So my over all experience from this is people are so predictable, reading people's profiles is like reading the same ones over and over again. Commonalities includes their interest in various different music, similar interest such as hobbies, aspirations etc. For me personally it was all bullshit! Doesn't matter what you talk about, conversations is just an illusion, what matters is how you perceive it.
Example:
HB: Oh yeah I like listening to rock
ME: oh yeah cool, I like such and such = BULLSHIT! 80% of the population talks like this! trying to find similarities and common interest.
Another Example I tried
HB: Oh yeah I like listening to rock music
Me: When ever I listen to music, I find that particular songs give me different feelings like how I can get real Amped by listening to an Angry rock musician and it feels like I want to tear shit up = got good responses from women for answer like this
Another example I tried
ME: I noticed you liked scuba diving, that's cool. I used to scuba dive when I was 16, when ever I was underwater I would pretend to try and find some lost treasure at the bottom of the ocean floor. = that seemed to work too
So overall for me conversations is to illicit characteristics, its all about black and white weather you like chocolate over vanilla, its not about right or wrong its about having an open mind.
I learned more about leading a conversation and transitioning smoothly into different topics.
Example:
ME: I see your into comedy, my ex girl friend and her family like this particular comedian "Danny Boy" have you ever heard of him?
Her: yeah hes from scottland
ME: yeah thats the one, I can barely understand what he says cause he speaks to fast, but have you noticed how comedians always talks about racism and sex alot?
(transitioning conversation leading in to sexual topics)
Hoops, Frames, Shit Tests etc seems a lot easier to calibrate during real time chatting on MSG/IMS, now that I am aware of spotting hoops, frames and shit test in MSG/IMS I am now able calibrate this in field.
Anyway this is not an advice for newbies this is my own personal knowledge I have gained from my own experience of POF. Because one day I will look back on this and see how much I have improved
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actually Im a reformed chump, obviously the chumps who never spotted your particular behavior is mesmerized by your beauty and decided to substitute your rude behavior for beauty, I see beauty but I don't let myself get hypnotized by it. 
