About six months ago, I had put up a PlentyOfFish profile that essentially screamed "nice guy". Uploaded some of my best pics, etc. I would occasionally do a search, email some ladies and usually not get a response back, I would occasionally get an email from someone who wasn't very attractive, etc. Sounds like the pretty typical POF experience for guys, right? LOL. Other than that, I really hadn't done much with POF...I was spending my sarging time face-to-face.
I got to thinking that there's some benefits to POF and online sarging...a supply of candidates that you probably won't meet out somewhere, for instance. I don't want any lady to miss the opportunity to meet me, her life might never be the same. LOL.
I had been getting and reading David DeAngelo's newsletters for quite a while now...his approach is the cocky/funny approach to it all. His approach fits me quite well since I have fairly quick wit and a good sense of humor. So, I sat down over the weekend, threw away my old profile, and re-did it as cocky/funny. I kept the exact same pictures and other info.
Wow...what a difference this has made. I've emailed probably 10 HB8+'s so far, 6-7 of them have responded, and I'm having ongoing conversations with 3-4 of them. Plus, so far, two cute women from other regions have emailed me to say "Nice profile". I think I'm on to something good here. I can definitely say throwing on the cocky funny is making a huge difference (and it's easy for me because I usually have those cocky funny thoughts, but don't always say them...now I'm just saying them.) Essentially, I just took how I really feel, think, and want, and stated it in a cocky/funny way. Which is great...it's very genuine for me, and I feel authentic about it! In fact, I'd almost say that I've written almost the same thing I had before, but it has the cocky/funny spin to it rather than the "oh, I'm such a nice guy" spin, if that makes sense. At least I'm congruent in what I want, eh? LOL
My headline says "Don't Read This!", then the first few lines in my profile:
Do you always follow instructions this well? LOL. Don't read unless you can handle a man with a strong multi-faceted personality. I'm a little bit rock star, faux psychologist, philosopher, comedian, all rolled up in one. Throw in a good helping of mischief, and blend well in a hot-tub.
*** Ladies, thanks for all the emails. If I don't respond today, don't be offended. I'll reply even if I don't think we'd jive. It's called "manners". ***
I'm going to list what I don't want rather than what I want. If you're bright enough to figure it out, email me.
A few of the funnier lines in my "don't want" list (DO NOT copy my exact words, I will hunt you down and clip your nuts, LOL...spin your own...these are genuine for ME...if you do anything similar, make it genuine for YOU...women pick up on how genuine or congruent you are!):
- If you have no idea why you do what you do, and your therapist has to sort out why your life is such a mess, we won't jive. By now, you should know how to avoid repeating the same mistakes and bad choices.
- I expect someone as attractive as I am. However, if your bra size exceeds your IQ, we won't jive. Sorry, I'm not impressed by looks alone, if that's all you've got, we probably won't hit if off. Street smarts and a kind heart go a long way.
- No, I'm not looking for a one-night stand (although they do happen, a guy who says they don't is either lying or inept, which do you want?). No, I'm not looking for a new wife (although I suppose it could happen). There's happy middle-ground between those two extremes, whether casual or committed. And no, just because I'm attractive doesn't automatically make me a player. If you're a hottie, does that automatically make you a slut?
- If you're peddling your web-cam site, don't bother. Why would I web-cam with you when I can have the real thing? If you want bootie-pay, get a job at the Men's Club.
- I grew up around mostly women, I'll treat you with respect. If you can't do the same, we won't get along. I can be sensitive when necessary, but I'm not a punching bag. I'll roll up my sleeves and carry you when needed, but I won't repeatedly rescue you from self-created crises. I'll surprise you with chocolate when you're PMS'ing, but if you go off on me for no reason I'll eat the chocolate myself.
- Age doesn't matter to me, emotional maturity does. If drama follows you around, contact a talent agency.
- Relationships are not fairy tales, I'm not prince charming, and you're not a princess. It takes work from two. If you don't get it, we won't jive. I can bring fantasy to life (can you?), but we have to re-visit reality occasionally. I can sweep you off your feet, but you'll have to knock my socks off. If you don't think you can get me barefoot, you probably can't.
- If you can't keep up with me on a dance floor, I won't be impressed. Being able to "find each other's rhythm" is important for quite a few things.
- If you're a high-maintenance Barbie, we won't connect well. However, if you can go from tom-boy to decked-out hottie, I'll think you're quite sexy
- I don't control nor manipulate, but rest assured I will influence you. (I'll lead you into some mischief and you'll like it.) If you are a control freak, we won't get along. Go find an insecure spineless wuss to lick your boots, there are plenty to choose from. If you thrive by playing manipulative games, guess what? I recognize them immediately and they don't work on me.
That's about 1/3 or 1/4 of the bullets. Women are eating this up! And the good news for me is that it's all true...I just wrote exactly how I actually feel in a very cocky/funny way. It's conguent, authentic, and geniune. It also screams balance and fairness, caring disposition but no tolerance for bullshit, etc. I may tweak it a little, but this profile actually "feels good" to me...and apparently it "feels good" to the POF ladies too!
Cheers!
Gruuve
Most of these girls make a few bucks a day web-cammin'...they could take half their clothes off at one of the nicer local strip bars, give a few lap dances, and come home with $500/night. I know which I'd do if I were a cute chick! LOL.