PUA Forum :: Tinder: She started the conversation, then goes silent

Yeah, i might be feeling some cyber-nitis.

Is there some sort of "Golden Rules" to Tinder to prevent cyber-nitis? Like, how long should you wait before talking to the girl? Who should talk first? etc.

Especially that last question, it's like a staring contest to see who'll give validation to who first. But then again, having someone matching with you and neither of us doing anything for weeks-on-end seems like an unmatch just waiting to happen.

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You really should just treat them as they are, a complete stranger on the internet. I used to get angry when i would get flaked or what not, but they are just pixels and do not ever think of anything more till you're looking at one another in the eye

since Tinder is a "looking to hook up" application, you should be able to avoid prolonged chatting, and actually get down to business within 10-15 messages, i.e. If you want to hook-up with her, ask her to meet!

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Down within 10-15 messages? Sounds pretty tricky, but doable. I could ask girls if they could play the guitar, then show them my signed one at my place. Could that work without triggering any suspicion?

Okay. So for experience's sake, here are two of the best conversations I had on tinder and two of which i don't know where i went wrong. Faces are blocked cuz, y'know, privacy.

Conversation A

Conversation B

Scenario 2
You: give me your number. What's a good time to call?
Her: slow down I need to get to know you first (with endless texting) before I give you my number.
You: deleted, pua-lounge/topic190620.html

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I feel like with this one, you could find an excuse by saying, "Do you want me to text you my life story? lol weirdo. you'll get to know me, just text me your number and i'll call"

At least put up some resistance against her. If she still doesn't give me her number by then, deleting her is now an option.

It happens, can't control it.

Maybe she got chatting someone who is better looking? Point is, treat all contact from woman as current waste of time till you're actually meeting each other.

I've talked weeks with women, and then they suddenly block me on SPAM when it comes to the final day to meet.

Unless you said something creepy, then I wouldn't sweat it. It's a numbers game.

The worst kind of oneitus is the kind that you haven't even met the person yet.

Cyber-nitus

Author:	nrjose27 [ Tue Jan 05, 2016 2:55 am ]
Post subject:	Tinder: She started the conversation, then goes silent
On Tinder, how rare is it for a girl to start the conversation? It started off with her saying how she liked one of my pics cuz it was nostalgic to her. She pinged, i ponged, and everything went just dandy... until she suddenly went silent. I don't know what to make of this, other than i felt like i was being led on.

Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Jan 05, 2016 3:58 pm ]
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You have to remember, Tinder is like a drug, for some women validation is even more satisfying then ever following through. Also, with out seeing the exchange, it's a little like shopping for melons, and suddenly something felt squishy.

Author:	Dragula [ Tue Jan 05, 2016 5:13 pm ]
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It happens, can't control it. Maybe she got chatting someone who is better looking? Point is, treat all contact from woman as current waste of time till you're actually meeting each other. I've talked weeks with women, and then they suddenly block me on SPAM when it comes to the final day to meet. Unless you said something creepy, then I wouldn't sweat it. It's a numbers game. The worst kind of oneitus is the kind that you haven't even met the person yet. Cyber-nitus

Author:	nrjose27 [ Tue Jan 05, 2016 9:58 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Tinder: She started the conversation, then goes silent
Yeah, i might be feeling some cyber-nitis. Is there some sort of "Golden Rules" to Tinder to prevent cyber-nitis? Like, how long should you wait before talking to the girl? Who should talk first? etc. Especially that last question, it's like a staring contest to see who'll give validation to who first. But then again, having someone matching with you and neither of us doing anything for weeks-on-end seems like an unmatch just waiting to happen.

Author:	Dragula [ Tue Jan 05, 2016 10:29 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Tinder: She started the conversation, then goes silent
Quote: Yeah, i might be feeling some cyber-nitis. Is there some sort of "Golden Rules" to Tinder to prevent cyber-nitis? Like, how long should you wait before talking to the girl? Who should talk first? etc. Especially that last question, it's like a staring contest to see who'll give validation to who first. But then again, having someone matching with you and neither of us doing anything for weeks-on-end seems like an unmatch just waiting to happen. You really should just treat them as they are, a complete stranger on the internet. I used to get angry when i would get flaked or what not, but they are just pixels and do not ever think of anything more till you're looking at one another in the eye

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Author:	Crypto [ Thu Jan 07, 2016 8:03 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Yeah, i might be feeling some cyber-nitis. Is there some sort of "Golden Rules" to Tinder to prevent cyber-nitis? Like, how long should you wait before talking to the girl? Who should talk first? etc. Especially that last question, it's like a staring contest to see who'll give validation to who first. But then again, having someone matching with you and neither of us doing anything for weeks-on-end seems like an unmatch just waiting to happen. You really should just treat them as they are, a complete stranger on the internet. I used to get angry when i would get flaked or what not, but they are just pixels and do not ever think of anything more till you're looking at one another in the eye ^^^ Word! To add to that, since Tinder is a "looking to hook up" application, you should be able to avoid prolonged chatting, and actually get down to business within 10-15 messages, i.e. If you want to hook-up with her, ask her to meet! If you want a chat buddy, keep doing what you're doing... Peace

Author:	199Flags [ Sun Jan 10, 2016 12:39 am ]
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Welcome to Tinder

Author:	nrjose27 [ Sun Jan 10, 2016 12:09 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Tinder: She started the conversation, then goes silent
Quote: since Tinder is a "looking to hook up" application, you should be able to avoid prolonged chatting, and actually get down to business within 10-15 messages, i.e. If you want to hook-up with her, ask her to meet! Down within 10-15 messages? Sounds pretty tricky, but doable. I could ask girls if they could play the guitar, then show them my signed one at my place. Could that work without triggering any suspicion?

