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Author:  Sepirose [ Fri Dec 06, 2013 11:27 am ]
Post subject:  How do i handle this?
So i found this HB10 on facebook. I usualy dont try to get girls on facebook, but she was way to hot.

I poked her, and she poked me back. I didnt expect that, i messaged here and we chatted a little, she also accepted my friend request.

After chatting a little, she seemed pretty interessted. I wanted to get her number so i went for it. This is the response i got:

ME: You are a sweet and interesseting girl, do you want to join me for a drink?;)
HB10: YEEEEES :D
ME: Cool, xxx-xxx-xxx, text me with a picture, so i know who you are!

This is very it good to something i havent seen before..

HB10: Smoooth :p You can this :p

I didnt now how to answer to this so i said..

ME: haha you are funny, i cant "This" as i said, i find you interesseting. And it would be fun meeting up:)
ME: I have to run, text me! So we can plan that drink
HB10: hahaha i will text you one day, not now. i have to play the same game, dont want to seem desperat:p hahaha, enjoy :D

How do i respond to that? It is totaly fine for me to meet her inn a week or so, i just wanted to number close her. I have exams now, so i wouldnt have time to meet up with her anyway.
Author:  Redlight [ Fri Dec 06, 2013 3:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do i handle this?
Man, I would respond to the "I don't want to seem desperate" with something along the lines of "I wouldn't hold that against you" or "Great, the last thing I need is another girl that's desperate to meet me"... my rule is not to take myself or anything she says seriously...
Author:  TheFury [ Fri Dec 06, 2013 3:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do i handle this?
she is just teasing you most likely. Facebooking randoms is really low percentage. I don't think you did anything wrong.
Author:  Sepirose [ Fri Dec 06, 2013 9:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do i handle this?
Okei! Thanks for the help guys :D
Author:  Sepirose [ Mon Dec 09, 2013 6:30 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do i handle this?
Okei so i tried this:

ME: Great, the last thing I need is another girl that's desperate to meet me
HB10: Thats good for both of us, i hate people that keep naging ;)
ME: Enjoy your weekend ;)

So i want to go for her number one last time before giving her up, or should i go for a date? And how should i handle that?
Author:  Redlight [ Mon Dec 09, 2013 8:07 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How do i handle this?
Hey man, you did alright, however, should have softened the blow by using a smiley... Start a new thread about something exciting you are doing in the next couple of days... a wild party with friends, some adrenaline inducing activities, whatever... gauge her response and tell her to join you... balance the invite between casual "you can tag along" to an actual date invitation... in fact, make it a NON-DATE, your mindset being "let's hang out and see if there is more to you than meets the eye"...
Author:  Sepirose [ Mon Dec 09, 2013 6:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do i handle this?
Quote:
Hey man, you did alright, however, should have softened the blow by using a smiley... Start a new thread about something exciting you are doing in the next couple of days... a wild party with friends, some adrenaline inducing activities, whatever... gauge her response and tell her to join you... balance the invite between casual "you can tag along" to an actual date invitation... in fact, make it a NON-DATE, your mindset being "let's hang out and see if there is more to you than meets the eye"...
I am not doing anything exciting, except going with friends this weekend. But she is 3 years older than me, so i dont know if she would want to tag along.

Thanks for your response btw, and sorry for my bad english!
Author:  Redlight [ Mon Dec 09, 2013 7:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do i handle this?
Anytime! You should consider doing something about that "not doing anything exciting"... take up a new hobby, make a purpose of doing every week at least one thing you can talk passionately about to a woman you just met... It will not just help your gaming abilities, but also increase your well being...

The age gap should not be a problem if your friends are cool and well behaved (hint: if they remind you of the "MILF Duo" from American Pie, skip the next sentence) and the target will appreciate to see you interacting with your friends - having friends shows that you are socially calibrated and introducing her to your friends shows your emotional availability...
Author:  Sepirose [ Mon Dec 09, 2013 8:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do i handle this?
Okei! Thanks for the response.

It is quite difficult to find something to do theese days, im fully occupied by school and work.

But she is currently on vacation, so i should just wait till she comes back.
Author:  ZealousR [ Mon Dec 09, 2013 9:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How do i handle this?
You didn't do bad, you handled that quite well.

Get a new hobby - You can invite her to try it out with you, it's a great way to build comfort/attraction while displaying an attractive lifestyle. Plus you won't really be judged since it's new to you too.

Don't be too aloof - Keep a bit of distance but not too much. Girls live in the moment so whenever you're not interacting with her you're also risking someone else moving in on her. Also, convey your attraction to her you want her to know you want her but aren't desperate. Show attraction, but don't beg for approval.

Smileys - A bit irrelevant but mix it up with the smileys
Quote:
ME: Great, the last thing I need is another girl that's desperate to meet me
HB10: Thats good for both of us, i hate people that keep naging ;)
ME: Enjoy your weekend
In this example, it's good you didn't use a smiley and that built up the tension. Then you used a smiley again to show you're still fun.
Try this out, you may be better than others: Mix up the smileys variety is great, and every now and then drop the smileys and throw in something she won't be sure to take seriously or jokingly, then throw in some more smileys.

Good luck.
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