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Author:  TheRedBaron [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 6:52 am ]
Post subject:  How to Deal With Long Messages But No Interest in Meeting?

Okay, I literally never ask for advice on any one individual girl, but this one is proving to be a little difficult. And the only reason I'm bothering with her is because she is a smokin 9 and unusually intelligent/witty.

For some weird reasons of her own she didn't want to exchange phone #s, so i got her e-mail. We've been e-mailing each other back and forth a couple times a day all week. I would post some of the conversation here, but she goes off on these fucking long-ass tangents on historical facts. Like, I said let's grab a beer on Sunday, she goes off into old Croation recipes for beer and Egyptian mummies and cannibals and the british navy and the American railroad. I shit you not.

Anyways, this was her response to when I asked her out:

"I'm sorry, but Sunday is the Christian sabbath, and I'm busy that day not attending church."

The rest of the message she just goes on historical tangent bullshit, and she doesn't address the matter again.

Now, this girl is SERIOUSLY hot, so i figure that has something to do with it. Still, I'm not sure how to deal with this.

Help appreciated!

Author:  TheRedBaron [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 7:05 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to Deal With Long Messages But No Interest in Meetin

also, she seems incredibly self-centered... doesn't ask or say shit about me, but still writes these near essay-length e-mails about herself and her historical knowledge. I'm thinking about calling her out on it

Author:  detox75 [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 9:06 am ]
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severly Scale back the attention until you can gain attraction, which is probably unlikely at this point.

Author:  ants3940 [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 5:33 pm ]
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two words: FREEZE OUT!

Author:  GKS [ Sat Jan 12, 2013 11:06 pm ]
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I hate if when people keep screaming freeze-out or negs without fully understand their definitions. Freeze-out is used when you show HIGHER value and already have your target INVESTED and INTERESTED in you, hence taking away the attention make them want it more. Now if your target shows no interest, then what is the point of freezing out if it's not gonna faze her?

In this case, I feel that Redbaron's target isn't really invested in the interaction. But she's giving out mixed signals by maintaining contacts. I would need more information like your conversation or something to go off with. One way you can do is keep your replies short and to the point. Personally, I'd call her out. Be non-judgemental, like "Look I'd love to grab some beer and get to know you better in person, and honestly, these historical facts don't really help. So get back to me when you actually want to stop hiding behind your computer screen and do something fun and exciting. If not, it's cool and good luck. I'm just not looking for an email buddy."

One of the thing about gaming hot women is showing them you're the boss and you're not playing their puppet show like bunch of other AFCs that hit on them daily. Convey to them that you're interested but you're not tolerating their bullshit, you can walk away any minute because you don't need them, you have plenty other women to be with. Show her that you won't stick around if she continues to waste your time.

Author:  TheRedBaron [ Sun Jan 13, 2013 12:38 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to Deal With Long Messages But No Interest in Meetin

Quote:
I hate if when people keep screaming freeze-out or negs without fully understand their definitions. Freeze-out is used when you show HIGHER value and already have your target INVESTED and INTERESTED in you, hence taking away the attention make them want it more. Now if your target shows no interest, then what is the point of freezing out if it's not gonna faze her?

In this case, I feel that Redbaron's target isn't really invested in the interaction. But she's giving out mixed signals by maintaining contacts. I would need more information like your conversation or something to go off with. One way you can do is keep your replies short and to the point. Personally, I'd call her out. Be non-judgemental, like "Look I'd love to grab some beer and get to know you better in person, and honestly, these historical facts don't really help. So get back to me when you actually want to stop hiding behind your computer screen and do something fun and exciting. If not, it's cool and good luck. I'm just not looking for an email buddy."

One of the thing about gaming hot women is showing them you're the boss and you're not playing their puppet show like bunch of other AFCs that hit on them daily. Convey to them that you're interested but you're not tolerating their bullshit, you can walk away any minute because you don't need them, you have plenty other women to be with. Show her that you won't stick around if she continues to waste your time.
Money advice, as always. Thanks man, I'll call her out... also because to be honest, I don't give a flying fuck about ice cream soda bans on the sabbath instituted by the Church in the 19th century. I don't even know how she brought that shit into the conversation

Author:  detox75 [ Sun Jan 13, 2013 3:08 am ]
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Calling her out on her shit will accomplish nothing, good luck with that tract.

Also freezing out someone who you has accepted your higher value, is interested, and invested, would be counterproductive.

Author:  TheRedBaron [ Sun Jan 13, 2013 4:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to Deal With Long Messages But No Interest in Meetin

Called her out. Her response:

"Sorry. My profile is pretty clear about my being on OkCupid for lesbian sex."

Which is true, but it also suggested she was open to men.

Lol, oh well.

Author:  TheRedBaron [ Sun Jan 13, 2013 10:41 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to Deal With Long Messages But No Interest in Meetin

Ok, so after she told me she was only looking for lesbian sex, I said, "Lol, no one said anything about sex, but okay. Good luck to you." Basically meaning good bye.

Today I woke up to a response from her:


"Call me after your sex change operation!

Just kidding!

The mention of surgery reminds me of a joke:"


The rest is just some stupid joke about a restaurant. Btw, this is what I'm dealing with... she'll say something that reminds HERSELF of something else and go off on these long-ass tangents that have nothing to do with the conversation.

Anyways, wondering if I should even bother responding to this. Either she actually is interested, or just didn't understand that I was leaving the conversation. If I do, it's just going to be straight forward like before. I'm not putting up with another 5 essay-length e-mails about the size of George Washington's dick just to be told she's only interested in men of "unusual intelligence."

Author:  GKS [ Mon Jan 14, 2013 7:24 am ]
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As you can see, once you walked away from her bullshit, she tried her best to get your attention again. Even throwing you a hook as "hey even i said change your sex, you know I'm thinking about sleeping with you, there might be chances if you try hard enough".

Instead of biting her bait or engage her long rant about pointless stuffs, I'd just toss her a hoop and say something like this "Joke on you. My penis glows in the dark ;)" Short and simple. Let her chase.

Author:  TheRedBaron [ Thu Jan 17, 2013 5:41 pm ]
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Well, she's finally talking about normal shit like a real person, but I'm unsure as to how to get her to meet up. Just continue the convo a little and try again?

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