I don’t know these people.. or what they are about… all I know is, that its not something I would tolerate or even do!
Phew look at that… wow now that was intense!!! hahaha
Is there a part 3??? And what am I getting out of this free information service??
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From: (ming)
Date: 31 May 2007, 03:01 AM
alright then my dear- here it is.......
behold your eyes for some great reading- itl blow your mind mind*
(i had to re-write this section after it got lost - she msg me and asked for a response..)
well,
pushy, bossy, death stare, impatient. is that about all?? or have i left something out.......... if only there were some good qualities.... ha
anyway- i would have written back earlier, but i have a routine when reading a novel..... i only do it in bed!!! (read a book that is) now, of course i can only do this for about an hour before drifting off to sleep....... so that is why it took me the better part of a week to get back to you!!
Charging for you counselling??!! theres an idea. in fact- from now on, i think i might call you Dr Phil!! OR, even better- i remember there used to be a girl called Dr Feelgood in Melb who gave sex advice. Maybe that would fit you better!!???
now, onto the good stuff.... some of the things made me laugh (im loving your sense of humour), and some cry (not really).
i remember when i was young, and i used to go to clubs. i use to see girls making out and, my eyes would buldge. but as i get older it is soon a realisation that girls just do it to get attention from dumb boys (like i USED to be). i dont go in for all that crap- its all smoke and mirrors!.... and games!
now- to perhaps the most interesting line in your drawer of wisdom!! my mate saying
'Or maybe he should say to her… how would you feel if I was kissing guys??'
haha, ummmmm............. i dont think this will work on a few levels. but i ove your thought process!!!
i talked with my friend and told him what you have said- he totally agrees, and in fact, i think it is helpful that you dont know him- it makes it very impartial!! he is getting back to me with the result!! yay
now, what are you getting for your services?? ................well theres lots i can do.... but id never do them with someone i dont know
well, oddly enough- i look up and see that i have attempted to equal your thesis swized reply with my own....... but i think i have sadly fallen short, way short...
Because my brain in sooo huge, i have a golden idea. do you have an msn? it would make conversing much easier!! and i promise- ill only msg you, like, 10 - 12 times a day!!!
* may not blow your mind- or in fact, be all that interesting.....
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From: (hb9)
Dr Feelgood good signing In for duty….
Well look at you go even though I managed to confuse your routine I still managed to get a response even if I had to be… As you put it… pushy, bossy, death stare, impatient!!!
Hmmmm should I tolerate this from you??? Young man has your mum ever told you its not nice to speak to you elders in such a manner?? Hhehehe
I must im not sleeping in anticipation for the outcome from your friend!!!!
But on your request and because of your promise to message me 10 -12 times a day my msn is (xxxxxxxxx)@hotmail.com
i hope this can help anyone struggling with online gaming
any comments are always considered... (then fucking thrown out...)
i also have another transcript of another success which i may post - depending if it is worth changing it all around. will see what comes of this... The other one follows much the same guidelines but with much more cockey/funny and 'bullshit funny' involved..