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| Author: | JSmooth [ Tue Nov 01, 2011 4:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Inconsistency will hurt you! |
This is a pet pieve of mine with online dating and it kills lots of guys every day! Let this be a warning and a revelation for some of those out there. I have said many many times for posts I've written not to use my exact words when doing openers and talking to women. There is an underlying reason "why" for that. You no more speak like me, act like me, or react like I do....anymore than I talk like you, act like you, etc. You reading this and I are two different people I think we could both agree. We have different life experiences, come from different places, different ages possibly, etc. What words I use are not going to be the words you use. They could sound similar but they will be different! Hence, you write a profile as you would write it on a dating site. You come up with all the clever little things to say about who you are, the girl you want, the hobbies you have, and so on. Then you go on a PUA forum and read openers someone half way around the world from you has had success with and you message it to 20 women and get no replies. WHY? Inconsistency is going to be a big reason for this. If your openers aren't perceived to match up with who you are then the girl isn't going to answer. She will believe you are being incosistent and fake which is a BIG RED FLAG against talking to you. Girls want guys who are real with them and honest to them. Women are very perceptive and cautious on dating sites. Don't give them a reason like this to not talk to you. If you sound like one guy one minute cocky and clever and the next you're this shy introverted guy they are going to be confused and likely just not talk to you anymore. Stay consistent! My advise is understand the principle of the opener that individual is using and break it down. Then re-write it for you using your words! Then you will start to see success with it. It has to be something that you would truly say in your own way. Don't just copy an opener off the forum and send it out there, it typically won't yield the same results. Make it your own! Furthermore, don't copy someone else's dating profile as yours either write your own. I know it's tough and a lot of people don't like writing but get through it. Last year meeting people online was the #2 way single people met, second to only after meeting people through friends. With so many millions of people on dating sites its a great way to go. You can be successful with online dating. It's not hard and doesn't require you to be casanova with your messages. Just be sincere, honest, direct, and clever and you'll go far! Remember if she messages you back attraction is assumed...she messaged you back when she didn't have to. You're in! Send a few messages to build rapport through questions and get her # and on a date quickly. More recent research has shown girls usually only go through 2-6 messages before setting up a date through the site or text. So don't be afraid to ask for it. Best of luck out there, Jon aka JSmooth |
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