PUA Forum :: No idea where to begin...massive anxiety

Basically, my problem is that I have little to no experience (one girl), and have no confidence with women at all. I see the women I'm attracted to
as “superior” to me somehow, and would never have any interest in me.

In high school I was ridiculed endlessly for being a virgin at 16 and so I only ever dated the girls at the bottom, the ones no other guy would touch.
Then I met the most beautiful girl in the world online.

We met for real, fell in love and spent the whole summer today (4 months straight). But now the money to see eachother has run out and she's told me
its best if we're just friends, even though we're still in love. All the fear and anxiety is back. Though I'm still completely in love with her I think her love for me is fading.

I literally have no idea how to get another girl. I'm too afraid of rejection to talk to random girls in bars or clubs. I don't know what to do.
There's a bar I go to a lot which has exactly the type of girl I want in it (rocker/alternative girls) but I'm too afraid to do anything.

I don't think I'm ugly tbh, most girls say I'm pretty hot, including hot (but taken) ones. I don't feel it though, and that shows a lot I think.
But to go from a practically friendless nerd to dating a cheerleader for almost a year has got to mean something...
Thing is I'm not looking for one night stands, but to be able to get the type of girls I've always wanted but have always been too shy to try with.

Advice?

Author:	PresumingEd [ Thu Dec 23, 2010 9:01 pm ]
Post subject:	No idea where to begin...massive anxiety
Basically, my problem is that I have little to no experience (one girl), and have no confidence with women at all. I see the women I'm attracted to as “superior” to me somehow, and would never have any interest in me. In high school I was ridiculed endlessly for being a virgin at 16 and so I only ever dated the girls at the bottom, the ones no other guy would touch. Then I met the most beautiful girl in the world online. We met for real, fell in love and spent the whole summer today (4 months straight). But now the money to see eachother has run out and she's told me its best if we're just friends, even though we're still in love. All the fear and anxiety is back. Though I'm still completely in love with her I think her love for me is fading. I literally have no idea how to get another girl. I'm too afraid of rejection to talk to random girls in bars or clubs. I don't know what to do. There's a bar I go to a lot which has exactly the type of girl I want in it (rocker/alternative girls) but I'm too afraid to do anything. I don't think I'm ugly tbh, most girls say I'm pretty hot, including hot (but taken) ones. I don't feel it though, and that shows a lot I think. But to go from a practically friendless nerd to dating a cheerleader for almost a year has got to mean something... Thing is I'm not looking for one night stands, but to be able to get the type of girls I've always wanted but have always been too shy to try with. Advice?

Author:	AFC Daniel [ Thu Dec 23, 2010 11:16 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: No idea where to begin...massive anxiety
Quote: Basically, my problem is that I have little to no experience (one girl), and have no confidence with women at all. I see the women I'm attracted to as “superior” to me somehow, and would never have any interest in me. Confidence will come with some newbie game: the-newbie-mission-vt41556.html Go out and speak to people: sexy girls, old man, ugly woman... whatever: engage them with stupid questions (time, direction, whatever) and try to maintain eye-contact and smile. It will help you a lot. Woman are NOT superior, even if they're hot. If you go with confidence, she'll be surprised to see that you are like her, or even superior. When ready, try some negs and see how they react. Quote: In high school I was ridiculed endlessly for being a virgin at 16 and so I only ever dated the girls at the bottom, the ones no other guy would touch. Then I met the most beautiful girl in the world online. Man, 16yo guys say a lot, but do nothing. Believe it. It's perfectly normal to be virgin a 16, even at 18, even at 20. I'm 23 and I was not even dating at 16. Oh, and she's not the most beautiful woman in the world. If you really think that, you might have already lose her. Quote: We met for real, fell in love and spent the whole summer today (4 months straight). But now the money to see eachother has run out and she's told me its best if we're just friends, even though we're still in love. All the fear and anxiety is back. Though I'm still completely in love with her I think her love for me is fading. I'm sorry about that. If your relation is ending, you should read some post about needyness: me-myself-and-my-damn-needyness-help-vt81644.html and advice-please-vt81604.html . You'll have to deal with your insecurity and avoid AFC mistakes when needy. Quote: I literally have no idea how to get another girl. I'm too afraid of rejection to talk to random girls in bars or clubs. I don't know what to do. There's a bar I go to a lot which has exactly the type of girl I want in it (rocker/alternative girls) but I'm too afraid to do anything. I don't think I'm ugly tbh, most girls say I'm pretty hot, including hot (but taken) ones. I don't feel it though, and that shows a lot I think. But to go from a practically friendless nerd to dating a cheerleader for almost a year has got to mean something... Thing is I'm not looking for one night stands, but to be able to get the type of girls I've always wanted but have always been too shy to try with. Advice? Don't worry, everything will be ok, I mean it. Work on your inner game, get confidence. You're a nerd? Good thing... you'll learn even faster and enjoy it. In highschool/college? Use social dynamics: university-college-general-tips-here-vt27052.html You'll get all the girls you want if you demonstrate value (be popular). Keep the head up. Take a look at this too: from-afc-to-pua-a-learning-jounal-afc-d ... 81510.html and from-afc-to-pua-in-2-months-lets-start- ... 68545.html

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