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Author:  Ethan Hunt [ Mon Nov 07, 2011 4:54 am ]
Post subject:  She shat on my routine. Help!
I can do fine with online game usually until she changes the subject or says something I don't expect, then I'm not sure what to do. Any ideas?

Me:
hey are you friendly?

HB8
I would think. Haha

Me:
lol ok good just checking to see if you have a great personality to go along with that pretty face

HB8
Awww thanks :))

Me:
Welcome. So tell me about yourself. You're obviously very pretty, but what else do you have going for you besides your looks?

HB8:
Uhm I play volleyball and I'm 21. Senior at *School name*. I just like to have fun really. Haha how about you?

Me:
god you sound boring. lol jk. and im the fuckin bomb nigga. all you need to know. lol.

*like a week later*

HB8
Sorry it took me so long. I never get on Facebook. Haha I just use twitter


The last message was accompanied by her liking one of my pictures. (IOI).
Author:  mickeyjackson21 [ Mon Nov 07, 2011 7:11 pm ]
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you got burned here because when you asked something about her, you directly insulted her by calling her boring. PUAs tease, negg, and validate. these things are done to show playfulness and demonstrates high value. one should never insult a girl, especially when it comes to a girl's passions and hobbies which you put her down for. PU is about make girls feel good about themselves and make them feel good (and horny lol) around you. learn for next time man.

ps don't swear when interacting with girls. not cool, unless they do swear.
Author:  JSmooth [ Mon Nov 07, 2011 7:15 pm ]
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Agreed you basically just insulting her even though you said you were joking "JK" in your message. I think you just went too far. As an expert in online game I'd tell you that networking sites are not the best for online game. Yes they can yeild some results but it takes a hell of a lot more work up front for the results than say a free online dating site does.
Author:  SmoothOp [ Mon Nov 07, 2011 7:17 pm ]
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You insaulted her then you said "I'm the fuckin bomb nigga"

If you said that to me I would laugh, when you say that to a girl, they think you are serious or retarded. Men and women tyrpically don't have the same sense of humour.

Be careful online, it's hard to convey emotion. I have insulted hundreds of girls online and through text cause I write something that is funny to me or my male friends. In the getting to know eachother process of course. Later on you can say whatever the fuck you feel like:)
Author:  JSmooth [ Mon Nov 07, 2011 7:22 pm ]
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Quote:
Be careful online, it's hard to convey emotion. I have insulted hundreds of girls online and through text cause I write something that is funny to me or my male friends. In the getting to know eachother process of course. Later on you can say whatever the fuck you feel like:)
BINGO!
Author:  Gizmo1000 [ Mon Nov 07, 2011 8:01 pm ]
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As much as I respect jsmooths posts I think the other guy was right when he said you messed up by saying "I'm da fucking bomb nigga"

I'm da bomb sounds a bit crap and using nigga... Unless she is a racist that language isn't guna impress anyone. If a stunning girl said that to me I'd be really turned off
Author:  Ethan Hunt [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 1:46 am ]
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I agree with all of you, the "im the bomb nigga" was too much, I was trying to be playful and I guess it backfired. And as far as saying she's boring, I tried to say what she wouldn't expect. Typically guys suck up and say "that's awesome! You sound like a really great person" or some shit and I wanted to be different and throw her off. If she would have actually told me about some serious passions and shit I wouldn't have been so rude, but since it was just basic info I felt I could get away with it.

But anyway she did respond and even went and "liked" one of my pictures so im guessing im still in. So what do I say now to help dig myself out of the hole?
Author:  mickeyjackson21 [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 10:51 am ]
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It's good to be different but there is a difference between sucking up to a girl and showing positive validation. in one you're giving her high value and in the other you're the one with higher value.

the idea is when in a conversation with a girl is not to say typical AFC responses when you find out something about the girl and say stuff like "thats good/cool/nice etc". this happens with all of the guys who she has encountered who just say that statement and do not go deeper and immediately ask another irrelevant question. this is a pattern girl go through the whole time and thats why none of the guys she met really stand out. so in order to create better impact you have to break the pattern and express a comment or compliment to her thats more genuine that she has never heard before. either by being empathetic, expressing what emotions she would feel when she does that activity/job or you can make an assumption that you didnt expect for her to do that hobbie or work in that job and thought that she did something different. it doesnt matter if the assumption is right or wrong, the idea is to keep the convo flowing and it shows the girl that you are paying attention and trying to get to know her. also you will find that when you make a wrong assumption about a girl, she will try to validate herself which is really good as she is try to work to gain your approval.

also besides that da bomb saying being rude and racist, it would also show that you are egotistical, and pompous which isnt good to be seen in the eyes of a girl.

hope that i have helped. happy gaming dude ;-)
Author:  flipsider [ Wed Nov 09, 2011 2:03 am ]
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Hahaha I've negged far worse and recovered...trust me. But atleast she got back to you lol shes probably illegitimately got busy and your message slipped her mind.

Just make sure you reread your messages and think about how shes going to react when she opens them.

Even if you said "God you sound boring hahaha Friendly and athletic...what else do you do that i'd find interesting :p
You can always save yourself, you are the one that makes the decisions where you want your conversations to go.
Author:  gtdave [ Fri Nov 11, 2011 3:31 am ]
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Hahaha, you bombed out nigga ;)
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