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| Author: | Newbie100 [ Wed May 20, 2009 6:13 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Stop answering back after 4 msgs can I save it? |
Some background: On Friday there was a party of some friends of ours and there was a HB8 which I didn't talk to at the party due to a AA problem. On Sunday they published the photos from the party and she was tagged there so I could see her name and PM her (BTW we have got 13 friends in common). I saw her drinking at the party so here's my conversation with her (BTW I'm translating this from another language so I may have some grammar errors): Me: Do you always get drunk so much at parties? Wink Her: Hmm..who are you? hehe Me: I saw you at *****'s party drinking a lot... And I have to say, you are brave because I try not to drink a lot because it gets really easy to abuse me afterwards Razz Her: Oh... so yes, I always get drunk so much at parties And it doesn't matter how much I drink it's never easy to abuse me Smile Me : Hehe I'll try to remember that... Smile But now I'm afraid that if I would go with you to a bar then we drink and you will abuse me cuz this stuff doesn't do you a thing How dangerous would you define yourself? Wink And that's it, she stop answering me... Where did it go wrong?? What shall I do now? Can I save it? I thought of something like "I hope I didn't scared you... I was only joking... but it would be nice to get a drink if you like sometime..." It's been since Sunday should I wait more before sending anything? |
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| Author: | Carlos [ Sat May 23, 2009 7:48 am ] |
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I think you came on a little strong in the last message. should've cut the thread and moved on to something new. |
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| Author: | Newbie100 [ Sat May 23, 2009 10:07 am ] |
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Thank you for your reply! I think you're right. And I feel like a creep now :\ So I sent her this yesterday: "I hope you understand I was kidding with you..." and then I asked her if she would come to this show on that high school tomorrow But she didn't answer to this either until now but I hope she will |
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| Author: | Slowburner [ Sun May 24, 2009 7:01 pm ] |
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I feel for you. I do think the wording was probably too strong. I would never use the word "dangerous" unless I was speaking about stunts or something. Does any woman want to be labelled dangerous? I would have used naughty maybe another word. Naughty is good as it is link to the past, childhood imagery and all that. I probably would have toned down the stuff about drinking too. I cannot imagine a woman wanting to be like a slush. And as Carlos said steer it in another direction. Difficult. For me though I wouldn't have put the bit "But now I'm afraid that if I would go with you to a bar then we drink and you will abuse me cuz this stuff doesn't do you a thing" I don't think there are many girls or women who would find the phrase funny. It comes across a bit creepy. Maybe change "abuse" to "take advantage of" I think the word abuse is too strong for women. It's good that you sent the email. It's unlikely to be recoverable imho. Move on plenty more females |
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| Author: | Newbie100 [ Sun May 24, 2009 9:17 pm ] |
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Slowburner, Thank you for your answer it really helps! Now I got to this understanding that I talked to much about the same subject and as you said used "hard" words. I totally should have used the word "naughty". and the part with the "abuse me"... you're right, it's too creepy... about the part of using "take advantage of" instead of "abuse" in my language(again those messages are translated from other language) it's the same word... and maybe I even mistranslated my word to "abuse" instead of "take advantage"... And it seems like it can't be saved cuz she didn't answer to my "I hope you understand I was kidding with you..." message from Saturday. It's just funny how women decide to date or not to date a guy only for some words without getting to know him. |
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| Author: | Slowburner [ Mon May 25, 2009 5:30 am ] |
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Glad I could help. I'm no expert. Just check out my field report. i've crashed and burned so many times, missed so many opportunities. One thing I find difficult is remaining slightly detached so I have better control and keeping the conversation short and good. I say too much. Get used to 'weird' things from women. It's a different mindset. You'll even grow to love it. A lot of women simply do not know what they want. This applies to men too! seduction really is guiding them to do what you want but make them feel it's what they want too. Quote: It's just funny how women decide to date or not to date a guy only for some words without getting to know him.
Sounds like you requiring a bit more depth from women and a more permanent relationship. Not a criticism btw. remember as your contact was in text only and not face to face, your choice of words is very important. Was it chat or email? They are different methods to communicate. If it was chat then you are in an almost live situation and have to think on your feet. can be good fun particularly if you like improvising. If it's email then you have time to hone the message and think carefully about words used. trust your instincts as to what you do write.One last thing about chat. I said its almost live. Try to take advantage of short pauses, do not respond instantly all the time. It will give you time to think. I have chatted to girls online and afterwards have reviewed the conversation and questioned why I wrote such a lame thing. Invariably it was down to responding too quick with no thought. |
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