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| Author: | handel328239 [ Mon Jul 04, 2011 2:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Smack talking at work |
I am looking to get this inner-game issue solved at my job... Not exactly a PUA issue, but I have been pigeonholed at work as someone that people can take shots at. Let me explain... My role is small (2 people) within a group of 70. As such, people don't know what I do and can easily make fun of me for not doing anything. I am the first to be picked on for being (uncool, lazy, greedy) anytime someone can make a joke. It never used to bother me, but I am starting to realize it is obnoxious and I want to deal with it properly. I'd like to give people snappy comebacks but I don't know how to think of them in time and I cannot destroy these work relationships. I am tired of being the butt of the jokes. Any ideas/resources on how to rebuild my reputation? |
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| Author: | The Pendragon [ Thu Jul 07, 2011 2:16 am ] |
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I'M not claiming to be an expert but if people are targeting you for jokes you have one of two options, you can act more confident. You can do this by letting people know what you do and how it is vital to the group success( ya but without me you don't get.....) By doing this you can show you don't give a s@&/ and improve your reputation. You also could try to find a silver bullet on people who give you a hard time(not dirtbut a funny thing you could give them crap about) this enables you to have a base to build your comebacks on. Hope this helps. |
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| Author: | Slip n Slide [ Thu Jul 07, 2011 4:58 am ] |
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Do you usually own it? "Yeah I don't do anything but I get paid as much as you! Look who has the better deal!" "Look who's talking! I was just walking around not working, as usual and of course you were on facebook!" Those were off the top of my head, but you can try accepting their joke then flipping it on them. |
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| Author: | Valium [ Fri Jul 08, 2011 11:28 am ] |
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I agree with slip'n'slide. Blow up their reality into something larger than life and unrealistic so that you keep the frame... |
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| Author: | MuscleyDave [ Mon Jan 14, 2013 9:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Smack talking at work |
I can definitely sympathize with you. For two years my co-workers would always get me with a vicious prank. I'm not some humorless D-bag who can't take a joke, but for too long I was something of a whupping boy punching bag for them. One thing they would sometimes do is keep spraying me in the face with a squirt gun whenever I would go to the backroom. It was funny the first few times but it got old fast. When you've got a wet shirt and wet pants and you have to talk to customers and sell electronic items they don't trust you when you're all wet and they keep asking "Hey, fell in the shower buddy, huh?" and you just have to smile and say to them "Heh, no actually me and the other employees are just prank-joking on each other." But the customer doesn't care about any of that and you've already lost the sale. That was back before I had gained confidence in myself and my technique but if those jerk offs tried to do that to me again today? Well, let's just say it would be a very different story and I probably wouldn't have walked out of that job. |
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| Author: | JayMoe [ Thu Jan 24, 2013 3:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Smack talking at work |
If it's only you they're making fun of, you have 2 options. 1) you could start saying, "still milking that old joke?" or "are you done?" or anything along those lines that makes them feel uncomfortable for using the same joke 2) find something in their line of work to make fun of, or exaggerate their jokes so it becomes on your terms. For example, if someones calling you a slacker say something like, "I'd stay here and argue about how hard I work, if I didn't already have a 2 hour nap scheduled." Then you become the funny one, and maybe they'll let up a little too. |
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| Author: | The Mellow [ Fri Jan 25, 2013 5:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Smack talking at work |
I was actually looking for this post, weird it came up again... I wear a lot of vests and made the Aladdin joke about myself a couple nights while wearing it. Now all these guys at the bar call me Aladdin, it bothers me slightly, but it bothers them more when they are ignored, not even looked at and dismissed only to start conversation with other people.. |
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| Author: | JayMoe [ Sat Feb 02, 2013 5:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Smack talking at work |
Quote: I was actually looking for this post, weird it came up again... I wear a lot of vests and made the Aladdin joke about myself a couple nights while wearing it. Now all these guys at the bar call me Aladdin, it bothers me slightly, but it bothers them more when they are ignored, not even looked at and dismissed only to start conversation with other people..
That's a good approach to make it go away. Some workplace or team teasing is a way of showing us we're part of the group. With co-workers I don't like, I'm usually pretty serious and would never give them a nickname. Got a coworker right now in a cast, and we call him Terry Fox. In that context, I'd have no issue with them teasing me, and it's being done in a good-natured way, and not to hurt feelings. |
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| Author: | AlphaConfidence [ Mon Feb 04, 2013 6:49 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Smack talking at work |
Quote: If it's only you they're making fun of, you have 2 options.
1) you could start saying, "still milking that old joke?" or "are you done?" or anything along those lines that makes them feel uncomfortable for using the same joke 2) find something in their line of work to make fun of, or exaggerate their jokes so it becomes on your terms. For example, if someones calling you a slacker say something like, "I'd stay here and argue about how hard I work, if I didn't already have a 2 hour nap scheduled." Then you become the funny one, and maybe they'll let up a little too. Passive agressivness and self depreciating humour! This HAS to work! Jays a genius!! |
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| Author: | JayMoe [ Mon Feb 04, 2013 5:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Smack talking at work |
Obviously beta confidence isn't familiar with assertiveness. When a man looks you in the eyes and says this without mumbling, how on earth can this be taken as passive aggressive? I know you're just trying to beak me back for exposing your betaness, but most people will agree with me on these tactics. |
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| Author: | skittlepimp [ Mon Feb 04, 2013 6:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Smack talking at work |
read these two short books: The art of war The Tao Teh Ching |
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| Author: | AlphaConfidence [ Mon Feb 04, 2013 6:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Smack talking at work |
Quote: Obviously beta confidence isn't familiar with assertiveness. When a man looks you in the eyes and says this without mumbling, how on earth can this be taken as passive aggressive?
I know you're just trying to beak me back for exposing your betaness, but most people will agree with me on these tactics. Lol right, and IM the one with "no game" Lmfao you're a joke |
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| Author: | AlphaConfidence [ Mon Feb 04, 2013 7:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Smack talking at work |
Quote: read these two short books:
Both great books, and The power of Seduction (Robert Greene) as well as the 48 Laws of Power, it'll illustrate how to get out of this situation without being a passive aggressive pussy. (Which will inturn cause more resentment and "moking")
The art of war The Tao Teh Ching |
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