hey guys.
i don't normally do online game, especially on facebook. recently i noticed this hb who is a friend-of-a-friend of mine on facebook, she's an american doing foreign exchange student program in my university (i'm not an american). came here a few weeks ago. i know cold approaches on fb are frowned upon and usually result in nothing, but i figured since i have no other way of contacting her i, and am genuinely curious about her, might as well give it a try. i opened with something casual, "hey nerd, just noticed you're a friend of __. why did i never see you on campus?".
to my surprise she responded very well. long reply, high energy, emoticons, everything. we had a good chat and it seemed like she's into it. she was asking me questions, giving me threads to work with and all. through 3 short chats she dropped some thick hints that she's down to meet, like when i told her there's a lot of fun things to do around the city she implied that i can be her mentor. at some point she said that she can probably out-drink me and that i can see it as a challenge.
i didn't want to become an online entertainer so i went for the date after just 3 short chat sessions. i clearly did not build enough comfort. actually i hardly built any. i just saw ioi's and went for the kill, big mistake. you live and learn.
set up a meet in a bar close to where we both live, she confirmed. the day comes and i text something like "hey i'll be a few minutes late tonight". a few HOURS go by and she replies with "i can't make it
" and that's it. no apology, no explanation, no reschedule, nothing. i just go with "that's alright" thinking she might continue the conversation, but it's been 3 days and i got nothing back. normally i wouldn't give a shit, but considering our short interaction she was clearly into it, problem was i didn't build comfort (which is actually my strong side), i just kept a c&f vibe and for her i was pretty much a random stranger. it should come as no surprise that she didn't feel any obligation to meet me.
like i said it's been 3 days. there's a party coming up in my university soon, i was thinking maybe suggesting she comes along. what do you think? should i just move on? i feel kind of shitty for messing it up, i think she might be really cute.