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Author:  newton [ Wed Oct 10, 2007 5:29 am ]
Post subject:  The end of my day game approach anxiety
This is a semi-rant, but I have some novel ideas in here. Plus, writing them down will help me stick to them.

I'm so sick and tried of me being such a total pussy during the day. Yes in clubs/parties I get AA, but guess what: one, I have my friends with me so I have support, and a good reason not to look like a wimp; two, I usually have a little to drink so I'm more "loose"; and three, it's a fucking party! What better place to talk to chicks? But during the day I'm almost hopeless. I swear I get girls eyeing me sooo fucking often, but I can't bring myself to approach them. Really, I just feel like it would be so awkward and inappropriate. I know it's not going to be deep inside, but my AA has proven too strong thus far. Now, I know that I'm not the only guy who feels this way so perhaps my plan to cure myself is worth your while. One, I need to do is scream out: "FUCK SOCIETY'S NORMS!" Really, so what if it's inappropriate to start random conversations and hit on girls in the middle of the day?! I have to not care—it's my life, it's my rules. Two, I'm going to start talking to just about anyone that responds to, "Hi." About anything, I don't care. I want to be amiable and open up to whomever. Three, for every 2 hours that I'm outside I have to open some girl. Four, for every girl that I should have opened but didn't, I will do 50 push ups later that day. (I'm up to 100/200 push ups for today.)

Hopefully, I'll stick to this and follow up with a success story.
Author:  gadget [ Wed Oct 10, 2007 10:09 pm ]
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I need to start doing this around campus. I feel the same way.
Author:  Enterprise [ Thu Oct 11, 2007 12:59 am ]
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Yeah I'm in the same boat. Feels good to break out of the norms though.
Author:  cyrus_g [ Thu Oct 11, 2007 7:33 pm ]
Post subject:  AA
hey
I get the AA feeling everywhere. Bars, clubs, parties or even during the day. I feel its very inappropriate to go up to a girl i dont know.
i dont know how the fuck i can get rid of this feeling.

any tips would be gr8
cyrus
Author:  Danielbenjamin [ Fri Oct 12, 2007 4:54 am ]
Post subject:  entourage
Hey, I don't know if you guys watch entourage, but there is this episode where johnny drama is scared to do a commercial shoot and he is sitting in his trailer with a mantra of "I am not a pussy. I am not a pussy. I am not..." and so on.

As silly as it looks, talking to yourself, pumping yourself up, it really helps. The one I like to use (I got it from some video to help AA) is: "even though I feel this way I still completely accept myself" and then I state obvious things, like "There is no reason to be scared" and "even if a set goes bad, its better practice than one that went well" and things like that.
basically, pinpoint what scares you, and remind yourself how stupid it sounds out loud. Honestly, there is no good reason to not walk up to a girl, but we get so crazy anxious!

inner game is huge. you know the feeling you get when you walk into a room full of people you love being around? you could say anything you want and be who you are? that's the feeling that you're going for. If you can find a way to pull that out, that's a huge superpower.

Another way, think of something or some reason that you are the coolest guy in the room. When I got my cock pierced about a year ago (dont hate) I was asking the guy "why should I get this done?" (a friend of mine mostly convinced me to do it) and he said "you can be anywhere in life and know that you are the coolest guy in the room, and no one has to know why" and that's really stuck with me. I'll be somewhere; a football game, a girls dorm room, a place of worship; and remember that there is a piece of metal (or plastic, currently) going through the skin of my penis.

What more do I need?
Author:  Temur/Jeskai [ Fri Oct 26, 2007 4:06 am ]
Post subject:  AA Follow-up
I am taking two 300 and two 400 level classes and consequently, don't get to go out much so I do all or most of my sarging in the cafeteria. Seriously, for all college guys, the public eating areas are the place to go. You can make it hard for yourself by approaching cold and it is such good practice. I am still a virgin and have never kissed a girl but since reading the Game and hooking up with various PU message boards, it is only a matter of time.
Author:  Danrose [ Sat Jan 12, 2008 9:43 am ]
Post subject:  I am King
Basically, When I walk I consciously remind myself to stand dead tall, to have my half assed smile and thanks to my constant exploits to plan for world domination (God it's my dream!!!) I chant in my head 'I am fucking King, I own this world, it's mine, everything in it is mine, I can do what I want'

Instantly I feel a rush of confidence which should be there anyway, and when ever I walk past someone I sort of think to myself how they are my minion, I have the power to converse or demand what ever I like.

