| PUA Forum https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/ |
|
| Girl has anxiety! https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=43&t=86940 |
Page 1 of 1 |
| Author: | Jambi [ Sun Mar 06, 2011 10:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Girl has anxiety! |
Well basically I had a date with a Hb8/8.5 and it lead to an F-close. Just had second date which ended up us not actually going out and her just driving to my place and us making out in my bed. She is cool and she is really fun we always insult eachother etc...anyway... Things got pretty heated clothes came off and shit with a lot of 'heavy petting' but then she started saying that she was really self concious and then was asking if I was a player and how many girls have I had around etc. A bit weird seeing as things went a lot smoother the week before. Then she blurted out that she gets upset when I don't text back straight away and asked what am I doing that means I'm 'always busy'. Then she told me she was reading a book for women about 'how to play men' LMAO. I didn't have a clue how to respond so I basically said its just how I am its not because I dislike her or anything. Then I moved away and said its OK its fine we'll just talk and then she jumped on top of me started making out with me and basically I'm thinking WTF. As far as I know she wanted to make out without sex, not a nice situation and isn't cool when she is hot as hell... On the way out she said she hates it when I don't put x's in my messages to her and that I 'NEED' to from now on and that I should text her tonight right away... Normally I'd be thinking screw you I aint falling for it but I don't want to hurt her. What I'm doing is clearly working but how do I minimise this collateral? I need help wrapping my mind around this situation and advice on how I can reassure her that I'm not messing her around because I'm not. I'm not seeing anyone else right now and I do actually like this girl. I believe in the 'leave em better than you find em' rule and I'm not going to be cruel and mess her around. Any ideas? Cheers. |
|
| Author: | ltpqz [ Tue Mar 08, 2011 1:59 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
I think you should just listen to her. She just had sex with you and is probably worried that's all you were after. Reassure her that you really enjoy being with her. Maybe invite her to do something during the day and then not try to f-close. Sounds counter-intuitive, but not trying once will making it much easier for you overall. I slept with this one really cute girl after a few dates and she got really self-conscious and weird. I took her out during the day twice in one week and didn't try to close. She opened up after that and I didn't have to deal her "you just want sex" shit anymore. |
|
| Author: | Jambi [ Tue Mar 08, 2011 3:05 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Yes I'm definitely listening to her because from my experience that's absolutely key. That's what I normally do anyway and what any guy who is interested in a girl should do. Quote: 'Maybe invite her to do something during the day and then not try to f-close.'
Yeah this is really really good advice man I like the way you think. The only thing with doing this is that its going to trigger a relationship switch. I can just sense it. The greater the frequency of time spent together or duration of time spent together leads to triggering the relationship switch. Or even worse the more frequency and duration without sex for too long and you're in the friend zone.
|
|
| Author: | ltpqz [ Tue Mar 08, 2011 3:35 am ] |
| Post subject: | |
Yea you're right about the relationship switch. A few dates in one week may trigger relationship mode. However, I wouldn't worry about being in the friend zone since you've had sex and she's already getting a little clingy. Maybe just take her out once not twice during the day. Although if you want to stick to once/week dates, using this method, you will have to sacrifice getting laid this week. |
|
| Page 1 of 1 | All times are UTC |
| Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group http://www.phpbb.com/ |
|