Tell me if these scenarios are familiar to you:
You see a cute girl on Facebook but you’re too afraid to talk to her.
You start talking to a girl you like on Facebook but she’s very cold and the conversation fizzles out.
You have good chemistry with a girl on Facebook but you’re to afraid to ask for the number or set up a date.
What mistakes do guys make when trying to meet a girl on Facebook?
One of the biggest mistakes so many guys make when trying to talk to a chick on Facebook is that during the entire conversation they are extremely anxiously from start to finish because all they can focus on is getting the result they want and fearing the girl will reject them:
“Oh my god how do I start the conversation, will she respond???”
“Oh my god quickly what do I say before she gets bored and leaves???”
“Oh my god how do I ask for the number, will she give it to me???”
This is basically SHOOTING YOURSELF IN THE FOOT,
There are only 2 types of guys in a woman’s eyes:
MAN or BITCH
Either she looks at you with respect and categorizes you as a guy she would potentially have sex-with, or she unconsciously or even consciously categorizes you as a little BITCH.
How does she responds to you in both categories:
MAN VS BITCH:
You talk about what she wants to talk about / You talk about what you want to talk about
You are reacting emotionally to her / She is reacting emotionally to you
She shows you her “friendly” side / She shows you her sexy and flirty side
She decides what’s appropriate or not / You do whatever you want to do
You feel anxiety and stress when talking / You feel fun and excitement when talking
She is judging what you are saying / You are judging what she is saying
When a woman categorizes you as a MAN or a BITCH this is basically how she sees you in terms of sexual attraction:
You would never have sex with the woman on the right, she is disgusting in terms of sexual attraction, on the other hand you would sleep with the left woman even if she told you she was a baby killer!
OK I don’t want to be a bitch!
Neither do I… That’s why I always make sure I’m acting like a man and not a bitch, and so should you. Not only will you feel much better, but girls will start treating you much better. Suddenly she’s the one who’s chasing your attention, it’s the whole package basically, you don’t need to be good looking, you don’t need a good job, you don’t need money, you only need 1 simple thing to be categorized as a man in her eyes:
Take responsibility for the fucking interaction!
What does this mean?
This basically means that when you talk to the girl it is your job as a man to not be dependent on her on any level.
Women are massively attracted to man who don’t need them, that’s because there’s nothing more attractive in a woman’s eyes then a man who is FREE.
But what does “not being dependent on her” mean?
Not being dependent on a woman on any level means you require nothing from her, therefor when you talk to her you take full responsibility for yourself and her on all levels:
It is your job to be happy without needing her presence, her reactions or her approval to be happy.
It is your job to make things happen, this means starting the conversation, choosing what topics to talk about, asking for the number and planning a date.
Women are MASSIVELY, MASSIVELY attracted to a guy like this.
There is absolutely nothing in this world a woman finds more attractive then a guy who takes 100% responsibility for his life and truly doesn’t need her on any level because when she talks to him he does not need anything from her, therefor he can only give her value (which comes for a woman in the form of emotions).
When a woman categorizes a guy as a MAN, she subconsciously knows that sex is just a matter of time because she is attracted to him and he is not afraid to show his attraction to her, she also knows she will feel very strong emotions around him because he says and does whatever he wants (positive AND negative), meaning she will feel a full range of emotions and that’s exactly what women are looking for!
Sounds awesome but how do I do that?
The answer is very simple, albeit not easy – you need to truly take responsibility for everything.
Don’t get me wrong, this is one of the most pleasuring things you can do, but to actually be able to talk to a woman you are attracted to without needing her approval or validation is a veryhard thing to learn, but it’s probably one of the most important life skills you will ever acquire.
Until you do this by instinct you will need to consciously implement this and take responsibility for the interaction, at first it’s a bit scary and outside your comfort zone but you quickly learn to do it on consistent basis.
Basically what you need to do is step out of your comfort zone by:
- Forcing yourself to be authentic with women, meaning you talk to her with whatever emotional state you are feeling, without faking anything, this means that when you feel down you don’t fake it, you tell her you feel down.
Forcing yourself to say what you find funny and what you want to talk about instead of talking about what she wants to talk about, this is because you need to make yourself have fun and not be dependent on her.
Forcing yourself to show her you like her when you want to, this means keeping the interaction in a man-to-woman frame and not just a friend-to-friend frame, this doesn’t mean you have to talk about anything sexual, it just means she has to know what’s up and what are your intentions towards her, the sooner the better.
The perks are clear though, when you truly get this down you could potentially talk to a girl for a few minutes and already make plans for you to go to her house and vice versa (oh and I have), or any other crazy thing you want to do with her.
Again this comes down to her categorizing you as a MAN and not as a BITCH, a man is a guy who takes responsibility for himself, a bitch is a guy who tries to make others take responsibility for him.
If you are interested in further reading about this subject I have great article that complements this topic fantastically:
http://www.wakeupfeelfresh.com/take-res ... -get-laid/