what's up guys? i'm a newbie here. been reading PUA for quite a while and now i finally have a reason to start a thread.
so i met this very cute girl in a club almost 2 weeks ago and we sort of hit it off. conversation was a little dull and short but somehow i've managed to pull it off. she had to go so she (!) suggested we talk on facebook (before i had a chance to even ask for her number). spelled out her name for me and everything, seemed pretty into it. i added her and the conversation went something like this (translated to english. sounds better in my language, you're gonna have to trust me on this):
27.08 her: how are you?
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04.09 her: so you're ignoring me..?
04.09 me: no, just being patient.. haven't seen you on chat yet, and talking to your inbox is no fun
you around?..
04.09 her: oh, i usually don't go online, i don't really like to IM. i know it sounds stupid but i think IM is kind of fake
[[huh maybe she'd rather meet?]]04.09 me: that's weird. i hope you don't think talking on the phone is fake either, cuz we might have some problem communicating. maybe we should talk via carrier pigeons? the old fashion way
04.09 her: haha yeah phone is better. it's best to talk face to face! but carrier pigeons might work.. [[definitely wants to meet]]
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07.09 me: well my pigeon is sick so i guess we'll have to go with your idea. i'm in your area next weekend, would be nice to do something together
[[she lives like an hour away]] meanwhile tell me a little about yourself. i remember that [[brought up some shit from the night we met, jokingly]] but what else? tell me something interesting! [[just trying to show i have standards and won't drive that far for just any girl]]08.09 her: haha well let's see.. well i'm [[boring basic stuff. what she does, age, etc. very short and basic]] and i live not far from where i met you
that's basically it, the rest you'll find out in person.. feels weird writing about myself! [[oh yeah she really wants us to meet]]08.09 me: heh just wanting to get to know you a little, it's not a job interview. and you don't have to be so mysterious
08.09 her: hah not being mysterious. but like you said - it's not a job interview.
[[getting kind of cold here, not sure how to handle this]]she lives kind of far so i'll only get to see her next week. i'm definitely going to see her, there's no question about that.
so my questions are:
1. should i ask for her number and move it to the phone? at first i thought yes but now i don't really see a reason to, maybe i should just keep this chat going for a while and then just meet her. maybe call just the night before to make the plans? also i'm worried i might be a little awkward on the phone so that's something to consider.
2. is she really into it? at first i thought definitely yes, because she seems very eager to meet, but now i don't know. she's been acting kind of dry and maybe she just wants to meet just so she can DECIDE if she's into me or not. i mean this conversation has been pretty much one sided, she's not asking any questions or revealing anything really.
3. her city is far and i don't really know it at all. it's packed with bars but i've never really been to any. i'll definitely be playing at her home field, and not where i feel comfortable at. i'm thinking about just letting her choose the place but i don't want to be led by her, so what should i do? maybe hear her suggestions and decide for us?
4. what the fuck should i say now? should i keep the conversation going or just forget about it for a few days, just let it hang, and then make the date? i was expecting her to ask me some questions but all i'm getting is these basic facts and nothing more. not sure what to talk about next, i don't want to get too personal for now, i'd rather save the interesting questions for the actual date.
5. can you think of anything i should improve or point out anything i did wrong? also knowing what i did right would be great too
looking forward to your feedback. thanks!