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Sun Jan 10, 2016 4:25 pm ]
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Tinders the one site that girls actually initiate conversation all the time. The majority of conversations go stale though man. Nothing happened, another than, you didn't successfully lead the conversation. Thats just tinder for you.

Author:	nrjose27 [ Sun Jan 10, 2016 6:44 pm ]
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Okay. So for experience's sake, here are two of the best conversations I had on tinder and two of which i don't know where i went wrong. Faces are blocked cuz, y'know, privacy. Conversation A Conversation B

Author:	Crypto [ Sun Jan 10, 2016 8:26 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: since Tinder is a "looking to hook up" application, you should be able to avoid prolonged chatting, and actually get down to business within 10-15 messages, i.e. If you want to hook-up with her, ask her to meet! Down within 10-15 messages? Sounds pretty tricky, but doable. I could ask girls if they could play the guitar, then show them my signed one at my place. Could that work without triggering any suspicion? Meaning you should be setting up a date withing the first 10-15 messages. Eddie is right tho, it is purl a numbers game for most. But you've gotta stop talking to them like you're their friend, and talk to them like you want to get with them.

Author:	sarabellum [ Sun Jan 17, 2016 12:07 am ]
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Quote: Okay. So for experience's sake, here are two of the best conversations I had on tinder and two of which i don't know where i went wrong. Faces are blocked cuz, y'know, privacy. Conversation A Conversation B Immediately take it off line: Scenario 1 You: give me your number. What's a good time to call? [it's both a command and an opportunity for her to have a choice, while making her pursue you by selecting a time] Her: 867-5309. Call me now (or call me tomorrow at noon) You: cool. Until then. Call her, make her qualify herself, seduce her, get her in the mind set that she must please you, and set up a rendezvous within 48 hours. pua-lounge/topic190620.html If she tries to set it up a week later, she's stringing you along to the last day flake out. If so, delete her. Scenario 2 You: give me your number. What's a good time to call? Her: slow down I need to get to know you first (with endless texting) before I give you my number. You: deleted, pua-lounge/topic190620.html

Author:	nrjose27 [ Sun Jan 17, 2016 3:55 am ]
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Quote: Scenario 2 You: give me your number. What's a good time to call? Her: slow down I need to get to know you first (with endless texting) before I give you my number. You: deleted, pua-lounge/topic190620.html I feel like with this one, you could find an excuse by saying, "Do you want me to text you my life story? lol weirdo. you'll get to know me, just text me your number and i'll call" At least put up some resistance against her. If she still doesn't give me her number by then, deleting her is now an option.

Author:	sarabellum [ Fri Jan 22, 2016 7:33 am ]
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Quote: Quote: Scenario 2 You: give me your number. What's a good time to call? Her: slow down I need to get to know you first (with endless texting) before I give you my number. You: deleted, pua-lounge/topic190620.html I feel like with this one, you could find an excuse by saying, "Do you want me to text you my life story? lol weirdo. you'll get to know me, just text me your number and i'll call" At least put up some resistance against her. If she still doesn't give me her number by then, deleting her is now an option. Your PUA technique is good, particularly when deep down the woman's inner female is screaming for dick but her hamster is spinning out of control rationalizing a way out. Maybe, your forgiving, playful frame is better for a younger girl. On the other hand, I'm an old man, 50, and when dealing with with older women, 30+, the endless texting act is part of a psychological pathology. Endless texting, aka “let’s talk some more online first” = We’ll never talk on the phone, but let’s play who’s gonna walk off first. Endless texting is a common pathology in online dating, known as “Avoidant Personality Disorder,” i.e. intimacy avoidance, in the DSM V. Rather than get SPAM for their fears, the endless texting woman lures a poor sap into pouring out heart and soul, hiding her own feelings/desires, and not having any intention whatsoever of meeting anyone. For the 30+ crowd, I drop them immediately.

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Author:	thequietlife [ Fri Jan 22, 2016 5:06 pm ]
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Quote: It happens, can't control it. Maybe she got chatting someone who is better looking? Point is, treat all contact from woman as current waste of time till you're actually meeting each other. I've talked weeks with women, and then they suddenly block me on SPAM when it comes to the final day to meet. Unless you said something creepy, then I wouldn't sweat it. It's a numbers game. The worst kind of oneitus is the kind that you haven't even met the person yet. Cyber-nitus Couldn't agree more. Were moving into an age where its easy to cut things off and replace. Just don't take anything that happen online as serious( the girls definitely aren't taking it seriously at all, so why should you)