Lol I know this sort of situation and it's something that is way more common for online stuff as they can't go on your body language and tone of voice (which IRL may have conveyed playful teasing than a flat-out insult)

How hot is this girl? if she isn't that attractive or you sense the vibe she has low self esteem be careful with teasing.

Yesterday, I got a message from a girl on Jdate who seemed seriously offended by what I said in my last messaged her.

Originally, before I ever messaged her she viewed my profile without messaging me. So I tried one if the bravo PUA lines, which was "oh boy...." Eventually I got a response from her saying, "Hmm. . .that's one way to get a reply. . Is the 'oh boy' a good thing? (I hope)" so then a few days later I respond back to her with another bravo pua line which was "Oh man, you look like one of the those girls who takes forever to get ready. My sister is like that. Cant deal with it anymore." Finally, that's when she responded back to me yesterday saying "Why would you write to me if all you wanted to do was insult me? And, no, I am not one of those girls."


I didn't mean to insult her, I was just trying to tease her and get her to qualify herself just as the bravo PUA guy suggested. Is this girl just being overly sensitive?

you used 2 openers in a row!

why didnt you respond to her question, instead of ignoring it?

"Hmm. . .that's one way to get a reply. . Is the 'oh boy' a good thing? (I hope)"

that is her responding to you, in a positive way, and giving you your openen window

you didnt recognize it, and instead did something...odd (to her)

Yesterday, I messaged a black girl online on okcupid who is about an HB8. My message to her was "hey! you have a sexy ass!" Today she responded back to me with a one word message that said "rude." One question I have is if she thought it was rude then why didnt she ignore it. Also, is it actually a bad idea to give a girl a sexual compliment online?

It's good to pretend that you are dealing with a curious cat when speaking with women, online or off. Be a bit of a mystery, speak to them in a manner that they will want to solve the mystery of who you are and what you're all about. Your blunt "sexy ass ma" comment would work if women were logical like men. They are led by emotions. They want to FEEL. Give them your infectious positive energy and let her ride that wave.

You go up to a girl in the real world with positive energy, a flirty vibe, a good calibrated amount of confidence, strong eye contact, a bit of kino and a good vocal tonality. Completely non-douchey unlike a fair amount of the "PUA" Youtube videos. There you go. That's all you need. It may sound simple, but that's all the mystery a girl will EVER need to want to peel the layers of the onion to try to find out who this charming man is, what's he all about.

How do you obtain this level of confidence? You start opening girls. There's the rub that most guys will never get over: They are too afraid to approach, so the spoils go to the guys who will put themselves in the game.

I don't have advice for conveying mystery from behind a screen, I prefer in-the-flesh approaching and dating.

So, do u think that guys in general have a better chance of getting girls through IRL approaches than through online dating?