(Sounds sadistic, but fuck you it works!)

Cheers
Daniel
Author:  Hot Steppin' Peacock [ Tue May 06, 2008 10:46 pm ]
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Hehe
Author:  darkme_legendary [ Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: AA
Quote:
hey
I get the AA feeling everywhere. Bars, clubs, parties or even during the day. I feel its very inappropriate to go up to a girl i dont know.
i dont know how the fuck i can get rid of this feeling.

any tips would be gr8
cyrus
Search for new ways to overcome with..there are quick ways..you just have to look for them... :)
Author:  Desperado [ Fri Jun 13, 2008 4:23 am ]
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I just collapsed my AA today. Perhaps not permantly, but I'm not sure one ever can. Anyways, the method I used I'll tell you in a second, but let me paint a picture first. The only time/place I have been sarging is in the day at a local mall. Most targets are moving targets, so you really have to be on the ball to get their attention. Anyways, I went there 4 times and never so much as said "hi" to someone. Well, last night I was watching a video on conquering AA and it suggested (here it comes) that you say hi to everyone that pass you. I did just that today. I must greeted 60 people today. It helped so much that I opened a moving target without even pre-concieving it.

Also, something I used to do for fun when I was a cashier was find a random person, make I contact with them, and maintain it until they turned away. I don't know if this has anything to do with ancient ape dominance, but it definitely got me out of my head.
Author:  complex [ Fri Jun 13, 2008 5:15 am ]
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There no way AA will ever go away.. What you can do is open as many sets as possible to minimize it ; but that gay part is you will always have AA. It hardwired into our minds.
We get AA because of 2 reasons : 1) fear of retaliation from other males
2) fear of genes being fucked out of existance

BAsically scientifically speaking... from tribal societies that we all lived in.. if you were to approach a women..she would tell her man..her man would find you and kill you... in addition if a girl rejects you , it was feared she would tell all the women and you would be done...


This is whee the anxiety comes from...you cant rid off it but you can minimize it with practice

-Mystery - Even the best of pickup artists fear the approach
Author:  darkme_legendary [ Fri Jun 20, 2008 10:03 am ]
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Quote:
BAsically scientifically speaking... from tribal societies that we all lived in.. if you were to approach a women..she would tell her man..her man would find you and kill you... in addition if a girl rejects you , it was feared she would tell all the women and you would be done...


This is whee the anxiety comes from...you cant rid off it but you can minimize it with practice

-Mystery - Even the best of pickup artists fear the approach
This is totally non sense. If you believe that this is true...I can agree that you will never be able to get over it.
Babies, when they are born have only two fears: Lound Noises and Falling. All the other fears are learned in the mean time.
I got totally past it and I know other men that don't have it at all. So, it's possible.
Author:  complex [ Fri Jun 20, 2008 8:16 pm ]
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You cant "Completely" rid of AA....You can minimize it to the point where you can approach without feeling weird about it...you will always have some feeling though...its physcological...your mind fears a foreign territory...its pure science.. you always going into a new place.... Think of a cat m when a cat first goes into a room , the cat hides because they are not ajusted to the new environment,their scared...But then after some time the cat gets used to the corners and creeps out slowly
Author:  Gref [ Tue Jun 24, 2008 2:00 pm ]
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As far as dress goes it's more about style, attitude, and how congruent you are with it. What ever looks cool will get you attention whether it is a brand name or a rip off version. I pick cloths for their looks not for their name.
Girls will check what brand you're wearing to see how much you payed for that watch, but that's just to estimate how much money you have. Other than that brand doesn't matter.
Author:  Magic Man [ Mon Jul 07, 2008 11:21 pm ]
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There no way AA will ever go away.
that's totally true but the way I overcome AA is simple

1. have confidence (i'm still working on this) but this is my current process for gaining confidence. I do this by setting goals to improve every area of my life and acomplish them, I open a shit load of sets, listen to high energy music all the time and have changed my thought process to stop being negative

2. I don't know about you guys but when I get AA it's like a giant crushing wieght on my chest, so when i was approaching this one set I just visualized myself pushing the wieght down away from my chest and it worked for me(even though the set didn't go well I still got some valuable experience from it)

Well that's what I do and works pretty good for me although my biggest problem isn't AA it's negging i feel like i'm going to blow it and get slapped, any solutions?

"the only difference from fear and exileration is perception"Anynomus
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