First Video - explanation of theory and what to do-
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Race and I go over some of our interactions online with screen capture software and explain what we are doing
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hope those videos help!
No matter what, in the initial stages of your interaction you want to direct the conversation in a playful manner. It is much easier to knockdown peoples barriers with humor than to be serious. Being serious hasa tendency to cause people to be defensive. This is counterproductive to what we are aiming for here... Meeting her.
Try to remember that no matter how she responds... She is looking for you to direct the conversation. If the conversation blows then you did not capture her attention. Dont take it personally... Also remember that she will throw 'shit tests' at you which is how she can gauge if your "alpha guy" persona is real or concocted. It is up to you to guide the conversation to YOUR desired outcome.
Here are a few good ways to direct the conversation to a playful tone and gauge her level of interest in you based on her responses:
Use misinterpretation:
If she is brings up any number of things... misinterpret what she is saying to make it seem as though she was including you in her thoughts,had an untended sexual meaning, or even jokingly assuming that she suggested something negative about her self.
For example:
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HER: "I have a meeting I SO dont want to go to...aghhh"
YOU: "Jeeze how often do you have to visit your probation officer...I can pee in a cup for ya if you need.....lol "
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HER: "well if you do decide to invite me to that house warming party it better not be just so that I bring over a house warming present......
pick your poison....."
YOU: "well arent you so sweet to offer us some poison! i knew you were trying to seduce me from the moment you made me msg you on myspace...your so tricky! damn you!"
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HER: "It was so hot out side today..."
YOU: "Thinking about me does tend to make people hot and bothered... lol"
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HER: "Your message was so cute I had to take a peek... You seem like you'd be a pretty fun person"
YOU: "Damn girly, you're already hiding in the bushes peeking through my windows...? lol I hope you didnt see me in my sponge bob onezee's...hahaha "
GamesYOU: "Jeeze how often do you have to visit your probation officer...I can pee in a cup for ya if you need.....lol "
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HER: "well if you do decide to invite me to that house warming party it better not be just so that I bring over a house warming present......
pick your poison....."YOU: "well arent you so sweet to offer us some poison! i knew you were trying to seduce me from the moment you made me msg you on myspace...your so tricky! damn you!"
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HER: "It was so hot out side today..."
YOU: "Thinking about me does tend to make people hot and bothered... lol"
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HER: "Your message was so cute I had to take a peek... You seem like you'd be a pretty fun person"
YOU: "Damn girly, you're already hiding in the bushes peeking through my windows...? lol I hope you didnt see me in my sponge bob onezee's...hahaha "
A good way to gauge whether or not she seems into the conversation is by using games. With this technique you can tease her while creating another thread in your conversation for her to reply to. Whether or not she follows lead and plays along is a great indicator of interest.
Here are a few examples:
Quote:
YOU: " I've devised a test to see how creative some one is.. It took me years of research and study.. but here it is... good luck
Finish this poem:
Roses are red, Violets are blue, {insert your part here}.....
Lets see what ya got cookie monster..."
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YOU: {Instert any good joke at the bottom of your message that requires here guess/responce}
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YOU: "We are having a 'theme' party next week, and don't want to do the typical 'pimps and hoes' theme... You got any good suggestions?
we were thinking maybe the junglebook or something... lol then you could be mogley.. j/k "
Use role playingFinish this poem:
Roses are red, Violets are blue, {insert your part here}.....
Lets see what ya got cookie monster..."
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YOU: {Instert any good joke at the bottom of your message that requires here guess/responce}
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YOU: "We are having a 'theme' party next week, and don't want to do the typical 'pimps and hoes' theme... You got any good suggestions?
we were thinking maybe the junglebook or something... lol then you could be mogley.. j/k
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By creating fake back stories with somebody you immediately build a sense of comfort and shared memories. In addition to that you also want to be able to interject fun elements into your messages with a women you are trying to meet. It in advertantly makes her take on a role with you that she normally wouldnt with a stranger; in essence it helps remove the "stranger" label from you. Plus Race and I have noticed that if you start to role play with a women who is playfully going along with the story she is way more likely to meet up.
For example:
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HER: " Will it be awkward since we have never met you before?? "
YOU: " nah... wont be awkward... lets pretend we met on that synchronized swimming team we were on ..lol
Her: " were we any good? "
YOU: " you know it!! we were the stars in speedo's"
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HER: "What's going on hubby-butt? Miss me yet?! It's been a whole day without a message...I hope you survive! lol !"
YOU: "i always miss my darling wife... like when i went on the safari/quest to east india in search of the cure to your uncle's illness.. which i found and cured him with
i feel so shitty!:( "
HER: " how did you get sick all of a sudden?!
Did you catch what myuncle had?! If so, at least you know how to cure it!
what doesn't feel good? need anything?! You know I will take care of my loving husband.... "
note: When a girl is responding in a positive way and playing along with your games and role playing you want to acknowledge it with reinforcing statements such as:
"I think you just might be allright.. "
"So i guess you are fun... kind of a dork.. but fun lol "
"You know, you seem like you might be be fun and also have a good head on your shoulders...a rare combination"
The key is to keep it fun and make joking statements. Just by being playful she will start to feel like you are safe and that makes alot easier transition to meeting her. When all this is done correctly, within minutes of meeting you she will say things like "I feel like we have known each other forever, Like I have been here hanging out with you...so many times before"YOU: " nah... wont be awkward... lets pretend we met on that synchronized swimming team we were on ..lol
Her: " were we any good? "
YOU: " you know it!! we were the stars in speedo's
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HER: "What's going on hubby-butt? Miss me yet?! It's been a whole day without a message...I hope you survive! lol !"
YOU: "i always miss my darling wife... like when i went on the safari/quest to east india in search of the cure to your uncle's illness.. which i found and cured him with
i feel so shitty!:( "
HER: " how did you get sick all of a sudden?!
Did you catch what myuncle had?! If so, at least you know how to cure it!what doesn't feel good? need anything?! You know I will take care of my loving husband.... "
note: When a girl is responding in a positive way and playing along with your games and role playing you want to acknowledge it with reinforcing statements such as:
"I think you just might be allright..
""So i guess you are fun... kind of a dork.. but fun
lol ""You know, you seem like you might be be fun and also have a good head on your shoulders...a rare combination"
Keep in mind there are HUNDREDS of millions of people online.. If youdo screw up,which you will, who cares.... there is an endless sea of people out there.
cheers guys..
Kelly from windowshoppingforwomen.com