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Author:  aska [ Tue Jun 30, 2009 8:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Relationship with online girl 9 hours away a possibility?
This girl i've been having an online penpal type relationship with lives 9 hours away. I feel we have a good possibility of being together in more than a fling. But wouldn't traveling 9 hours make me look desperate traveling all that way just for her? Also, i don't have a car at the moment.

She has hinted at wanting an adventure. Could I suggest she come up my way somehow?

Here is her latest letter. I was talking about how i was moving back to my hometown in the previous letter. *my location has been edited out

"
Wow. That is quite a tale kiddo! It sounds like the beginning of a really good dark comedy though. I'm thinking you have a happy ending, you totally deserve it. I mean how could you not! Who would anticipate that such events as these would transpire... something better is waiting for you. Maybe it's naive to think this but I like to believe that things happen for a reason.

So i just wikipedia'ed [*my town*]. Sounds lovely, but really boring. Hey did you know that Clint Eastwood resides there part time? haha anyways, do u think you'd be the same person had you grew up in the LA area, I can't imagine living in a place like [*my town*]. It seems like a nice place to visit tho.
I've never been so santa cruz, but san francisco is sooooo great. I would love living there...i love the vibe when im there. I wish i was there right now. I think i need an adventure soon, i think im getting a lil stir crazy in c-town.... im suddenly realizing that A LOT at this moment.

Relationships. Boo. You know I began my summer very optimistically...but im losing faith. I told my friend sometimes I'm more down for the chase, than the catch. He called me fickle...he's prollie right. But like you i feel like the person I want maybe isnt here. It feels like nobody has substance. Nobody really cares. It's all disappointing. BAH! You know I feel like escaping reality in immersing myself lately. Im reading This Side of Paradise... so far so good.

I dont want this letter to be a downer! So lets talk about the beatles. i think that the Beatles are the PERFECT band to listen to in the morning.It just puts you in a good mood. I hate picking favorites when it comes to the Beatles cause i like sooo much. One day I want the courage to get up and belt out "dont let me down" at karokee! I have a horrible voice tho.
You know i suddenly feel in the mood to listen to weezer. But anyways I'll talk to you soon!

-[*her name*]
"

So what do you guys make of this?
Author:  BassOpens [ Wed Jul 01, 2009 12:23 am ]
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Sup man. I just read tru your post and I feel theres something going on there :wink: :wink:

The first paragraphs of her email, shes giving you a lot of value. Maybe in a more old fashion-friendly way ( maybe thats the way she feels about you so far )...
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I'm thinking you have a happy ending, you totally deserve it
then again..
Quote:
something better is waiting for you
This is Her, letting you know that she thinks youre a great guy who deserves great things. Plus shes thinking that you have a bright future on life. The fact that she has that idea about you, may also lead to HER, wanting to be a part of your future.

THen she gives you the IOIs by letting you know that she might not just be interested in being part of your inmediate future, but also being at the same place you are.
Quote:
It seems like a nice place to visit tho
then
Quote:
I think i need an adventure soon..
( this one is Her, telling you that she wants to be invited to take part in an adventure )

And she feels bonded with you a bit
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But like you i feel like the person I want maybe isnt here..
Ok to sum things up, it kinda feels like shes into you, maybe she just wants to get out, so Id say, you could either plan on visiting her making a fake excuse to go to her town ( maybe a relative of yours lives nearby, or you and a friend are planning on going over there fishing of camping or whatever ).... this way you could completely make plans to visit her with out her even knowing that shes the real reason for your visit. Try to make it look casual.

Those weekend trips are great man, believe me, If you cant make it to her town, Of course invite her over to yours, make no hesitation about the fact that SHE TOLD YOU SHE WANTS AN ADVENTURE....

IF shes old enough to travel with out her parents permission of course, she can make it for the weekend, and guess what?.. its summer vacations so YEAH... invite her over. Dont make up big plans, but try to seem eager to have her visit you.

If she doesnt have a car like you, but really wants that adventure, and really wants to meet you. She could take a Bus easily :wink: :arrow:

GO forwards man, dont hessitate to take it to the next level and invite her, or else, go over there and pay her a weekend visit; its a long drive i know, but try to see it this way. Its a sweet candy of yours 9 hours away from melting in your mouth :wink:

Best whishes, and good luck ;)
Author:  aska [ Wed Jul 01, 2009 5:30 am ]
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k, so i agree that now is probly the best time to initiate some kind of meetup. What would be the best way to suggest she come my way? (cause it would be much easier this way since she is the one with the car right now). I was thinking something along the lines of:
"
Well if this place is good enough for Clint, it's good enough for you too.
"
or should I forgo the playing around and just simply suggest she vacation her way up my place?
"
You should vacation up here. It's sure to be an adventure
"
?
Author:  BassOpens [ Thu Jul 02, 2009 4:24 am ]
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Id suggest you to be a bit more straight forward with your invitation.

Just be straight forward on the invitation but not about your intentions, follow me?

Maybe as mystery said once, or did once. Go direct but at the same time disqualify yourself from being a potential suitor... erhmm.. meaning that you could make her a friendly Invitation, with out having friendly intentions =P

Even if you keep it direct, light and friendly; I bet that she knows that deep inside you might want something more to happen, and if she wants that too, IT WILL HAPPEN.

Remember from now on, try to be more funny guy, a bit more flirty, and more Direct. Im not saying to show your cards face up, but it will sure help you keep things Straight about the kind of relationship you want with her.

Id go for that 3rd option "You should vacation up here. It's sure to be an adventure" its an invitation, indication that you wouldnt mind to have her visit you but at the same time it isnt your no.1 priority.

good luck !!
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