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Author:  theoriesof93 [ Sat Jan 09, 2016 1:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Transitioning from online to reality... Help !
Hi, guys :)

Aout a month ago, i matched With a really beautifull girl on Tinder. We talked back and forth for a while, and had quite a lot of fun With it. She asked if i could add her on facebook, and Things started to go even better. I can tell she has a genuine interest for me, BUT here we have the problem too.

After talking together for such a long time, expectations will be high, and it will not be the easiest thing to deal With. So my question is; how the hell should i do this? How can i try to meet her expectations ? Will i be starting from scratch again, when i meet her ?

I am interested in more than just a hookup, if that wasn't Clear by now ;)
Author:  Melodical [ Sat Jan 09, 2016 2:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Transitioning from online to reality... Help !
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How can i try to meet her expectations ?
"Try"? "Her expectations"?

You should change your mindset or it could end up a LJBF. You're not auditioning for her, if you behave like you are then you'll project lower valus and a "neediness" vibe; as in "needing" to please her so she selects you.

If she is as beautiful as you say then acting like this eliminates attraction.

Just carry on in realife how you've been interacting online as it's worked for you to get as far as you are but escalate kino as early as you can as if you're just a naturally touchy person. [remember:Don't look where you're touching]

You're mindset should be: I wonder what's she's like in real life. If I still like her then I'm going to date her.
Author:  theoriesof93 [ Sat Jan 09, 2016 11:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Transitioning from online to reality... Help !
Thank you for great advice ! She is asking me to come see a Movie at her Place, so i might aswell just jump into it :) This will be a New experience for me in the pua Field. I have never had a sucsessfull transition from online to real life before, so i am quite nervous, BUT i really think i can do this one right.

Kino is a big part of my plan, and to start it as early as possible. Especially as we are watching the Movie :)
Author:  Melodical [ Sun Jan 10, 2016 10:14 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Transitioning from online to reality... Help !
You'll do great, remember she will most likely be nervous too. Stay cool and collected and importantly set the frame as soon as you meet.

This means when you greet her kiss her and preferably on the lips; not too long but enough for her to know that you find her sexually attractive. She may offer you her cheek if so don't worry as it's most likely her nervousness.

In psychology there's a priciple called the "Pygmalion effect"....

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pygmalion_effect

Where expecting something to happen makes it much more likely to happen so assume sexual attraction and act accordingly. It's a good way to lead the frame as sexual attraction is a strong frame and most people will drop into a frame stronger than their own. The greeting kiss should collapse any hesitancy frame she may put up. You mustn't make the kiss a big deal; it's just who you are to kiss her.

The great thing about this is it eliminates the hanging about waiting to make the "move" and any awkwardness which would ensue. It's your job as a man to make the move not hers.

Nearly all women are sexual creatures and want to be seduced in the right way. If you think of them as a combination lock then you've just been given the first 3 numbers of the code, the rest is up to you.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sun Jan 10, 2016 4:29 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Transitioning from online to reality... Help !
If you're worried about messing something up you're already messing up.

Two things: Women care more about what you think of them than they do about what they think of you and women care more about what you think about yourself more than they do what they think about you.

Women will test, and you always have to be willing to walk away if they step out of line too far. So long as you aren't putting all your weight on this being a success you should be fine. You have to come to grips with the reality that there are millions of other girls on tinder and this can easily happen again. Its already happening to tons of guys every day thanks to online dating. Snap out of it.

Read these:

pua-lounge/you-met-someone-special-vt194307.html

pua-lounge/topic190620.html

approaching-and-opening/topic190187.html
Author:  theoriesof93 [ Fri Jan 22, 2016 3:28 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Transitioning from online to reality... Help !
Thank you for the help, guys ! :) Much appreciated ! The first date worked like a charm, and went soo much better than i would ever have expected.

Tomorrow we will have Our Third date. It will be in a Public Place, but i know i can work in some KINO there. She has a sore neck, and asked if i could massage her (win). I have escalated very slowly With her, since i am hoping for a real relationship this time, but i think the massage can open her up even more, if i play it right ?

So... The date will actually be in a store where she Works (alone), it is not too busy... But this will be a totally New arena for me. Any tips ? It's not really the best Place for a date, i would reckon ? :P
Author:  JSmooth [ Thu Jan 28, 2016 11:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Transitioning from online to reality... Help !
Quote:
Thank you for the help, guys ! :) Much appreciated ! The first date worked like a charm, and went soo much better than i would ever have expected.

Tomorrow we will have Our Third date. It will be in a Public Place, but i know i can work in some KINO there. She has a sore neck, and asked if i could massage her (win). I have escalated very slowly With her, since i am hoping for a real relationship this time, but i think the massage can open her up even more, if i play it right ?

So... The date will actually be in a store where she Works (alone), it is not too busy... But this will be a totally New arena for me. Any tips ? It's not really the best Place for a date, i would reckon ? :P
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