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Make a joke out of it.
Say "no, you don't know me, but i'm not a stalker, I promise lol... I saw you on xyz group, and thought you seemed cool. I'm only say hello, I'm not being threatening lol.."
This disarms the situation, and shows you're not ruffled by her question. It also puts her at ease, since she may think you're genuine. That's why I included the part about the group, since the compliment will get in her good books.
Disagree. Say "no, you don't know me, but i'm not a stalker, I promise lol... I saw you on xyz group, and thought you seemed cool. I'm only say hello, I'm not being threatening lol.."
This disarms the situation, and shows you're not ruffled by her question. It also puts her at ease, since she may think you're genuine. That's why I included the part about the group, since the compliment will get in her good books.
This is why i only stick to learning from most of the sticky topics to find my answers.
This is why i think this is wrong:
1: it is a basic rule that you do not mention negative words such as "stalker" or "Threatening". Even though you have but "i am not" in front of it, still makes those words pass through her mind. You want to avoid say these types of things at all costs.
2: This sentances shouts justification and desperation. Im not a stalker, im not being threatening, im only saying hello. Thats 3 times you're trying to defend yourself and seem like a nice guy.
My personal way of doing things (you can try this but i recommend finding what works best for you) is bantering with them. For example, "i had to add you, i couldn't let you carry on with picture on your profile...etc..."
Instantly puts them on justifying mode rather than you
Regards,
Boyo