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Author:  phat_matt85 [ Fri Jan 07, 2011 5:45 am ]
Post subject:  Met a girl of my dreams at the gym today, need tips
Today at the gym i finally talked to a girl i have been trying to talk to for 2 months now. I would always catch her looking back at me but when we would get close or pass by she would look down. On the top of that she always had her ipod on. So i was waiting so that right time to come to say something with out making it weird.
So i finally got to know her today, she actually started a conversation after i came up to her and broke the ice. I though everything went well, so i want to go for the gold and ask her out this weekened if i see her at the gym tomm. My question is should i? or should i wait a bit or should i feel her out a litttle more next time i talk to her. I see this girl almost everyday and i dont want to screw it up. Annnd that she is sooooooo hot i want to play my cards right and get her lol. Let me know what you think.
Author:  SameOldStory [ Fri Jan 07, 2011 7:59 am ]
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I'd ask her at first join to my breakfast at the gym's cafeteria, during the meal, tell her something like "Should I take it as our first date?, or you rather a better place?"..
You shouldn't wait too long, because you might get into her friend-zone.

good luck.
Author:  Jlax [ Sat Jan 08, 2011 7:38 am ]
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Focus on bringing out the best in here and yourself. Focus on having fun. Focus on being playful. Focus on bringing joy into her life no matter how corny that sounds. Bring value to the interaction. Dude, you dont have to say anything special or funny. Just be yourself and be fun. Go with the flow. Trust your intuition when to go in for the date. Seriosuly ask yourself, Do you think right now is the best time to ask her on a date?

None of us know how the interaction went besides you. So we cant say that you should ask her out on a date or what not. I mean you see her everyday so you still got time. Ask her whn you think the time is right. Obviously shes into you. Just act the same way you acted the first day of talking to her and when you finally start going on dates gradually start getting more physical, etc.

You got this champ.
Author:  phat_matt85 [ Sun Jan 09, 2011 1:21 am ]
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Great postes, thanks.

Soo today i learned few interesting things about this chick. I saw her today and she waved to me with a big smile. Before i had a good chance to come up to her and talk some guy comes up to me that i just met at the gym which i have seem him talking to her few times and asks how do u know her. I just told him that i met her few days ago and right away he says "she is crazy". lol Apperently they were talking for a month and he tired hanging out with her but she would never go out with him but they text alot everyday he says. Anyways he told me she just started talking to some kid at the gym like a week ago. The guy isnt too bad looking and Im not trying to sound cocky but i think i top him by at least 3 points i also think that im build better. So now my question is, do i got for it now? or wait?...I feel like if i go for it i really have to step it up or play loose like u guys said above. Oh she is also 22 if that helps ha.
Author:  P-Eazy [ Fri Jan 14, 2011 12:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Heyyyy :)
For starters, forget what this other dude says, maybe his game was weak or she just weren't into him.

The first interaction you had with her sounded polite and broke the ice like you said, now you need to show her that you're a man of action and you're not just going to stare or smile at her.

When you see her next and you catch her eye, finish your set then just bimble over with a nice big smile and say something like "hey I was wondering when I'd next see you" or "You know you're welcome to come spot me if you like but don't be counting if you're not going to be jumping in when i finish my set"...get and IOI out of her, make her smile and laugh but don't break her eye contact then just be direct and tell her you want to see her when she isn't all sweaty and you can have a proper conversation, ask her what time she's finishing at the gym then tell her you'll meet her out front so you can exchange numbers...

Make sure you just get on with your routine, engage with the other dudes and chicks so she can see you're a sociable person and get a bit of social proof, don't be trying to catch her eye or stare at her, just meet her outside at the time you said, try not to keep her waiting too long... Exchange numbers and tell her you'll call her the next day or the day after in the evening when you're done at the gym /work - most of the time they will say call me after 8 or just ok etc...

I can break it down even further for you if you like but i'm just here you show you the path, it's you my friend that has to walk it and decide which way you have to turn :P

Let us know how you play it, good luck!
Author:  Anti-lover13 [ Sat Jan 15, 2011 5:40 am ]
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Watch out for the friend zone dude. You don't want to be sucked into that shit.
Author:  Hunty [ Mon Jan 17, 2011 2:22 am ]
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I would ask to soon, prob next time u see her. Don't take her on a date after the gym, she probably has something to do or wants to shower. Unless its at golds gym and u just get a protein shake with her or something
Author:  AFCJimmyDoyle [ Sat Jan 22, 2011 6:16 pm ]
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Best advice for someone with no experience of breaking out of the friendzone is to do what you can as early as possible. Even though you said she has been checking you out, still could turn out as friends.

MPUA's will tell you all the time to kino and sexual escalate as early as possible, could have done it straight away to make future interactions go the same path. Or plan a date in which this would not seem wierd.

Make it a low risk date for her, something that seems great for 2 budding gym enthusiasts or perhaps you picked up on something she likes etc

Good luck, let us know.
Author:  bapestar [ Tue Apr 26, 2011 8:00 pm ]
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so is there an ending to this story?

Dont you hate people beggin for advise and then no follow-up. :throws tomato at OP:
Author:  Loupe [ Sat May 14, 2011 7:21 pm ]
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Good advice @AFCJimmyDoyle, a low risk date, but I agree also with escalating early. Make it low risk where you can sit next to her and use non verbal game to escalate and when its right go for KC. The key things to bear in mind are:

1. Low risk so she'll agree, ie: a chilled out bar for a drink
2. Option to kino and non-verbally escalate ie:somewhere you can sit next to her and micro escalate up to KC
Author:  Gaius [ Tue May 17, 2011 6:18 am ]
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I can tell you already got the wrong mind set. "Woman of my dreams." :/ my god falling for the okie doke I see. Best way is to be blunt and not give a fuck what happens. Much better than being a coward. Just my humble opinion.
Author:  ClavoARG [ Fri Jul 22, 2011 6:49 pm ]
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I can tell you already got the wrong mind set. "Woman of my dreams." :/ my god falling for the okie doke I see. Best way is to be blunt and not give a fuck what happens. Much better than being a coward. Just my humble opinion.
Totally agree with this

Want to be blunt?
You : I dont believe in man/woman friendship
She : Say wherever BUT is looking you in a new way.

If she continues talking to you next day... get her tiger!
Author:  Cornflakes [ Fri Jul 29, 2011 1:14 am ]
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my personal opinion is act asap before you think about it too much and get nervous. i do best in my game when i'm on my toes, and i don't have time to think about what i'm saying. sounds stupid, but you don't second guess yourself, which means even if you do fuck up, it still goes smooth cause you didn't even realize u fucked up....but thats just me brah.
Author:  Fvckitimout [ Fri Jul 29, 2011 8:59 am ]
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You are boring her by sucking up to her too much. The initial attraction could only takes you so far. I say make sure you get a playful vibe going and then challenge her to go jogging with you one morning where the two of you would race and person who wins gests a prize.
Author:  Drunk Romeo [ Mon Aug 01, 2011 9:10 pm ]
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The simplest way I can put it is: Just . . . Chill 8)
Easier said then done but, he is totally right.
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