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Author:  BruceWayne1 [ Wed Oct 28, 2015 2:46 am ]
Post subject:  Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyness
I'm having a problem where I'll get a good match, the girl seems interested (sometimes sexually, sometimes just humour-wise etc etc) and then one of two things will happen.

I'll request we meet up and she'll agree, but then cancel day of.

or

We'll be having a great convo, I'll request a meet up and she won't respond.

Some factors that I notice are influencers. If we exchange phone numbers or instagrams what will be most likely is the first one, but I still won't get the date.

So far I haven't had any real tinder success. Any advice?
Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Wed Oct 28, 2015 3:19 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
I have noticed for me that on tinder I have to strike while the iron is hot. This means that I usually match with the girl the same day I meet her for the date. With very few exceptions this has been the case and for all girls I match with and talk to over a week, we never meet. Try not to schedule dates days away.
Author:  masterm1ne [ Wed Oct 28, 2015 9:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
This is normal normal normal. I've been doing online for years and it's just this way, you have to accept, and don't invest so much time into one person. Either the girl is interested enough to go out or not.

After a few messages back and forth on a internet based dating app, I usually tell the woman I want to meet her to see what she is like in person because you can't get a good sense of a personality via text.

Nothing really else you can do, except not waste your own time.
Author:  Dragula [ Wed Oct 28, 2015 11:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
THis happens, especially with online dating

You really have to strike whilst the iron is hot as heart says. I rarely get girls to meet on the same day though. But for me..

Let's say you start talking at 6pm ad it's going well. I don't think it's wise to end it with in 2 messages "let's meet on Tue in 6 days" and then she will be there. It will flake more often that not doing it this way.

You have to devote your 1st afternoon going back and forth on the SPAM till the end of your night in the same night you get her number, you need a lot of investment. The other day I was doing well with an absolute hotty. But I had a fuck buddy over a 8pm and I don't tend to text other girls whilst in front of her so I had no choice but to let it get cold.

Next day, I text tinder girl and it faded away, I let the iron get cold.

With online game, you need a massive amount of back and forth's and be in her head till you meet up. I send them pics of my restaurant food saying "jealous?" And she will do the same back to me. You just become like a couple on an app essentially. Not talking about occupation, but just kinda bantering back and forth without actually getting to know each other, save that for the date.

This one lead to fucky fucky:
Image

Image

can you feel the synergy? She told me afterwards that she likes my style (have good pics) and my banter on the texts is what made her want to meet

A phone call could also help with you being on her mind instead of all the 10 other tinder guys in her chat inbox.
Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Thu Oct 29, 2015 1:05 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
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This is normal normal normal. I've been doing online for years and it's just this way, you have to accept, and don't invest so much time into one person. Either the girl is interested enough to go out or not.
I have been doing a lot of tinder game the last few months, but noticed a stark contrast when I picked up a girl at a store. Whereas tinder girls were often a pain in the ass to get the meet up, this girl is actively pursuing it. The girls probably view you as not even real which is why:
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A phone call could also help with you being on her mind instead of all the 10 other tinder guys in her chat inbox.
Will be a good idea.
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But I had a fuck buddy over a 8pm and I don't tend to text other girls whilst in front of her so I had no choice but to let it get cold.
Text in the bathroom.
Author:  oceanx [ Thu Oct 29, 2015 5:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
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A phone call could also help with you being on her mind instead of all the 100 other tinder guys in her chat inbox.
Fixed :wink:
Author:  Dragula [ Thu Oct 29, 2015 7:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
Heart - go to the bathroom every 30 secs to reply to a stranger? So alpha....(not) - No thanks. Would you notice if a girl went to ge bathroom every 30 seconds and not catch on?

When I'm with a girl, I'm with her. Just like if I was hanging out with a mate watching a movie. My phone is to the side because of manors
Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Fri Oct 30, 2015 3:48 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
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Heart - go to the bathroom every 30 secs to reply to a stranger? So alpha....(not) - No thanks. Would you notice if a girl went to ge bathroom every 30 seconds and not catch on?
If you have to reply every 30 seconds to a girl then you are doing it wrong.
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When I'm with a girl, I'm with her.
You said it was a fuck buddy not a MLTR of GF.
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When I'm with a girl, I'm with her. Just like if I was hanging out with a mate watching a movie. My phone is to the side because of manors
Always manners when you are with a girl. In addition, do you want all the girls or just one? I at least noticed this change in my mindset to be beneficial thus whenever I am on a date with a girl and I have to take a bathroom break, all my leads can still be updated at that time.
Author:  Dragula [ Fri Oct 30, 2015 4:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
Christ, was starting to tolerate you. Now you're on your period again. Lord fiction game
Author:  Adam_Sandler [ Thu Nov 05, 2015 4:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
I have a similar issue. A lot of the time I am busy so I cannot set up a date set up a date that night, and then they go cold (well a good portion at least).

I have noticed that time of day matters. If you match latter at night, the chances of a ONS are higher. During the day you might have to set up a date.
Author:  DrewDating [ Tue Nov 10, 2015 9:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
Quote:
I'm having a problem where I'll get a good match, the girl seems interested (sometimes sexually, sometimes just humour-wise etc etc) and then one of two things will happen.

I'll request we meet up and she'll agree, but then cancel day of.

or

We'll be having a great convo, I'll request a meet up and she won't respond.

Some factors that I notice are influencers. If we exchange phone numbers or instagrams what will be most likely is the first one, but I still won't get the date.

So far I haven't had any real tinder success. Any advice?
this reason is probably mostly because you dont have a justified reason to hang out with her - build a commonality and use that to schedule a date

just dont clash straws "you like cats?!?! I LIKE CATS!!!"

most like "what do you love most about this city?"
"i love downtown"
"oh awesome, have you been to the bar XXX at the corner of XXX?"
"no i havent"
"its great! you gotta check it out"

stuff like that
Author:  Koolor [ Wed Nov 18, 2015 1:58 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
[/quote]If you have to reply every 30 seconds to a girl then you are doing it wrong.
[quote]

I have been into this stuff for a long time just don't post. I think this is a wrong mindset to have, the whole "Mr. Long to Reply" make her want more routine. Honestly in this world girl's have attention deficit when it comes to dating, they want their "soulmate" now and just run through guys like water. Later then go on instagram/facebook sharing those stupid posts b*tching "no guys want them/there are no good guys anymore blahbah 1950's" after sh*tting on 20 guys within like 3 texts. Even today the AFC high-school male gets the "I have to show less interest idea" and plays these long to reply texting games. So girls of my generation (18-22) are way more in-tune to this than you could ever possibly imagine and will enjoy doing it back to you with not a shred of care, as they have 10 more matches lined up. In fact they will just 1up our game and ignore us entirely.

What I do? Reply fast as hell. Attraction isn't a solidified number that stays just how you left it 2 years ago. It fades, so you have to act quick. I just straight up say "btw I reply fast because I dont give a sh*t" they love it, it works. I talk fast I get them laughing and excited. I arrange a meet up and then I pray to the online gods she doesn't flake. But as you all have seen the flakiness is been pretty bad.

I am adding a different style to my online game. I am gonna keep the text fast going, call twice arrange meet up type of thing. 2 days max length time to match to meet up. See how it works.
Author:  ealltech [ Wed Dec 16, 2015 8:05 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Repeating proble for me: Interest/good convo, but flakyn
Christ, was starting to tolerate you. Now you're on your period again. Lord fiction game
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