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Author:  AtrZar [ Sat Jun 29, 2013 6:18 am ]
Post subject:  Stuck in text buddy situation

Whats up fellas

So I message a girl online, pretty hot, gorgeous in the face. We exchange a couple of online messages and then she stops answering. It's fine, not the end of the world, move on. But as a last ditch effort, I try the old "hey, still wanna chat? or maybe even go out for coffee" "oh sorry I haven't responded but I've been super busy with work. here's my number"

We trade a few texts, get on the phone once, but she just doesn't seem in a huge hurry to set up a place and time. Okay, fine. I always texted her first for some 4 or 5 nights that week. But eventually I got tired and just abruptly ended a conversation "I'm going to bed. Let me know when you want to do something" and put it through my mind that that was that.

Days later, lo and behold, she texts me. Says she has family in town and blah blah blah. But still no date and time. She's hot and all but in general I can get at least a date out of most girls I put time into. Having said that, I'd rather not blow it.

I'm about ready to tell her to give me a date and time or don't bother texting me. She said on the phone she had agreed to go out, and she was not going to just back out, but she was just busy, so I have a feeling if I corner her she will cut the BS and go.

Question: If I corner her like that and she agrees to go out 1) do I look like a jerk for cornering her? And 2) do I look desperate because I dropped a hint that I wanted to set a date and time about 5 times?

And as a follow up to #1, how do I recover from being a jerk when I do meet her?

She is mostly receptive in text, answers my messages quickly and plays along. But I feel like I am breaking ground in getting text friend zoned haha.

Thanks for the advice!

Zar

Author:  braaaaap [ Sat Jun 29, 2013 12:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in text buddy situation

I'm not very experienced but I think you should give her some space. If you talk everyday and everyday you ask her out, you look needy as fuck and that's not good bro... I'd either wait for her to text first or at least wait a couple days before you text her again. She could also be just texting you for the attention but I don't think that's the case. But like I said, I'm not very experienced.

Author:  pumpington [ Sat Jun 29, 2013 1:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in text buddy situation

maybe the pictures in her profile are not her and she can't meet you because she doesn't know how to tell you

Author:  Jambi [ Sat Jun 29, 2013 4:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in text buddy situation

wait a sec... Your waiting for her to ask you out?

You do realise women are brought up with the believe that as the man you are supposed to ask her out.

Think about something she responded very enthusiatically towards when you were making small talk e.g. she likes pizza or ice cream or whatever, then introduce her to the idea of the two of you partaking in that together. Don't spring it on her last minute get her warmed up to it then spring it on her as if it was a last minute idea.

Get a general idea when she is free, set a time and day then suggest she join you

Author:  TheFury [ Mon Jul 01, 2013 2:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Stuck in text buddy situation

(1) She stopped responding most likely because you didn't ask her out early enough
(2) You made the same mistake, AGAIN, when you started texting her and all that shit instead of just saying the following: "Hey, what are you up to Tuesday? Want to meet up?"

In other words, you already know what you need to do and what you should have done but your fear of rejection is getting in the way and is going to end up getting you rejected.
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Whats up fellas

So I message a girl online, pretty hot, gorgeous in the face. We exchange a couple of online messages and then she stops answering. It's fine, not the end of the world, move on. But as a last ditch effort, I try the old "hey, still wanna chat? or maybe even go out for coffee" "oh sorry I haven't responded but I've been super busy with work. here's my number"

We trade a few texts, get on the phone once, but she just doesn't seem in a huge hurry to set up a place and time. Okay, fine. I always texted her first for some 4 or 5 nights that week. But eventually I got tired and just abruptly ended a conversation "I'm going to bed. Let me know when you want to do something" and put it through my mind that that was that.

Days later, lo and behold, she texts me. Says she has family in town and blah blah blah. But still no date and time. She's hot and all but in general I can get at least a date out of most girls I put time into. Having said that, I'd rather not blow it.

I'm about ready to tell her to give me a date and time or don't bother texting me. She said on the phone she had agreed to go out, and she was not going to just back out, but she was just busy, so I have a feeling if I corner her she will cut the BS and go.

Question: If I corner her like that and she agrees to go out 1) do I look like a jerk for cornering her? And 2) do I look desperate because I dropped a hint that I wanted to set a date and time about 5 times?

And as a follow up to #1, how do I recover from being a jerk when I do meet her?

She is mostly receptive in text, answers my messages quickly and plays along. But I feel like I am breaking ground in getting text friend zoned haha.

Thanks for the advice!

Zar

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