Hi, I already pointed it out in the "great chat, mediocre date" thread: I have a rather good ability to get women interested to meet me, but I seem to be less convincing on the 1st date. This is unusual to me, as I normally got women without dating. So I think my dating frame is off. I am not quite sure what the problem is, as had success in the past and I would say I am a more mature and definitely better looking person now. But I regulalry get to hear "Nice date, but no spark".

Am I perhaps too slow in my preparatory escalation? The first two dates I used to go quickly for the handholding/kiss, with no success (I got one fuck out of it, but didn't like the girl). The last two times I kept my hands to me, still got the "sorry, no spark" message. And I did learn from the last mistake and didn't overdo the chatting before the dating.

Any thoughts on that?

Thanks!

Thanks for the reply. I usually look crap on pictures, and I don't lie about my physique. I also try to be honest in my self description.

I think that I don't adapt well to the "artificial" surroundings to an online date where both parties know what this is all about.